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Do You Ask/Require Your Partner to Wear Scent before Love Making?

post #1 of 25
2/9/07 at 8:26pm
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This post is absolutely not meant to be salacious. Turn it in to that and do so at your own risk. We're all mature adults here and I'd appreciate your responses reflecting that.

Does he/she/it do it voluntarily? Do they wear scent already so it's not an issue? If they do so at your request, do they do so reluctantly, or do they want to please you and do so willingly?

If so, what do you ask they wear? Is it less erotic/pleasure for you if they DON'T, so does it make any difference?

Or does it matter?

For the record, mine does so willingly and it heightens our enjoyment of one another.

Another question...does it matter if it's a casual affair or within the context of a commited relationship?
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post #2 of 25
2/9/07 at 8:41pm
interesting idea...
lets see if it goes down well with the lady

I can see it now
"ok babe... here goes *spray*spray*... now lets wait 2 hours for the awesome dry down"
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post #3 of 25
2/9/07 at 11:43pm
As years go by with you and your partner, your problem will be to ask her to make love before she puts on scent.
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post #4 of 25
2/9/07 at 11:59pm
No, I don't specifically ask, but occasionaly I will give her a massage with scented lotion, and that usually turns out really well...
- Rich
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post #5 of 25
2/10/07 at 12:00am
My on again off again girlfriend doesn't really know what to think of my scent obsession - I've never actually asked her to wear something specific but the last couple of times we were together she asked me if she could wear one of mine (it was Timbuktu once & Dzongkha most recently) I gave her a bottle of Armani Sensi for Christmas (she had mentioned she really liked it but couldn't find it) as well as a decant of Fresh Cannabis Santal and both smell outstanding on her however I've never requested she wear either at any specific time.

Much to my surprise - the last time we were intimate she actually asked me to put on some Tabarome Millesime. Surprised me a bit as it had never been a huge favorite of mine and I rarely wear it. I guess it may be time to replace the quickly dwindling decant with a bottle..
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post #6 of 25
2/10/07 at 12:11am
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No, never! With me strong sillage can spoil the whole excitement!

-T-
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post #7 of 25
2/10/07 at 12:41am
last time this came up, I spilled about 3 ounces of Chanel #5 on her and the dogs and cats in the neighberhood didn't stop their caterwauling for a week. Needless to say she was not amused.
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post #8 of 25
2/10/07 at 6:17am
Hasn't happened yet. I've introduced ladies I've been dating to some of my favorite things for women to wear, but so far they didn't care for them. Therefore I did not get to the question/topic you're inquiring about. (of course, if I end up dating a lady who *does* like one of those favorites, I probably would ask. I'd also buy her the fragrance in question, of course.)
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post #9 of 25
2/10/07 at 7:48am
Ah, this reminds me of one particular evening last summer- an evening filled with drinks and a heavy application of Kouros on her. That was fantastic, but I don't know if I could really expect to repeat that kind of performance- it was a heat-of-the-moment kind of thing.

I have in the past requested Light Blue before bedtime or a date- I absolutely love that stuff on a woman.

A few years ago I was dating a girl who only wore (I seem to recall) cinnamon oil or something similar, without deoderant or perfume or anything else like that. She smelled wonderful, and the strange part was that she didn't smell like cinnamon- her own smell was actually very pleasant and I never did figure out where it came from. I suspect she might have been wearing something besides the cinnamon oil. She always smelled sweet and kind of chocolate-y, even after a long day of hiking. I so envy people who manage to always smell good...



The girl I'm seeing right now has a very comfortable/comforting natural scent, and I've yet to smell perfume on her (although she has indicated an interest in wearing some in the future). I'm still really torn about what kind of scent to get her. I think that in the end I'll settle on a very subtle skin scent like Gendarme, or maybe an oil roll-on.


So I guess perfume isn't necessary in the boudoir, but it can be nice.

-ben
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post #10 of 25
2/10/07 at 8:36am
My SO always smells great unless he has been away from me for several days eating crap food and using different body care products.

He has learnt, through positive reinforcement, that olfactory foreplay is a fast track method of getting what he is begging for (along with the obligatory sweet talk, feigned caring & listening, and purchase of 'stuff')...

My current catnip is Michael Kors Michael For Men and I have been tactless enough to spritz him with it before unceremoniously jumping his bones. Being a practical man he appreciates the efficiency and effect of this modern elixir, enough for him to give the go ahead for me to purchase the biggest bottle I can get.

Luckily, he adores my natural scent so there isn't much worry about appealing to him olfactorally, however, like the dance of the seven veils, a little diaphonous adornment can go a long way. His catnip happens to be animalic woody chypre musks - which I also adore on my chemistry. It is so effective on him that he has actually happily handed me his credit card to shop online with, when wearing such a blend.

Yes men, you have been warned - the female is deadlier than the male...

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post #11 of 25
2/10/07 at 10:00am
Heck no I dont ask about that. Once the ball starts rolling in that direction I roll with it by thinking (and talking) as little as possible.

good grief.

Dave
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post #12 of 25
2/10/07 at 10:17am
What do you guys actually do...set and pick a day & time 3 days in advance. I can't imagine interrupting in the middle of "this" and asking whoever to spitz something on, and I really don't care.
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post #13 of 25
2/10/07 at 10:41am
Errr, let's keep it clean.

I have yet to date someone who gets "turned on" by scents. If she asked, I would wear what she preferred often.....just as I'll wear her favorite pair of my jeans. Even if it was not a scent I particularly liked, I'd wear it for her---unless it made me nauseous.

