BN Demographics: Are You Straight, Homosexual or Bisexual?

Should we call this the 'Adam Lambert' after effect ?

I think I'm asexual -- I f*ck myself sometimes

Just kidding. Straight as a pole here

LOL, good one Amit!

Sometimes I check out the GLBT Social Group before I say something extra friendly/flirty, just 'cause I'd hate for my innocent coquetry to fall on apathetic ears. Except in Galamb Borong's case. All that cuteness and tall, Tall, TALL to boot! Too bad he's gay. Oh, wait, I'm married. Good thing he's gay!

Straight.

There is a Rammstein song about that called Zwitter

I'm straight! It'll be interesting how this poll turns out

straight

What about Omnisexual?

Strictly hetero, but quite comfortable in 'mixed company'.

Interesting and unexpected: as of this post, the respondents are 100% hetero.

Honestly, I expected a bit more diversity.

Straight for all intents and purposes, married also. But, have gone out with girls in the past. I appreciate and am attracted to beauty and spirit without thinking of the context. I can be attracted to a beautiful woman or a handsome man. I can be mentally attracted to a homely woman or man. I never really believed in the limitations imposed by labeling myself this or that. How very European of me, n'est pas

Yeah, we have had these similar polls in the past here and, I am very fed up with these. Why?
Just because they are very misleading in a way: At least with active members (but also in some less active) we have much more gays than these polls seem to indicate.

For some reason they dont have the need to participate in these threads.

I have a flawlessly working gaydar (it is well known for its accuracy) and I tell you if every gay men would come out in Basenotes it would be some massive crowd.





And oh, I am straight. Seriously.

Ditto.

Same here.

I thought you said your "pole" is straight?!

I just fixed that I'm great with spelling but homonyms always find me.. I hate them

All things aside, my pole is indeed straight.. and I too am fine with anyone and everyone

Deja vu!

Check out:

http://community.basenotes.net/showt...light=lollypop

I believe Teflondog had the best post

Cheers,

Mario, straight and quorumphobic

Married since I was 19 to my hubby, whom I have been with since I was 17. I think that qualifies me as straighter than straight. Possibly boring and sheltered as well. I notice beauty in other women but never in an attraction sort of way. More of a "I hate her guts and wish I had her ass instead of mine which has a little too much junk in the trunk these days" sort of way. Hehehe, just kiddin'. I never really hate them but on occassion someone too perfect makes me sick!

I am no expert in designing polls, but if you really intend this one for drawing any conclusions then maybe you should keep in mind:
1) your sample is not random, people chose whether to answer or not to the poll, and perhaps some groups are more inclined than others to participate.
2) if you'd like to make it a bit more accurate, you should not reveal the results until you close the poll. People might base their decision to answer on their expectations about the results. Hypothetical example: a gay person notices 50% have already said they were gay. This person thinks only 30% of BNers are gay. So he/she might decide to either not answer at all or simply answer something other than "homosexual" just to bring the results to something that seems more realistic to them.
Well..probably this poll is just for fun and I am being overly pedantic. But THEY made me think like this!

I belong in this group as well.

I have gay friends and have had a number of gay employees.

And another objection, darkdreams: what about the ones who don't self-define at all? Whether consciously or simply because they don't attach value to such a binary system to describe a sliding scale.
That sounded detached and objective, right? No sign of my opinion shining through there, no?
Aw hell, I give up. I'll vote for "still deciding".

Huh, I did not think of that, veuve. Makes sense.
Also, maybe "I hate sex (and people in general)" would get a few votes, too.
Or "I forgot".

How can someone be "still deciding"? I just imagined it was sort of hardwired in the brain, at least for me it is. lol

Unlike PigeonMurderer, my gaydar is completely defunct - considering where I live, this is a handicap for a straight girl. Actually it rarely occurs to me to even wonder this about people, I'm pretty oblivious.

Nvm... off-topic.

I agree, I was surprised to see that people had actually voted "still deciding." Maybe I'm missing something.

As for me...I've liked girls from the start. My first crushes were Catherine Bach (aka Daisy Duke) & Scarlet from the G.I. Joe cartoons. I had to have been 3 or 4 at the time, lol.

