I have had an awakening. Anyone else?

    I have had an awakening. Anyone else?

    post #1 of 27
    Thread Starter 

    Morning BN'ers,

    I travel for my job. I work in mental health and a lot of times the only part of those two words, mental and health, that I deal with is the mental part. I work with duel diagnosed individuals, that can mean borderline personality disorder along with addiction, bi-polar, etc etc. A typical or not so typical gig depending on how you look at it is, I come into my client's home, live with them 24/7 and help them get theirs lives back. Sometimes they are compliant, sometimes they are a nightmare, sometimes I want to flip my lid. I am a Sober Companion/Sober Coach or the newest name is Recovery Companion/RecoveryCoach. I can be gone for two weeks or as long as three months. I said all that to say this:

    Since I'm not really living my own life I'm living their's, because I'm living out of a suitcase not at home and without my collection, I think I buy more fragrances when I'm traveling. I've been away from my home in Los Angeles, five mins away from Scent Bar for 12 days and have spent a total of $600, but what's sick is I have a few more I'm about to buy too. I work in treatment and look at how MY addiction is manifesting. My only defense is...well, my only excuse is, I think it's worse because I'm traveling.

    Thus, my awakening.

    Anyone relate?

    post #2 of 27

    There is nothing wrong with treating yourself after working so hard. As long as you remember if you control your spending then it's nothing more than a enjoyable hobby, but if it controls you then it's a addiction and you probably know well enough where that leads.

    post #3 of 27
    Another way to look at it is that you're rewarding yourself at times & at times indulging in 'chicken soup for the soul'.
    post #4 of 27
    Thread Starter 

    I like it I like it! Thanks boys, lol. I'm about to buy GHP and Tom Ford Bois Marocain. Both blind buys, well actually, I'm buying 4mls first which honestly is a miracle because I really just want to buy the bottles instead. But I'm trying to be good. I wanted to post this in the male and female discussion forum so I could hear from everyone, but am trying to follow the rules. Is there a general fragrance thread? I see "just starting out," "male," and "female." What if a post applies to everyone?

    post #5 of 27

    Well look upon it this way ...there are worse addictions to be had ! :)

    Also you are very near The Scent Bar. I think very few of us would be able to resist that . It's just too good a chance to pass up .

    I suspect your job is somewhat stressful and draining - you put a lot out, if not most of yourself ...out there for others every day .

    This is your escape mechanism , your way of coping . I think you should cut yourself a bit of slack . :)smiley.gif

    post #6 of 27
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    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Mimi GardeniaView Post

    Well look upon it this way ...there are worse addictions to be had ! :)

    Also you are very near The Scent Bar. I think very few of us would be able to resist that . It's just too good a chance to pass up .

    I suspect your job is somewhat stressful and draining - you put a lot out, if not most of yourself ...out there for others every day .

    This is your escape mechanism , your way of coping . I think you should cut yourself a bit of slack . :)smiley.gif

    Amen!! Thank you! Spending that much money stresses me out anyway, but I don't feel that bad about it. However, I have also purchased a iPad Mini in the last week, lol.

    post #7 of 27
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by KimmyMcGView Post

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Mimi GardeniaView Post

    Well look upon it this way ...there are worse addictions to be had ! :)

    Also you are very near The Scent Bar. I think very few of us would be able to resist that . It's just too good a chance to pass up .

    I suspect your job is somewhat stressful and draining - you put a lot out, if not most of yourself ...out there for others every day .

    This is your escape mechanism , your way of coping . I think you should cut yourself a bit of slack . :)smiley.gif

    Amen!! Thank you! Spending that much money stresses me out anyway, but I don't feel that bad about it. However, I have also purchased a iPad Mini in the last week, lol.

    The very fact that you are conscious of how much you are spending and are stressed out by it , shows me ,you are okay ! *LOL*

    It's the ones who don't seem to realize, that I worry about . :) Congrats on both the iPad mini and the scent purchases.

    Truth be told, I would be at the Scent Bar every day too if I were in your position and then gravitate to The Beverly Center which is not too far away from there...... *LOL*

    post #8 of 27
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by KimmyMcGView Post

    Morning BN'ers,

    I travel for my job. I work in mental health and a lot of times the only part of those two words, mental and health, that I deal with is the mental part. I work with duel diagnosed individuals, that can mean borderline personality disorder along with addiction, bi-polar, etc etc. A typical or not so typical gig depending on how you look at it is, I come into my client's home, live with them 24/7 and help them get theirs lives back. Sometimes they are compliant, sometimes they are a nightmare, sometimes I want to flip my lid. I am a Sober Companion/Sober Coach or the newest name is Recovery Companion/RecoveryCoach. I can be gone for two weeks or as long as three months. I said all that to say this:

    Since I'm not really living my own life I'm living their's, because I'm living out of a suitcase not at home and without my collection, I think I buy more fragrances when I'm traveling. I've been away from my home in Los Angeles, five mins away from Scent Bar for 12 days and have spent a total of $600, but what's sick is I have a few more I'm about to buy too. I work in treatment and look at how MY addiction is manifesting. My only defense is...well, my only excuse is, I think it's worse because I'm traveling.

