Originally Posted by CeccaSF
The number one problem that I see in couples that leads to growing apart is too much togetherness, not not enough. Â*Seriously. Those couples who have to go everywhere together, do everything together so it ends up that neither gets to do the things they really want to if the other isn't into it, too? Those are the couples who end up with nothing to talk about except their power struggles. Hassle, nagging, pouting and pay back from her if he takes a night out for poker or a day off for golf and from him: intimidation, argument, guilt-induction and cold withdrawal if she wants a few days with her girlfriend to go to a spa? Come on, be secure enough to give each other some space.
Amen (not the fragrance) to that. I couldn't have said it better myself. That is so true, and it's something i've learned that hard way; after numerous experiences just like that. Actually i'm in a relationship like that right now...It's funny, no one ever means to get into a relationship like that, and no one knows it'll turn out like that. It always starts innocent, there's this new person who you love spending time with and they love spending time with you, and you two are just together all the time...
And then time goes by...and your friends stop asking you to do things, you can't make new friends cuz you are with the gf all the time, then you start to have deep down anger toward her because you've lost all the things you used to enjoy and now you're stuck with her...but it's all you've got...
The more i think of it, the more the myth of Pandora fits!
"Till then the human race had lived on the face of the earth far from all ills, without torment, pain, or dreadful disease, that bring men down to their graves. But now the hands of the woman [Pandora] lifted the jar's heavy lid and allowed them all to escape, planning the bitterest sorrows for men. Hope only remained in a prison she could not escape, under the lip of the jar. She could not fly out, for the woman replaced the great heavy lid. But the other numberless miseries were spread over all humankind." -Hesiod, "Works and Days"
Haha, don't get all mad at me for that, it was only a joke(for the most part)!