I like the opening of New Haarlem but after that it goes way downhill for me. A*Men has higher marks in my book for the creativity, complexity and boldness. If you can get A*Men Pure Coffee then you'll have the best of both world. The coffee opening that can stand head and shoulder with New Haarlem and the goodness of A*Men
I think New Haarlem smells better and is an easier wear. A*Men's pretty heavy on a particular type of patchouli (that very obvious, hippie-like patchouli), a note that annoys other people easily and that I find tiresome after a few hours.