Revisiting “Unusual” Sunday Scents
by, 29th November 2011 at 07:42 AM (4293 Views)
Back in early 2008, I posted about the fact that I had fallen into the habit of wearing some pretty “unusual” scents to choir practice and church on Sundays. For some context on what I'm about to post now, you can read that post here.
Recently, someone who has environmental illness has joined the choir I sing with. Out of respect for this person’s request, I have refrained from using any fragrance on Sundays. This was a sad decision for me, but I wanted to be generous to a person who was suffering and not inflict further distress. Now it seems that even the soap I use to wash with or some other personal grooming product I use is still affecting this person, and a further request is that I use only unscented products from now on.
Even apart from the inconvenience and expense that would be involved in junking all the stuff I have already bought and purchasing a whole new set of things, I find this request rather too intrusive on my personal life and choices. I have noticed that I am the only person who has been asked to do this, even though I myself can detect scented products on other members of the choir, and I am beginning to wonder if I ought to question the sincerity of the person making these requests.
I do not want to be the cause of genuine distress to anyone, but I wonder how this person can manage to be around any of these other people at all, if the claims of environmental illness are genuine. Could anyone be so sensitive to smells on one person and yet not detect the scent of products that some other people use? Or is it simply a case of my fondness for fragrance having been recognized and making me a target for this person's attention, and now, demands?
I'm not about to quit the choir I’ve sung with for years, and I certainly don't want to cause anyone else to quit; still, I'm feeling singled out for a pretty drastic request to change the way I live, and I don't feel comfortable with that. Am I wrong to think this person is trying to be controlling? It certainly seems that way to me...
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