Originally Posted by bbBD
Bosati05 - my intent was not to be confrontational (and thanks for the support, fellas) - rather it mirrored the nature of the initial post
. You're right - this is a forum to ask questions, but the initial post was anything but simply seeking to ask for people's insight. My response was as "negative" as your initial post. Here is why"
The title "what's the deal with PMR?" and the comment "can't be pulled off by anyone under 50" are negative
means of seeking commentary and imply that people under 50 shouldn't be wearing the fragrance, in your opinion. "The deal" is always the same with every single fragrance - some people like, some people don't like. The fact that you didn't like it, which is totally up to you - doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it and that other people can't wear it. When you say "what's the deal with..." it is like you're saying "this sucks - what's the deal with
all the people liking it..." Perhaps you don't realize this is how you sound - but now you do. This isn't the first time your posts have been disparaging of fragrances you don't like.
I also posted what I did to dispel the notion that "pulling off" a fragrance means anything other than enjoying it. Too often, people are told "this if for old people" or "this is for young people" or "this is for women" and thus they can't "pull it off" because they aren't in that group. This is a complete fiction - as long as you like a fragrance you can wear that fragrance. My post thus used your comment about people under 50 "not being able to pull off [PMR]" as a jumping off point for educating people who may not realize that "pulling off" is a fiction. Perhaps you were able to learn from my commentary as well.
In the future, the means by which to elicit BNers opinions without
negativity is to ask "what do people think of [fragrance name]?" Instead of "what's the deal with....?" - Likewise not insulting the fragrance in the first post (and thus the people who wear it) is advisable as well.
Finally - the entire premise of your post was odd. What do you think it means when a number of experienced reviewers give something a positive review, and then you don't like it? The answer is pretty clear. In the future you should probably just ask for comments on a fragrances without your own color commentary on it. Whenever I can add value to a discussion, I will. Look at the thread today on vanilla fragrances in which I made nearly a dozen recommendations (to a new member). I will respond commensurate to the level of negativity in the initial post.