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I'm feeling discouraged, and i'd like to vent a little.

post #1 of 22
Thread Starter 
I just need to get this off my chest. Feel free to ignore. I work in a grocery store. It's not the greatest job in the world, but I take pride in what I do and try to give it my best effort. A job is a job, especially these days with the high rate of unemployment(of course, that is until I head back to college).

Today, I was working in produce. Just any normal day, but on this particular day, I was especially try to keep the floor neat(since it was primarily me stocking the produce). I would make an extra special effort to keep everything as neat and as orderly as possible, paying attention to even the smallest of detail. I wanted to be proud of this area when I left it for the day, even if it was just going to be destroyed by inconsiderate customers.

As the day progressed, I got the floor into the shape that I wanted it to be in, and I retired to the back to make up some produce. As I am back there, my assistant manager walks in and asks us why he only has one person on truck(stocking the general grocery items that we got in today). I made the comment, "Don't you have two people, Blah and Blah?" He didn't hear me. He walk back in with a meat packer, they are discussing the matter, and repeats his questions from earlier. I respond with the same question. He says no, Blah left. The meat packer says, "I did all I could, I spared a man earlier today." They both walk back out.

The manager walks back in and says, "*My Name* truck." In front of several coworkers. Two simple, but infuriating words. I know he's the "boss," but a little respect please. At least ask me nicely. Don't be mad at me because the overall manage didn't schedule enough help. I didn't have anything to do with that. It's not that I mind helping him, but a little respect please. Don't peek in and demand I do somethig in two words.

I had no choice really or recourse. I'm a quite person, and I never really stand up for myself. As I was walking out to tell my co-worker in produce that I was leaving, the chubby meat packer, giggled in my face, an exclamation point to my humiliation. I looked at the floor that I had so painstakingly arranged and knew it wouldn't look as good as I had wanted it to. I had to leave it so abruptly, and it really makes me mad, because I wanted to follow through with it and get my job done.

For some reason, this whole scenario got under my skin. Yes, I let it get to me. I begrudgingly threw a tiny silent fit, and went about finishing the truck. Quite as can be. Yes, at times I threw things when no one was looking, but I am weak.

I take a lot of pride in my work, as I mentioned. I usually am the one working the truck, but today I was in produce because someone was sick. When I do run the truck, I try to ensure everything is done, and the stock room is neat and orderly. Sometimes I don't have time to though, but at least I try. I'm tired of all my co-workers not doing the same. I'm tired of them leaving messes for me to clean up, and i'm tired of myself cleaning them up without declaring my disgust to my co-workers. I'm tired of everybody shoving cardboard into an overstuffed baler and waiting for the poor little stock boy to take it out.

Plain and simple, in the words of the great Rodney Dangerfield, "I GET NO RESPECT!"
post #2 of 22
That manager sounds likes he was stressing hard. Still no reason to be mean or short with your staff. Try not to take it personally.
Sounds like a beer would hit the spot right about now.

PM me if you haven't gotten a sample of SDV yet. I'll pop one in the post for you.
post #3 of 22
Yeah you're right it's a very rude thing of him to say, but you just kind of have to take it, since it's your only job and your only option. Maybe you should try to look around and apply for some other jobs when you're not working. He might not give you respect now, but wait until you have another, better job.
post #4 of 22
Thread Starter 
I know it's not much of a deal, but it's just one of those small things that push you over the edge.
post #5 of 22
I've held a couple of grocery store jobs in my lifetime, i know exactly what you're going through. Just hang in there until you can find something better.
post #6 of 22
2.5 years under my belt here so I can relate. Working in a grocery store is truely a thankless job when all management cares about is whether or not one finishes their duties. Recognition is rare unless you are lucky enough to have an exceptional manager, which is even more rare as all unionized grocery stores (which includes almost all chains besides Walmart) are based on seniority and not on merit.

