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post #1 of 24
9/6/07 at 9:38pm
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It seems like every time I go to the club, it is the same story...Countless boring-looking people all wearing the same crap, dancing to music I think is totally stupid. Overpriced drinks I don't even like, chicks walking around like THEY'RE THE REASON their daddy is rich, with their Chanel shades and Coach purses. BFD! You'd really think everyone was just trying to blend in so that no one would talk to them.

I walked out with my friend, disappointed...and he says to me:
"Dude, you're a thousand times cooler than anyone there, and if you didn't have a good time, thats why." I can't help but agree. Tonight was lame. Why do I feel like I am so much more concious when I go to the bar? Its like - Am I the only one who realizes how boring this is?

If you say I"m antisocial, let's see...I can either get all dressed up and go to some lame club I don't enjoy, to listen to music that sucks, and pathetically trick myself into believing that I'm even the slightest bit interested in these stuck up bimbos walking around...or I can buy a bottle of Ambre Cannelle.

Am I the only one thats sick of the bar scene? I know they aren't going to start playing Afrika Bambaataa or Autechre or Squarepusher, and the girls aren't all of a sudden going to become friendly and interesting, so why should I even go?
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post #2 of 24
9/6/07 at 10:51pm
Because you want to meet new people... and sometimes you need to bust a nut.
- Rich
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post #3 of 24
9/6/07 at 11:32pm
I feel exactly the same way. It's so boring to experience this ucci-gucci-we-are-so-entertained-swagger - how-come-you-don't-like?
that I rarely go to bars anymore. When I do, I drink more than I'm used to. The only exception is when there's a concert, then the whole thing makes sense.
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post #4 of 24
9/7/07 at 5:28am
Just going to the wrong places I avoid uppity clubs, popped collars, and short skirts that will end up with vomit on them like they're the plague. The places I go are nice and cheap (make nice with the bartenders and it's even cheaper), laid back, and play great music.

If some place is charging to get in because they think their sofas are nicer than the next place... I go to the next place
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post #5 of 24
9/7/07 at 7:39am
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So I start doing a few "pseudo" breakdance moves - nothing too flashy or enough to call much attention to myself - just to liven up our little circle..(we had just watched two breakdancing videos right before going to the bar). I'm smiling, my friends think its funny, but this one chick we are with turns to me and goes: "oh my gawd, what are you doing? You're like soo cut off~!" and turns her back to me. She was serious, too. I doubt she had ever even heard of breakdancing. It was slightly embarressing and really turned me off to the whole experience even more. Sorry; I guess you're just supposed to stand there motionless and look totally disinterested in everything around you.

Now, I'm spoiled. I'm an only great grandchild, which means that I don't have any brothers, sisters, cousins, or second cousins. I know I must have a slightly undeserved sense on entitlement. But these daughters of rich guys at the clubs just take it to a whole other level. I really can't believe I live in an age where these girls actually believe they deserve $500,000 birthday parties and $7,000 outfits and $2,500 hair extentions, having done absolutly nothing to earn anything in their lives. I'm busting my ass in school, learning everything I can about finance, real estate, and business, in order to drag my self out of the middle class rut, in an area (Detroit) where the economy is god-awful, and these little bitches get to drive around in their luxury SUVs, totally unaffected. Nothing more imortant to do than look good, so that some rich dumbass with more money than self-dignity will scoop you up and shower you with diamonds. Sure, I'm a bit materialistic about some things too I guess. I drive a 96 Grand Am. There's nothing wrong with it, other than it isn't new and cool looking. So I feel like I've got to get a new one or I'll look like I'm lacking. I'm so sick of these stupid games. I swear I'm gonna go buddist and sell all my shit and go sit under a tree. (I'll keep the fragrances, though)

...One of my better rants
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post #6 of 24
9/7/07 at 7:57am
Recently, Buddhist monks took some government officials captive... perhaps the Buddhist scene is livening up!

Yes, those rich little bitches deserve everything they get (Including that annoying rash), because they were born into money, and you were not.
- Rich
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post #7 of 24
9/7/07 at 9:27am
If you're having fun and your friends are having fun, it doesn't matter what anyone with a piss-poor attitude there thinks. You're not there to impress them anyhow... right?

