The hedonic treadmill (anyone else have this problem with fragrances)

    The hedonic treadmill (anyone else have this problem with fragrances)

    post #1 of 25
    Thread Starter 

    I've just noticed an overall pattern.

     

    1. I go to the store and try a fragrance several times (or I order a sample of the fragrance).

    2. Through several tries, the fragrance is really interesting and exotic.

    3. I then buy the bottle and as I take it home, I really am excited and enjoy it

    4. After a month, my opinion of the fragrance goes down to earth and I'm not really excited about it.

     

    This has happened dozens of times, where I would think a fragrance is really unique and exotic and I liked the mystery of sampling it.  But once I own it, it doesn't feel as special.  No matter what fragrance it is, this seems to be the case almost all of the time.

     

    Does anyone else have this problem?  Is there a solution to this problem?  

     

    I miss being new to this hobby.  My ignorance made me humble to all the options available and trying new fragrances (even the ones I would now call cliche designers) was exciting.  Now though, I know too much about fragrances and even as I try new niche houses the excitement usually isn't there.  I guess I like trying new hobbies to get the feeling of humility, being small in a giant world waiting to be explored.  Now that I know too much, the feeling is gone.

    post #2 of 25
    I'm still very new to this hobby compared to many people around the forum but I do know the feeling of being pumped up about a fragrance and sampling it and testing it to be a bit let down when I have the full bottle in hand. It doesn't mean the scent isn't good but I do know how you feel, hopefully this won't last though and you'll be able to find some new area that reboosts your enthusiasm!
    post #3 of 25

    I've come to the stage where I sample a parfum for 2-3 days before jumping to buy it, guess we all learn from our mistakes?

    post #4 of 25
    I've worn and sampled thousands of perfumes.

    Its become second nature, to me, to determine quality , composition and complexity.
    post #5 of 25

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by noirdrakkar View Post

    Does anyone else have this problem?  Is there a solution to this problem?  

     

     

    It isn't a problem and you're still at the starting point. There are a lot of variables and they work themselves out as you go. The olfactory system is complex and things can fluctuate profoundly over long periods of time, and then keep fluctuating.

    post #6 of 25

    I experience this too. It isn't about the quality of fragrances or your complicated olfactory system. It's about the thrill of the chase. 

     

    Really frequently it's more fun and exciting to want something than to have it. Eventually I think I'll get over it and turn my attention to something else. At that point I'll have a lovely (and probably much smaller) collection. 

    post #7 of 25
    Thread Starter 

    i agree with kagey.

     

    lots of fragrances have that novelty appeal, but after a while, most don't.

    post #8 of 25
    Thankfully haven't had this problem yet.
    post #9 of 25
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by badarun View Post

    I've come to the stage where I sample a parfum for 2-3 days before jumping to buy it, guess we all learn from our mistakes?

    Exactly!

    post #10 of 25

    Sounds like a mixture of compulsion / obsession with a materialistic bias. Studies have shown that most new car buyers lose that sense of "new car" 4 or so weeks after purchase. It's the same with any object / person you are looking to give you that 'buzz'.

     

    Maybe a break to desensitise yourself again and come back at it when some water has passed under the bridge?

    post #11 of 25

    l have noticed this too at times, & l have found two effective ways of avoiding it;

     

    1. Buy decants, not full bottles, to start with. That way a sense of scarcity is maintained, & wearing the fragrance still feels special.

     

    2. Don't "overwear" a fragrance after first buying it. Leave it a month or so & then come back to it again, & you'll probably remember why you loved it in the first place.

    post #12 of 25

     I had the same thing happen to me about 6 months ago. I took a break and didn't wear anything for a month. I came back completely rejuvenated and with more enthusiasm than before. Give your nose a rest, don't think about perfume for a while...You'll either break your addiction/hobby and move on to something else or realize this is something you truly enjoy and return with a fresh passion. 

    post #13 of 25

    It happened to me occasionally, but thankfully, with most fragrances, it wasn't like this so far. Indeed, while the novelty and excitement might slightly wear off, it never decreases much, it only transforms itself in a different kind of interest, fondness, passion, attachment, enthusiasm for a certain fragrance. 

     

    In other words: most fragrances I liked, I also kept on throughly enjoying and repurchasing over the years.

    While the novelty, awe and surprise may not be as intense, as during the first encounter (s) with a fragrance, I mostly still keep on discovering enough facets, subtleties, complexities etc. of a fragrance, to keep my curiosity, interest, keenness for this fragrance alive. 

    post #14 of 25

    If I put myself in your place my first thought is that I want to get more practical with my perfume choices, in terms of wearability.

     

    Try judging based on the drydown or base note, Don't let yourself get excited about a top note, because that evaporates in a half hour anyway. Go for one that smells the best after hours on your skin, blended with your body chemistry. Think of it almost as regular hygiene, more practically.

     

    The idea is that your like for that will be more reliable over time.

    post #15 of 25
    It happens to me too but then after I revisit my trophies (after a month or two) I get the same kind of satisfaction as when I bought it.
    post #16 of 25

    I am quite often in the situation when being in dearly love with a new scent that I fear I could lose interest in all my other fragrances. But after a while of happily overdosing on a daily basis I am glad to returning to my collection and I am appreciating every single perfume once more.

     

    post #17 of 25

    Oh, sure, I've been there and back and been there again!

     

    What works for me:  wait absolutely as long as possible before purchasing the item you are so excited about.

     

    I'm talking car, clothes, home, vacation, a new set of exercise clothes, a book.  It doesn't matter what.  I enjoy immensely the fragrances I waited to purchase.  And I'm talking about months - like six of them (months, I mean).  A serious amount of time - where you delight in the prospect of finally owning the item.  The "newness" wears off much more slowly that way, and in some weird way, you still remember the anticipation of it all and feel happy to finally own it.

     

    With regard to fragrances, that means getting as many small samples in a row as you can possibly tolerate.  As the months tick past, either the anticipation heightens or it diminishes - then you know exactly what to do.  You will be amazed at how insignificant most of them become over that time.

    post #18 of 25