Welcome to basenotes. If you and your wife enjoy the perfumes you wear, good Sir, then they are most certainly appropriate. But should you feel a desire to thrust open wide the gates to the sphere of fragant copiousness, there would certainly be a number of choices commensurate with your situation.
I would enjoin you to sample the following fine fragrances:
Tabarôme Private Collection (also known as Vintage Tabarôme and not to be confused with Tabarôme Millésime): there is certainly no better choice for the refined, mature gentleman. It is the essence of the English Gentlemen's club. Very formal yet virile indeed.
The house of Creed also offers a very fine smooth leather fragrance which I consider among the best, and which, while certainly suitable for black tie, is more accessible than Tabarôme: Royal English Leather. If you are more venturous you may also try the venerable Knize Ten by the renowned Viennese tailor's, which perfectly captures the spirit of the Central European gentleman of the 1920s.
For a light, fresh fragrance you cannot go amiss with Czech & Speake of Jermyn Street's exquisite Neroli, the perfect rendition of orange blossom for the gentleman. As a matter of fact, all fragrances by this house are highly recommended. Cuba is an excellent, slightly more modern tobacco scent as against Tabarôme, No. 88 is a very fine rose and sandalwood in the English tradition and Frankincense & Myrrh is among the very best scents in this olfactory category.
You are perhaps acquainted with Floris No. 89 which is the epitome of the English gentleman's fragrance. A soft refined floral with refreshing citrus topnotes and a gentle base of woods. Most certainly a fine choice with Savile Row bespoke and a crisp Sea Island cotton shirt.
I would be remiss not to mention a more recent production which has captivated me by the beauty of its ingredients and which bears the name of a venerable Savil Row tailor of yore: Washington Tremlett Black Tie is a simple but immeasurably elegant blend of finest rose oil, saffron and spices.
Last but not least, for a truly refreshing summer fragrance, perfect also after athletic exertions, I know nothing better than Creed's Séléction Verte with its wonderfully crisp and enlivening mint and citrus notes and a gentle nuance of sweet pea. As a short-lived but most invigorating body tonic, I believe Trumper's West Indian Limes are unsurpassed.
We have here only the tip of an iceberg, so to speak, but I am confident you will find some more than satisfactory options among these suggestions and I sincerely hope you will enjoy exposing your senses to these fine concoctions.