Enjoy yourself, have fun, and if the girls you're talking about would rather just stand around and ooze attitude, then let them.
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post #8 of 24
9/7/07 at 9:56am
I wasn't going to comment the first time I read this thread, but after your second post...

If you "don't care" about these people, then why do they upset you so much?
I think you care a lot more than you want to.

Really, you might want to ask yourself why these "awful people" hold so much power over your good feeling. Venting about people who were born rich driving SUVs while you're in college with a car (however old) sorta reeks of jealousy and sour grapes.

I'm just sayin'.... there are people out there a lot worse off than you. The fact that you have money to buy fragrances (luxury item) and go out to clubs (free time, money to burn) says you're not exactly scraping by yourself
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post #9 of 24
9/7/07 at 11:31am
I agree about these "clubs" and the people being phoney. Can't stand them either. I too hang out in more laid back places, where you can play pool, darts, have a pint of beer, and actually hear and see who is across from you. That said, I must admit I did the break dancing thing one time at a club, had on a white Hart, Schaffner and Marx suit. But in my case the people in the place were spinning me around on the dance floor by my feet, cheering me on. Had a blast. That was during the Saturday Night Fever period though. Wouldn't think of doing it now.

Anyway, you should start visiting more "real" places. I think you will find the women are nicer too......and not as phoney. Give me a girl in Levis over designer clothes any day.

And as you are showing a girl how to hit a pool shot you may just find her asking you what the great cologne you are wearing is.....and will lead into a nice discussion about your hobby and turn her on to it too!
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post #10 of 24
9/7/07 at 12:04pm
And let ME vent about these little bitch-ass rich Basenoters gushing about their Montales, Lutens and Creeds. Makes me sick. Wanna just chase 'em with a bottle of Brut and spray 'em in the face with it.


J/K!!!!
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post #11 of 24
9/7/07 at 6:48pm
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Originally Posted by rentboy View Post

I wasn't going to comment the first time I read this thread, but after your second post...

If you "don't care" about these people, then why do they upset you so much?
I think you care a lot more than you want to.

Really, you might want to ask yourself why these "awful people" hold so much power over your good feeling. Venting about people who were born rich driving SUVs while you're in college with a car (however old) sorta reeks of jealousy and sour grapes.

I'm just sayin'.... there are people out there a lot worse off than you. The fact that you have money to buy fragrances (luxury item) and go out to clubs (free time, money to burn) says you're not exactly scraping by yourself


No, like I said, I'm relatively spoiled my own damn self! And jealous...hell yeah I'm jealous! And there's nothing wrong with that. I'm jealous of the privledge, not the person. The difference is, I have my sh*t in perspective, and I know that I'm lucky as hell to have been given the things I've been given, and having been born into a life as convienient as it is. How can I respect a girl who doesn't understand how lucky she is to be driving a $70,000 car that she didn't have to pay for? (I'm a financial aid student and am conditioned to live on about 20 grand a year, and do so quite successfully, I might add) I mean, I guess I asked for it, considering I went there with my friend who's dad owns an insurance company, and similarly owns a luxury SUV that he didn't pay for...and my other friend, who just inherited roughly half a million dollars worth of real estate and stocks....

When I joined the fraternity years ago, I made some unlikely friendships, which we all deeply appreciate. These friendships cross barriers of class and culture, and allow a person such as myself, a son of a roofer, to meet the son of an insurance company owner. I've got to expect to be around rich people if I hang with my rich friends.

When I get the impression that a girl thinks her purse and sunglasses are her most important assets, it sends me the other direction. I never said these were awful people.
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post #12 of 24
9/7/07 at 6:55pm
I suggest trying to look like David Hasselhoff.

TNMA
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post #13 of 24
9/7/07 at 7:04pm
Love the Hoff! Lol.
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post #14 of 24
9/7/07 at 7:12pm
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Lol, don't get me started again with Hasselhoff...you know where that road leads

I suppose it is unfair and illogical for me to make the connection between this boring, flavorless club experience and rich people. I, myself, obviously want to be rich, but I would have better things to do with my money then stand around looking snooty and unapproachable.