For darkdreams: Opinion polls can sometimes influence the behavior participants. The various theories about how this happens can be split up into two groups: bandwagon/underdog effects, and strategic ('tactical') voting - when people vote, out of sympathy.

I have a sympathy for gay people. So I can vote "gay". I have a choice (true or false). But I want to be honest here, so I vote "heterosexual".

There are possible errors made in a statistical decision process (false negative or false positive).
BUT
<<In statistics, a result is called statistically significant if it is unlikely to have occurred by chance. "A statistically significant difference" simply means there is statistical evidence that there is a difference; it does not mean the difference is necessarily large, important, or significant in the common meaning of the word.>>

We didn't mention Asexuality (Wikipedia: "sexual orientation describing individuals who do not experience sexual attraction or do not have interest in or desire for sex sometimes, it is considered a lack of a sexual orientation. One commonly cited study placed the incidence rate of asexuality at 1%. Asexuality is distinct from celibacy, which is the deliberate abstention from sexual activity. Some asexuals do have sex."
and Sexual abstinence (Wikipedia: "the practice of voluntarily refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity")?

LOL and LOL! And I agree with the person who said "asexual" should be added. Or maybe just "not interested".

and then there are those of us who like skewing polls just for the fun of it...

and we are more than two standard deviations greater than the mean of

LOL and I thought I was being pedantic.
Yes, yes, I know how phrasing the question can influence answers (but hopefully not the rather unambiguous ones). I took Marketing and Psychology and a few others and sometimes I use poll data in my research and I had to teach Statistics for a while. I even collected poll answers back in college. I live to find problems with datasets!

What! You mean the 4 people (thus far) who checked " still deciding. " are putting us on?

Cheers,

Mario

What we need is an article on how to get her commited...

Straight and monogamous. And yes, I like sex.

I know, I am the boring, self-categorising here. Sigh.

I've been reluctent to post to this thread being a very sensitive and personal issue for me. Growing up I viewed gays as sick people who just had terrible sexual encounters with the opposite sex. My views came from my"Catholic" parents and school ground chatter. But I still wasn't convinced as to the truth to this theory. I considered it contempt prior to investigation. So I experimented with both sides of the fence to come to my own conclusion. Even though I can view some men as attractive, my preference is women for intimate encounters. However, as of lately, I find that sheep have alot to offer in the long run. That being said, who gives a sh*t.....

At the moment, like Amit, Asexual, but I pray my heterosexuality returns to me again someday.

I notice beauty wherever it may be, in any form or shape. May it be woman or man. I've never had any sexual attraction to men in the past though, I just know whether a man is attractive or not. Now an attractive woman would be my achillies heal in this life. I thank God that he gave the world such beauties, although I've learned that not all of them are beautiful on the inside too.

Very comfortable in mixed company. I have family and friends who are gay and proud. I've even had the pleasure of observing a Pride Parade with some friends! It's kind of sad that there were so many attractive women who weren't attracted to men attending. Oh well...

I am 100% gay. But I am tolerant of those who aren't.

I think I speak for all of us Breeders when I say thank you for being understanding and tolerance of those of us who are different.

Only women give me those funny feelings in my body, that make it hard for me to stop looking at them. I assume that means I'm straight. However, I enjoy close mental and spiritual relationships with many people, regardless of sex, sexual orientation, or marital status. And I wear too much fragrance, and fragrance that smells like what women wear. Some people would say that makes me gay.

It was only when I no longer cared exactly how others viewed my sexuality, that I truly became comfortable with whatever I am, and realized that - in a moral sense - the truth of whatever we are is far more important than the coordinates that we attempt to assign to the system.

I love fragrances, shoes, art, working out, dressing up immaculately, Pet Shop Boys, and boobs

I am and voted straight but I think this poll would make more sense if it also discriminated based on gender, so:

still deciding!
straight male
straight female
gay
lesbian

I believe this because it's simply more socially accepted for straight women to have perfumes as a hobby than it is for straight men, so I think the presence of the women biases any inferences one could draw from the current poll.

... sorry, off topic

I heard that most curve.