I am also someone who takes pride in my job no matter what it is. I feel that no job is worth doing unless you put 100% of your effort and focus into it. But that's just the perfectionist in me. So from me to you: thanks for keeping your produce dept clean and stocked. I appreciate it when visit a well-kept store.
post #7 of 22
Just wanted to commiserate. Here's a little Jimmy Buffet for everyone who does it well when no one else is watching~


http://www.last.fm/music/Jimmy+Buffett/_/It%27s+My+Job
post #8 of 22
Many people in management can't see past their own immediate crisis; meanwhile, you're trying to balance several tasks and do them all well. Seems to me that you're much better suited to manage than your boss, since you seem to be able to keep track of both competence and kindness at the same time. I wish you were managing the store I often go to. It's pretty clear that employees are treated badly and the abuse and indifference definitely trickle down to the customers. It's dispiriting to be there sometimes. One of the produce guys is great: keeps things neat, knows his stuff, looks at you when he talks. He's a class act, and it really matters. So thanks for making the place humane for some schmo like me who comes flying through at 6:30 PM looking for broccoli. And good luck getting back to school. There are workplaces where your attention and intelligence will be valued.
post #9 of 22
I think you have every right to be really angry, or even furious.

Unfortunately, the most productive thing is to be angry in exactly the way you have been. Not everyone is a good manager. No one is a good manager all the time. Take a breath. Realize the shortcomings are his, not yours.
post #10 of 22
No advice, only sympathy from me. I can say that it happens sooner or later at pretty much any job you have. One truth of the work world, the way good work ethic is rewarded more often than not is with more work and very little appreciation sadly. I work at a place now where I do get rewarded monetarily and get shown more appreciation and it's nice and I am thankful for that despite all the other office cattiness that happens.
post #11 of 22
Life is too short, kick his ass or I will, does he work at Publix or Sweet Bay

Naw, forget it, jobs are too tight today.
post #12 of 22
Who's the better man in this situation? You are.
Others might not realize it, but what matters most here is that you know it. Keep doing the right thing for the right reasons. This is the most important thing to keep in mind.
post #13 of 22
This too shall pass. But I hope things go better for you from now on. And I hope you get back into college as soon as you can.
post #14 of 22
I think you are to be applauded for your restraint. Many a person would have vented their fury in a more confrontational manner. You retained far more dignity than you imagine.
post #15 of 22
ibarney5 - You will make a great manager some day, if that's what you want to do!
post #16 of 22
The manager walks back in and says, "*My Name* truck." In front of several coworkers. Two simple, but infuriating words. I know he's the "boss," but a little respect please. At least ask me nicely. . .

I'm a quite person, and I never really stand up for myself. As I was walking out to tell my co-worker in produce that I was leaving, the chubby meat packer, giggled in my face, an exclamation point to my humiliation. . .

Yes, at times I threw things when no one was looking, but I am weak. . . .

I'm tired of everybody shoving cardboard into an overstuffed baler and waiting for the poor little stock boy to take it out.

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As a cynic once said:

" I no longer need to punish, deceive, or compromise myself. Unless, of course, I want to stay employed."--

*sigh*

ibarney, first of all I'd suggest you stop beating yoursel up at what you perceive to be 'weak' on your part.

OK so Conan, Howard Roark or James Bond would have punched the guy out AND the coworkers with one hand tied behind his back. Let's leave fiction and get back to real life.

ibarney, most of us have had insane bosses, or to be more accurate, bosses that have very, very poor leadership abilities.

In the long run, getting more education and a viable trade or career is best, in the short AND for the long haul, here's a few things you might find useful.

From now on, at whatever job you do,
Insist on being called Mr. (Whatever your last name is) work isn't play with firends.
How do you insist?

By calling the boss Mr.___ and if he doesn't respond in kind politely say " Mr.__ my name is ( your full name ) "
If he then comes back with " So you expect me to call you Mr. (your last name ) too? "
Reply : " Only if you think I deserve the courtesy, sir. "
Do the same with all your co-workers.

This may sound a bit extreme to some, but I think it would really help you.