Oh screw it...
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post #15 of 24
9/7/07 at 8:51pm
Hey...just so you know...when I find the club that plays Afrika Baambata and Autechre and the girls are cool, you'll be the first Basenoter I'll call.
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post #16 of 24
9/8/07 at 1:28am
so go down to the hard side of town. see how cool it is, the meat packers in the wee hours. there's lots of parties. Man the best parties arent handed to you like a drink. You have to gut up and go outof your way.

I swear bring your own beer and fingering her in a meat packing plant where no one would here you scream and shes on your back cause you made her cum and she wants to go home with you and thats very drunk and very fun.

ready?
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post #17 of 24
9/8/07 at 10:59am
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Ya gotta ask yerself: "What would The Hoff do?"
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post #18 of 24
9/8/07 at 12:41pm
I have been on meds twice in my life that suppressed my libido (side effect, of course, not taken for that purpose).

Those were some of the most relaxed times in memory. Seriously.

Get on something anything- Chantix, effexor, wellbutrin- just enough to keep your irrational libido in check but not enough to change the rest of your personality.


Spend a week without craning your neck at every passing female and you'll never go back. Unless you like playing that game, in which case I don't know what you're complaining about. You're in a perfect position to get whatever you want IF you play the game. If you don't want to play the game, then you're not going to win. And if you don't care about winning, like me, then life gets a whole lot easier.

Also- why not just throw your own parties, where you have at least some control over who comes over? The true alpha male does not prowl other people's overpriced bars.


-b for bored, just my 2 cents.
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post #19 of 24
9/8/07 at 1:30pm
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Originally Posted by greyhueofdoubt View Post

Also- why not just throw your own parties, where you have at least some control over who comes over? The true alpha male does not prowl other people's overpriced bars.


-b for bored, just my 2 cents.

These parties are the most fun. We've been hanging out in a friend's art studio the past couple of weekends, some of the best times I've ever had.
- Rich
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post #20 of 24
9/8/07 at 1:38pm
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Originally Posted by greyhueofdoubt View Post

Also- why not just throw your own parties, where you have at least some control over who comes over? The true alpha male does not prowl other people's overpriced bars.
-b for bored, just my 2 cents.

agreed and find some one who will f**k you silly for a few weeks and leave us alone! Can you do that at least? Say yes to to the overweight stalker and get it out of your system. It's not good waiting for an engraved invitation.

back to the conversation

sorry if I interruppted

big ups _$R_ i'm aknowledging yer ole wink back there some time ago
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post #21 of 24
9/9/07 at 9:04pm
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Originally Posted by kbe View Post

Ya gotta ask yerself: "What would The Hoff do?"

This is what the Hoff would do: http://youtube.com/watch?v=pgX-hiQdfFw

Seriously though...the bar scene is totally wack. I gave it up a long time ago. However, it is important to note that people are going to have attitudes wherever you go. I have been to some of the tightest spots--excellent music, delicious ladies, cheap drinks, and me--but they were never perfect...unless I had the right attitude. That being said, if you find yourself in a situation where you are totally not digging (i.e., hating) the people/scene/whatev around you, do yourself a favor and check out a different scene. Like you noted, you are worth more than this.
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post #22 of 24
9/10/07 at 5:41am
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I appreciate all the agreement, as well as the bit of critcism.

You're right, I need to find MY spot and work it.

I guess expensive champagne doesn't excite me as much as some people
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post #23 of 24
10/5/07 at 12:25am
I hate the bar scene myself for the same reason but when I do go I never let anyone approve of me for the same reasons you listed.
Go wherever you please, even it is that lame bar where it all seems so whacked. And if a girl says something horrible, say it back let her know you ain't taking shit bacuse you ARE the man. Nobody else's opinion matters. Let others see you don't care of what they think. Do your thing, be geeky, be cool, be flirtatious, be YOU.

And if you need booze to do it, then let the party begin!
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post #24 of 24
10/6/07 at 10:16pm
I'm from metro-Detroit too, and I prefer the smoke-free clubs in Windsor, Canada. They're lot's of fun; however, nothing beats the scene in Montreal IMO ..or any club R$ is at. :P
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