    Thus, my awakening.

    Anyone relate?
    With that demanding job you have, you deserve that fragrance distraction IMO.
    post #9 of 27
    ... and I have an inkling these two new fragrances will really brighten your days. They are really something special - chicken soup for the soul sounds like a perfect description, especially considering the location of your current assignment, so far from home.
    post #10 of 27
    Thread Starter 
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by remikView Post

    ... and I have an inkling these two new fragrances will really brighten your days. They are really something special - chicken soup for the soul sounds like a perfect description, especially considering the location of your current assignment, so far from home.

    I am so excited! Thank you again for getting it out so soon :) I need my days brightened on this particular gig, my client is not a very nice woman, frankly can be straight up nasty....I'm going to let the fragrances take me away.

    post #11 of 27
    Thread Starter 
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by hednicView Post


    With that demanding job you have, you deserve that fragrance distraction IMO.

    Hednic, thank you so much. I was actually thinking about you yesterday, I do not know how you stay so on top of this site and have a life or work. It's incredible. I know I can always count on you for advice and thank you for that!

    post #12 of 27

    I do music production and performance, which sounds like lots of play and good times. Sometimes it's the exact opposite. Fragrance has always been a way to deal with the emotional ups and downs and the erratic nature of the workflow. When I know that a particularly awful week is coming, I often 'gird my loins' by purchasing something on my 'want but probably can't afford' list. When it arrives, I don't open the bottle until the day of the dreaded performance. Then, in preparation (packing the music and equipment, checking the logistics sheets, warming up, and finally dressing), I open up the bottle and apply. It has a powerful centering effect, and on nearly 100% of the performances, all turns out great.

    I have different scents for different events, and even with differentmusicians with whom I am performing. Sure, this has resulted over the years, in a very large collection of fragrances, but I don't regret it one iota.

    post #13 of 27
    I hope you do not take this the wrong way, but I am very much able to relate; which is why I shall speak my mind. What you are doing, even though there is a lot of validation going on, is self medicating. Not the classic "substance, self medicating, but purchasing to self medicate. When I worked in retail, which humorously enough gave my Psych-major background more of a work- out than any clinical studies I did, I was not always feeling...thrilled with existence so to speak. I would make many purchases, thus how I ended up at one point owning all of the L'Artisan and Annick Goutal ranges, along with Diptyque candles galore. Thing was, I did not "love" everything I was purchasing, I did enjoy things, but not head-over-heels love. This was my way of making myself feel better, when my work was not giving me that same feeling. It truly is amazing how much more people will open up and tell you their life's story while looking for lip color or fragrance than they will during therapy. But sadly, being drained by all of this selling/therapy session work made me feel the need to "reward" myself for dealing with it.
    Long story short, since leaving retail, not to mention deciding the psychiatric field was not for me, and not feeling as if I need to reward myself for dealing with work related issues, I have not purchased randomly, nor nilly-willy in a looong time now. Not to mention, I have sold off a lot of my collection on eBay over the years also.
    post #14 of 27
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    Originally Posted by Brielle87View Post

    I hope you do not take this the wrong way, but I am very much able to relate; which is why I shall speak my mind. What you are doing, even though there is a lot of validation going on, is self medicating. Not the classic "substance, self medicating, but purchasing to self medicate. When I worked in retail, which humorously enough gave my Psych-major background more of a work- out than any clinical studies I did, I was not always feeling...thrilled with existence so to speak. I would make many purchases, thus how I ended up at one point owning all of the L'Artisan and Annick Goutal ranges, along with Diptyque candles galore. Thing was, I did not "love" everything I was purchasing, I did enjoy things, but not head-over-heels love. This was my way of making myself feel better, when my work was not giving me that same feeling. It truly is amazing how much more people will open up and tell you their life's story while looking for lip color or fragrance than they will during therapy. But sadly, being drained by all of this selling/therapy session work made me feel the need to "reward" myself for dealing with it.
    Long story short, since leaving retail, not to mention deciding the psychiatric field was not for me, and not feeling as if I need to reward myself for dealing with work related issues, I have not purchased randomly, nor nilly-willy in a looong time now. Not to mention, I have sold off a lot of my collection on eBay over the years also.

    Nice post, Brielle! After taking a break from fragrance, I feel the same way - I am very wary of purchases that are less than ideal. If I don't really want it badly or need it for a project of some kind, I try to step back.
    post #15 of 27

    Brielle- it is so good to have you back here with us. It truly is.

    Self medicating is probably what I have spent some time doing myself ! Stepping back really helped me re focus and I am trying hard not to buy things I don't truly love and be honest with myself about the ones I should keep .

    I don't know if I will ever get there but I would like a maximum of only 5 fragrances in full bottles . ( Back ups of these scents are required though...still being a perfume mad person ! )

    post #16 of 27




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