Originally Posted by Francolino
Good to hear that this isn't a problem for everybody. I'd like to think that the walls have not completely encircled the fragrance-wearing world!
Originally Posted by hednic
Can't say I have ever actually had a situation like what Red had, but If I had, I probably would have attempted to do something similar.
Good to hear this, too, hednic. If it's something you'd do, then I know I was on the right track.
Originally Posted by badarun
Never had a situation like this!!!
Either I have always sprayed just enough (which I doubt) or those around me suffered in silence :)
Or they didn't suffer - or only a small minority suffered.
There was a woman at work (retired recently) who wore something to a meeting once, that was hauntingly beautiful. I never asked her what it was - I decided to just let it be a mystery. But I'm sure that for any person who didn't like it, there were 5 more like me.
Originally Posted by Ken_Russell
None so far, in fact, I almost dislike that most good to great fragrance do not get enough "wearing time" on me (due to a variety of reasons, including: the occasion is simply not there, fragrance-free environments, even myself occasionally realizing that I might over-spray etc.).
Exactly - the great ones simply don't get enough wear time, and it feels like a shame to remove them. I'm a bit of a miser with my Shanghai, and it was painful to remove nearly half of it. But I've had to do it before. Don't remember what it was, that time, but I recall near-sadness at removing something truly great and rare.
Originally Posted by pluran
Sitting in a warm room getting acupuncture, mellowing out feeling the needles, waiting for the energy to move. Rive Gauche pour Homme came alive, stronger with every heartbeat, infusing the place rapidly as many do in warm temperatures in small spaces. Not sure how it affected my chi but it was awkward knowing the acupuncturist and others were getting it, too. Best to wear nothing in that situation anyway. I don't wear the same amount of fragrance as I used to, in private or public. Learned that a long time ago as my sense of smell became more acute and I had several of the same type experiences you're talking about.
My girlfriend came home smelling like something marked its territory on her. Ominous smelling shit. Freaked me out. Couldn't even be around her. Went to her car and it smelled the same way. She wore Jicky. It was 90 degrees and the air conditioner was broken. The smell was pungent and profound. Jicky is great stuff but I told her to never wear it around people again. I've heard others talk about bad experiences with civet in the heat. It's for real.
Very nice to know I'm not alone on this - thanks for sharing those experiences, pluran.
I was wearing beaucoup Antaeus out in the yard, and my wife actually took the time to walk out to where I was working, to tell me never to wear it to work. I have not figured out *exactly* what the problem was (her explanation was very from-the-gut, and almost incoherent), but I sometimes think that she may have detected an animalic facet of beeswax. She is extremely sensitive to civet as well.
Originally Posted by Jack Hunter
I know I have mentioned this before but it seems appropriate for this thread.
I wore Tobacco Vanilla to work in a meeting where the room was small and the air con was on hot. Needless to say the scent bloomed and filled the room with the sweet fragrance.lol I actually had to apologize to everyone and open the door to let the air in the room. Luckily for me everyone took it as something to joke about. After the meeting I do admit I did sneak to the washroom and used my hanker-chief to remove the scent from my chest.
I'm not sure if I ever saw this before, and I always read your posts, so very glad you mentioned it again! This is exactly what I was afraid was about to happen! Looks like you handled it well. My second fear was that I would not do so!!!
Originally Posted by Wingie
Reading others' posts, it seems warmer temperatures are a contributing factor. I'll keep that in mind!
Yes - that does seem like the problem. September in middle America is almost desert-like. It can be chilly at night, and yet the sun can warm things to almost burning temperatures on a clear day. Add to that, the fact that temps are changing, and people are constantly missing the mark as AC goes on and off. This is also the time for a lot of stronger fragrances to come out. It's a recipe for trouble!
Originally Posted by hedonist222
I think it's in our (perfumista) heads. That we've over sprayed.
I'm fairly certain most people wouldn't actively object and hold grudges if they smelled someone's perfume.
Mostly, I think you're right. Our own dream police are far more restrictive than the people around us.
It really shows that conditioning affects even those who consciously reject it, because it frames their thinking at levels that are hard to control. We reject the idea of a loud minority that we can't wear old-school fragrance, but we still subconsciously try to fit in with zero error, and thus fall into the trap anyway.
Originally Posted by hedonist222
Mild paranoia. That's it.
I'll never argue against paranoia. It's live-saving pluses have always outweighed the fragrant deficits in my family!
But I think you're absolutely right - the fear of offending people with fragrance is something of a deep-seated, prior restraint sort of thing.
Originally Posted by iodine
Yes, it has happened to me- and it was me to be ill at ease! (I don't care much for people- colleagues, surrounding me , as long I'm forced to smell their fragrances- generally negligible when not offensive- except for an elegant French teacher, a hardcore Guerlainista....)
Hot weather, no air con, stressful situation (horrible delay in meeting to assign grades to pupils..) and Rubj wasn't just the last scent I wanted to be smelling!!!! Didn't care to scrub it off, I just kept it to maximize the annoyance !
LOL! I love it!
And how I would love to work with a French person or just a francophile who enjoyed some hefty Guerlain sillage!