Originally Posted by kopah
Wear whatever she wants. If she wants nothing, wear nothing. If she wants the fragrance you wore on your first date, no matter how bland you find it, wear that. But remember that, for the rest of your life, you're going to associate this chosen scent with your wedding day. It might be an opportunity to create a new scent memory with one of your all-time favourite frags.
Kopah is so right that it will be a scent memory forever. I wore Dunhill For Men (1934) and I am forever reminded of that great day every time I smell it.
Your two choices - Vintage Tabarome and Derby - are wonderful scents befitting such an occasion. They are very serious scents, and for me, may lack a little bit of sexiness (this depends on you and your wife to be, if she goes crazy over one of them, you have your answer so read no further).
For me, classics with a bit more sexiness include:
Bois du Portugal
Chanel PM Concentree (yes for me I think it has the best of both worlds, the citrus chypre structure of the original with a long lasting sexy oriental base)
Caron Third Man (I agree with Nathan)
YSL Rive Gauche PH
It also depends on likely weather, formality, what's already in your wardrobe etc etc
Having said all that, I want to emphasise that the two choices you've already made are REALLY REALLY good, so if she and you like one of those, go with your original impression.
Have a great day and let us know what you went for!