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Now, In the incident you descrbe, : ( " Your Name----Get in the truck ) I would have been tempted to steal a line from Monty Python and come back with:

" Oh, I'm sorry, boss. Were you talking to me? I thought you had a dog in here"

( Yes, You could get fired.)

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How do you find the will to standup for yourself?

There are many ways but since I brought up Conan allow me one more fictional character and a better role model: The Cowardly Lion in The Wizard of Oz.

If you all remember, he was really quite brave---when it came to defending Dorothy.

When someone berates and insults you like this, he is also insulting and berating everyone who has ever loved you.

You are your mother's son, your father's son, your sister's brother, etc. Get it?

Not a time for violence but for dignity, come what may.

To quote The I Ching: " The superior man keeps the inferior man at a distance, not angrily, but with reserve. "

Just my 2 cents,

Mario
post #17 of 22
You're showing admirable restraint, and in the long run, you will be glad you did. I empathize with your situation. I had a manager who would get like that back in my dishwashing days, but now years later, I'm glad I stuck things out. I have a wonderful boss now. It makes all the difference in the world. You will someday, too. In fact, I think the others are right - you'll probably BE the boss. I sure hope so, because the world needs all the compassionate managers it can get.
post #18 of 22
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Originally Posted by Futami View Post

Try not to take it personally.

That's probably a good advice. Sometimes even otherwise-nice people behave under pressure. Maybe you just caught him on a bad day. Have a beer and sing some karaoke with friends and you'll probably forget it

Sounds like you're quite the perfectionist. One thing I've learned at work is not to be too attached to the work, because it can change any time based on demand.
post #19 of 22
People like your manager are in the positions they are in because of what they are; "a**holes" . I have worked on both ends of the spectrum, in the states here and in France. I find people here who are in these mediocre management positions always take things out on their 'subordinates', I did not deal with this as much in France, (probably because we have work contracts, so a happy employee is better than a pissed off one you can not fire), but in the states most managers attitude (in these type of jobs) is; "You don't like it, find another job." As a manager I never treated my subordinates with anything but the highest of respect, because everyone deserves to be treated with dignity. I
I am so sorry you were treated like this, if I lived in your area I would come to your store and make your manager's life misery. Since I am the customer, he would not be able to treat me the way he would want to, so I would dress him down something terrible. I excel at putting people in there place; not that I enjoy it, but people sometimes need to have a reality check.
Go back to university and keep moving forward, do not look back, and you will never have to face an idiot like your manager again.
post #20 of 22
i used to work in a grocery store that treated the employees like crap. morale was always low. but all of my retail experiences (except one, which went bankrupt in this crisis) were horrendous. all of my managers have been, as individuals, very callous and antagonistic. so what you expressed is part of my routine, but just another day. i dont usually stand up for myself, because when they get in my face, if i do, i usually get in trouble. so im supposed to "shut the f*ck up and do my sh*t" as my managers used to say at the supermarket. when i reported them to the union, they did nothing and got written up for talking to the union w/o permission. anyway....they used to do that to me every day. the day i quit my manager said "the economy is tanking. youll be back." i laughed. he said "see ya round".

so...i feel your pain but have no advice.

i know my story sounds exaggerated, but i swear it is not.
post #21 of 22
Dude I don't know how old you are, but if you want a happy ending read a book. Life is unfair, always has been,and always will be! Life will throw you alot of curve balls, but keep in mind that every once, and a while it will grove you one right down the middle, and when it does swing hard!
post #22 of 22
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Originally Posted by Ron199 View Post

Dude I don't know how old you are, but if you want a happy ending read a book. Life is unfair, always has been,and always will be! Life will throw you alot of curve balls, but keep in mind that every once, and a while it will grove you one right down the middle, and when it does swing hard!

my god, everyone on this community has such an attitude problem. YOU need to grow up. i was was just sharing an experience. i know life is unfair and i deal with it. i dont know if that was directed at me or not, but i just want to say that im allowed to share a story. it reminded me of something that happened to me, and it was written stream of consciously. thats it.
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