Update: Trying to find the non-Tempur pedic pillow that is just like the Tempur pedic is a crapshoot. The closest I came was the pillows at Bed,Bath and Beyond. Target, JC Penney, Kohls, all of them are inferior IMO. The combo memoryfoam/down or memoryfoam/microfiber all compress down just like a down pillow and there is nothing for me to support that crook of the neck just above the shoulder blades, should I lay on my back. The neck roll pillows are either too darn thick, or if they are the smallest versions, too small anyway. I have decided that there are two pillows, maybe three, at Tempurpedic to try.
1. Supreme pillow: Queensized, and has the regular tempurpedic cover and the other side is satin, to keep it cool.
2. COmfort pillow: This one does not compress down as much as the cheapo combination pillows, but since they use individual pieces of the foam, it is softer than the one molded piece. Problem is, it is not much cheaper than the supreme pillow
3. Symphony pillow - at one test in the store, it was the softest and the other time, it sat up higher than the comfort pillow.
I have bid on the supreme pillow at ebay and hope to win it for about $45 cheaper than what it would cost in the store. Sometimes, it pays to go with the original.
Otherwise, Ill just add a second cheap down pillow. They say in the store that they take two weeks to really adjust and that seems only fair, but heck, the neck rolls are useless unless I make myself sleep on my back all the time, and the cheap ones I tried from Kohls, fine like down for the face, but for the back, no better than a down one.