I have let some ladies know which scents I prefer and a few have been thoughtful enough to remember.
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post #14 of 25
2/10/07 at 10:58am
I love the natural smell of my man's skin more than any perfume. And he, mine, says he.
Though recently I sprayed him with some Gris Clair and it made me feel like snuggling...
And Jasmin Full is soft and warm enough and subtle enough that it seemed to enhance the atmosphere for us recently when I dabbed some on him.
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post #15 of 25
2/10/07 at 11:09am
It has never occurred to me to ask a lady to wear scent before getting down to business.. at that stage I'm just not thinking about fragrance, you know? Although I have noticed on occassion that she's put some on just before and I think cool, she smells as sexy as she looks. But if its not there, I don't think about it and I enjoy the act regardless!
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post #16 of 25
2/10/07 at 11:51am
Thread Starter 
My post may have been a little misleading or unclear.

If you're about to get it on with a one night stand or someone with whom you have, shall we say, an extremely "casual" relationship with, yeah, of course you're not going to blast him/her with a huge stream of stank juice...either before, during, or after.

I guess my question was more aimed at people in long-term relationships/marriages where you are comfortable enough with each other that you can talk about things that turn you on or off...like perfume.

That's why I referred to "love making" instead of "having sex."
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post #17 of 25
2/10/07 at 12:08pm
There's a show on BBC i like, called "Coupling". In one of the episodes, a man and woman have just had sex. He gets up and starts getting dressed. From memory: the woman says,

"Where are you going?"

"My flat."

"Why?"

"Because i live there."

... some chit-chat, and she says:

"We're supposed to be talking ... bonding."

"No, no, that's for before. We've already had the sex, if we go back to the talking you'll feel like we're not getting anywhere."

(haha)

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Can't believe i wrote all that just to say that my preference is for unscented. Fragrance is part of wardrobe. Hair goes down (if it was up), clothes are removed (not everything, not always), and along with them artificial smells if possible.
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post #18 of 25
2/10/07 at 12:11pm
I wear cologne and usually people I date get into that trend as well. I don't think I've ever thought about the difference of her having it on versus off. I don't think it would matter to me so I would deffinately not ask her to apply any before hand. If she has it on then she does, but if not then I'll be just as happy.
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post #19 of 25
2/10/07 at 1:27pm
Love the smell of perfume, ..but it tastes horrible!
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post #20 of 25
2/10/07 at 2:53pm
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Originally Posted by eric

Love the smell of perfume, ..but it tastes horrible!

Haha!

Now re-open the Rijksmuseum, dammit! Next year, is that the story? i'm tired of getting felt up by customs at Schiphol (for some strange reason i don't inspire confidence in the authorities - they always give me that "evaluating" look the way cops and unmarried women do) - but would love to visit the 'dam again. One of my favorite cities.
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post #21 of 25
2/10/07 at 3:56pm
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Originally Posted by eric

Love the smell of perfume, ..but it tastes horrible!



Oh, yes, good point. I had forgotten about this.


My high-school girlfriend wore copious amounts of Coty's Ici, which I rather liked. However, she sprayed it all over her neck and chest, and I would invariably end up with a mouthful of perfume residue. Eventually I came to enjoy the taste in some weird way, but I have to say that maybe sex perfume ought to get sprayed on the parts that won't be kissed- maybe hair or clothing or something.


-ben
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post #22 of 25
2/10/07 at 8:04pm
There is quite a nice film called Kama Sutra (no, it's not a porn film, more a soft romantic study of love in ancient Indianothing explicit at all) and in one scene the concubine readies herself for lovemaking by stepping over small insense pots. She allows her dress to envelop them, before stepping out. I always thought that that was a very charming idea fragrant orientalism at its best.

But in answer to the question: no, my wife is not so into fragrances that she would deliberately put something on, and I don't think she would appreciate being asked. But in the past I have had long term girlfriends who did do this and I LOVED it. I think it's a very sensual, thoughtful thing to do.

(The reciprocal issue: yes, I apply beforehand. Because I think it's a good thing to do.)
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post #23 of 25
2/10/07 at 9:18pm
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Originally Posted by Eluard

There is quite a nice film called Kama Sutra (no, it's not a porn film, more a soft romantic study of love in ancient Indianothing explicit at all) and in one scene the concubine readies herself for lovemaking by stepping over small insense pots. She allows her dress to envelop them, before stepping out. I always thought that that was a very charming idea fragrant orientalism at its best.

But in answer to the question: no, my wife is not so into fragrances that she would deliberately put something on, and I don't think she would appreciate being asked. But in the past I have had long term girlfriends who did do this and I LOVED it. I think it's a very sensual, thoughtful thing to do.

(The reciprocal issue: yes, I apply beforehand. Because I think it's a good thing to do.)

Wow that incense practice you mention is a lovely idea.
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post #24 of 25
2/10/07 at 10:49pm
I do like to slip away at an opportune moment to touch up my perfume ... and similarly, I really enjoy smelling fragrance on my partner. Scent is so intimate.
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post #25 of 25
2/11/07 at 1:40pm
I wouldn't ask (She is much less into fragrance since I've joined basenotes! ) I'd say that she is almost anti-fragrance now... Besides, asking would ruin the spontaneity, now wouldn't it?

Bath and Body Works jasmine vanilla body lotion usually gets my motor running, as does D&G original femme. She knows this, so it's usually a welcome surprise when I smell either.

Paul
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