Let's talk about smells and attraction (spawned by the basenote crush thread in the off-topic section). Here are some random thoughts...
I remember there was this one girl who liked me and I thought it could happen, but she had this really really strange BO that I couldn't stand. I realized that it just couldn't happen. There have been several instances where I was just totally turned off by girls' BO as attractive as they were (stupid nose). The attraction plummets the moment I catch whiff of something not that smell-appealing.
Anyway, I secretly want to find a woman who can appreciate fragrance. I got this girl into fragrances. I had neutrally showed her the Serge Lutens line and taught her a thing a two about fragrances. A week later, she tells me that she has been going out to fragrance shops smelling different things (cool!) and finally settled on a scent. She wore it and made me guess... I couldn't believe it, she chose Fumerie Turque. She's been sporting it every day, and man being a 22 year old guy, I don't find girls sporting Serge Luten's in my peer group. She's just so much more attractive because of all this.
I hate the olfactory memory sometimes. Two weeks into my relationship with my former girlfriend, she told me to guess what she had purchased, I guessed correctly and it was Bond No. 9's Scent of Peace (Interestingly, I don't believe to have influenced her into buying it since I never really mentioned Bond No. 9 and I became more attracted to her because of her great taste). But to this day, whenever I smell something that resembles that fragrance, I think of her - it brings me right next to her. I still remember the smells of old significant others. Perhaps my relationships with them weren't as strong such that the olfactory nostalgia is not as strong. But man, this Scent of Peace scent brings back strong, strong memories. Sorry future girlfriend, you can't wear Scent of Peace... well, maybe after a couple years.
Well all in all, I guess when you're passionate about something, you hope that your significant other would be able to be aligned with what you enjoy and support you in it. Turning on the sensitive side of me... *beep* there we go... I can imagine traveling the world, visiting gardens, fragrance houses, fragrance shops, and what not and smelling things together. Everyday she will smell different, but she will have the right fragrance for the occasion and weather that we would be in. Maybe I can help her pick out her SOTD and she can pick out mine. Okay, enough, enough. Wait. Or I can imagine smelling Musc Ravageur on a woman and whispering in her ear in a creepy way, "Do you know that in my fragrance community, one considers that fragrance to be like 'sex in a bottle'? Well baby, I'm wearing Le Labo 31 which is 'sex in a rose garden' (Reference: sloan_8013 http://community.basenotes.net/showp...38&postcount=6, thanks buddy for the great analogy)" We'd get married the next day and have 10 children. Haha.
For the single guys out there, being able to pick out a woman's scent is absolutely attractive (I've been able to do this a handful of times, and I've gotten positive reactions) as with woman's fashion - knowing a thing (especially being able to tell) or two about purses, make up, shoes, and what not can help your game. But hey this is all just bonus points in the game of love.
For the guys (or gals), how does your significant other respond to your love for fragrances? Are you partners in crime? For the rest of you guys, please discuss this whole fragrance vs. attraction thing.
I hope you enjoyed a candid and well for me a somewhat bitter-sweet-yet funny post. For you basenotes darlings who might end up seeing this post, I <3 you.
I remember there was this one girl who liked me and I thought it could happen, but she had this really really strange BO that I couldn't stand. I realized that it just couldn't happen. There have been several instances where I was just totally turned off by girls' BO as attractive as they were (stupid nose). The attraction plummets the moment I catch whiff of something not that smell-appealing.
Anyway, I secretly want to find a woman who can appreciate fragrance. I got this girl into fragrances. I had neutrally showed her the Serge Lutens line and taught her a thing a two about fragrances. A week later, she tells me that she has been going out to fragrance shops smelling different things (cool!) and finally settled on a scent. She wore it and made me guess... I couldn't believe it, she chose Fumerie Turque. She's been sporting it every day, and man being a 22 year old guy, I don't find girls sporting Serge Luten's in my peer group. She's just so much more attractive because of all this.
I hate the olfactory memory sometimes. Two weeks into my relationship with my former girlfriend, she told me to guess what she had purchased, I guessed correctly and it was Bond No. 9's Scent of Peace (Interestingly, I don't believe to have influenced her into buying it since I never really mentioned Bond No. 9 and I became more attracted to her because of her great taste). But to this day, whenever I smell something that resembles that fragrance, I think of her - it brings me right next to her. I still remember the smells of old significant others. Perhaps my relationships with them weren't as strong such that the olfactory nostalgia is not as strong. But man, this Scent of Peace scent brings back strong, strong memories. Sorry future girlfriend, you can't wear Scent of Peace... well, maybe after a couple years.
Well all in all, I guess when you're passionate about something, you hope that your significant other would be able to be aligned with what you enjoy and support you in it. Turning on the sensitive side of me... *beep* there we go... I can imagine traveling the world, visiting gardens, fragrance houses, fragrance shops, and what not and smelling things together. Everyday she will smell different, but she will have the right fragrance for the occasion and weather that we would be in. Maybe I can help her pick out her SOTD and she can pick out mine. Okay, enough, enough. Wait. Or I can imagine smelling Musc Ravageur on a woman and whispering in her ear in a creepy way, "Do you know that in my fragrance community, one considers that fragrance to be like 'sex in a bottle'? Well baby, I'm wearing Le Labo 31 which is 'sex in a rose garden' (Reference: sloan_8013 http://community.basenotes.net/showp...38&postcount=6, thanks buddy for the great analogy)" We'd get married the next day and have 10 children. Haha.
For the single guys out there, being able to pick out a woman's scent is absolutely attractive (I've been able to do this a handful of times, and I've gotten positive reactions) as with woman's fashion - knowing a thing (especially being able to tell) or two about purses, make up, shoes, and what not can help your game. But hey this is all just bonus points in the game of love.
For the guys (or gals), how does your significant other respond to your love for fragrances? Are you partners in crime? For the rest of you guys, please discuss this whole fragrance vs. attraction thing.
I hope you enjoyed a candid and well for me a somewhat bitter-sweet-yet funny post. For you basenotes darlings who might end up seeing this post, I <3 you.
but she doesn't understand my love of them. She really hates the dollars spent on them so I've backed off and just look for swaps now.
. I try to wear ones she's liked in the past when we go out togeather but I still will wear what I like all of the time. We agree on most of them but not always. She insist's on wearing Clinque's Elixer and I can't stand it. Oh well, she's put up with me all this time so I'll shut my big mouth
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Watch out for thorns though. I also suggest working some rose petals into some warm, moist, soil from the garden floor and...