Hehe... so I'm a "outed" asexual concealing a "closeted"... straight !

No, honestly, my (strictly "that" kind) experiences involved only the opposite gender, so it means I'm straight, although with long periods of no feelings or desires towards any gender. However, even if, yes, it might cause an outrage, I do appreciate beauty, closeness, charm, wit (but far more than just outer and/or physically attractive qualities) in any gender and sexual orientation without immediate or even existing desire for "consummation". I can imagine far more a spiritual, mental closeness, as other straight posters with gay acquaintances and friends have pointed out. Yet again, I'm also fully aware that all these choices and preferences- not just the sexual or emotional ones- are extremely fluid (how European of me to think that, I know) and that in fact, even if my theory is debatable, very few people are "exclusively one way" or "exclusively the other". Because even if they don't act on their impulses to experience "something different" and won't do it for good, it doesn't mean that some degree of curiousness, desire or interest does not exist, however present only at minimal values. I also think that that love and physical attraction, not to mention emotional and intellectual connection of other than sentimental or physical, hardly ever choose and tend to exceed the narrow boundaries of pigeonholing "labeling".
This is just my humble opinion, it might create a scandal here on this post and swiftly move up (or devolve) to the category of "hot topics", but then again, although my initial impulse was to say no comment (and thus not to offend or to shock), I later on said to myself, "Well, it's everyone's right to speak openly and to express his/her/it's opinion." Excuse this rather old-fashioned digression again, starting out from a simple demographic question and ending up into a rather stuffy, almost political discourse (although it wasn't my intention, I simply happened to get to such perspective), but I had to show more courage and determination than just to shrug it all off with a way to inexpressive and nondescript "no comment" or "I keep my own opinions to myself".

Yes, and I do have both male and female acquaintances who are openly gay or bi, I'm quite comfortable in their presence, but trust, for me, from my male perspective, my gay or bi female friends are (at least in my opinion) significantly hotter...

I'm straight, the only hetero out of 3 siblings. My 2 children are both gay and bi, as I explained elsewhere on the Gay pride month thread. I have a very strong sexuality, and my husband says that if I had been born gay, I would be VERY gay. I think that's a complement?

And where's the tri-sexual category?

BWAH HAHA good one.

i like boys. let me make that men.

... and the bestial!?

I still find it amazing in this day and age we all feel the need to categorize ourselves and others. I am attracted to men and woman, but I would never say oh, I am bi-sexual. Because the attraction has been there at different times.
I guess I am just attracted to beauty and personality, regardless of the vessel containing it. I think a majority of people feel this way, but feel they have to decide and make a lifelong decision and pigeonhole themselves. I am married to a man, but I still may feel a close attraction to females and that is great and that is life.
I am just me!!!

and this is the second time I am posting here, so "no more labels"

I don't like labels, either, Brielle. Categorizing by its very nature limits thought, spirit and creativity, regardless of one's choice of partner.

Exactly! So, come on! Give us a tri-sexual category...

Sexuality is more a gradient than it is a category. The poll should probably have more choices eg a 1-10 Gay Scale where 1 = straight, 5 = bisexual, 10 = gay, and 15: tri-sexual.
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Amit: "Asexual is not the same as I f*ck myself sometimes". Asexual is someone who doesn't like sex. I think you're referring to yourself as "Auto-Sexual".

So you want to bust out of categorization by making another category....?

I m 1000% straight and 1000% male chauvinist. Something else?

Eh, not necessarily. Asexuality is defined as experiencing no sexual attraction OR not deriving pleasure from sex.



A smidgen less defensiveness?

Geez, the testosterone is really flying around lately...

Did you know women are 60x more sensitive to testosterone than men? If you French kiss with a guy, the testosterone that comes with the saliva is supposed to turn you on.

Huh, that's an interesting factoid...

yeah, and what about try-sexual??

Hetero...but should Salma Heyak or Tori Amos show up and find me hot, I might swing the other way for the evening. Jus sayin.

hm, so it's the testosterone that makes those kisses so great

I'm straight, but it wasn't my idea. It just came over me one day and I kind of stuck with it.

I think maybe it only works if you like the smell of his armpit sweat, lol.