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post #1 of 46
9/11/09 at 9:47am
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I am..

I started going clubbing when i was 16 and i have been going about once a month sometimes more since then. I'm 26. But for the past year i've been really getting tired of going to clubs. I rather have a have a nice cold one with a few good friends in a nice comfortable pub/bar. I can hardly hear myself think not to mention talk when in clubs. I'm not sure about other countries but drinks here are generally very expensive. Malaysia is a Muslim country so tax on alcohol is very high. Then there's the puke on the floor, drunken fights and raids by police. Raids do happen here because the authorities want to clamp down on Muslims consuming alcohol and the druggies. I'm pretty safe because i'm neither Muslim nor a drug user. But the urine tests are a hassle. My friends called me just now asking me out for clubbing in town but i said no. i just recalled all the hassle that comes with clubbing and felt sick and tired of it. Maybe next year.
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post #2 of 46
9/11/09 at 9:57am
Clubbing is trying not to dance like a goof in front of everyone while everyone is not noticing you because they are too busy trying not to dance like a goof themselves.

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post #3 of 46
9/11/09 at 10:15am
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Clubbing is trying not to dance like a goof in front of everyone while everyone is not noticing you because they are too busy trying not to dance like a goof themselves.


It helps not to care what other people think

@Jonny: I like clubbing, but around here we're not subjected to raids etc. I like to dance and I like the fact that people generally put some effort into things - clothes, haircut, appearance in general...
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post #4 of 46
9/11/09 at 10:18am
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It helps not to care what other people think

@Jonny: I like clubbing, but around here we're not subjected to raids etc. I like to dance and I like the fact that people generally put some effort into things - clothes, haircut, appearance in general...

I won't mind going once in a while but sometimes i wonder how some of my friends can go clubbing 2 to 3 times a week.
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post #5 of 46
9/11/09 at 10:50am
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Raids... I know what you mean man...

I used to once a week, either a Friday or Saturday, but haven't clubbed in over a year.. no particular reason, just haven't felt very in the mood for it..

BTW ALL CLUBS here are SMOKE-FREE now LOL
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post #6 of 46
9/11/09 at 11:23am
I think to some degree getting tired of that scene is just part of growing up. Not that you still won't enjoy it once in a while, but you grow, you change, your interests expand, you want more variety in life. I love dancing, but the meat market aspect, not so much.
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post #7 of 46
9/11/09 at 11:57am
I hate loud music, I don't drink, and I can't dance. I have enough self-preservation to know to not even step into a club. I'm twenty-two, but I sometimes think I've skipped modern-day "youth" altogether - my idea of a "hot date" consists of a stroll by the ocean and meaningful conversation.
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post #8 of 46
9/11/09 at 12:49pm
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I hate loud music, I don't drink, and I can't dance. I have enough self-preservation to know to not even step into a club. I'm twenty-two, but I sometimes think I've skipped modern-day "youth" altogether - my idea of a "hot date" consists of a stroll by the ocean and meaningful conversation.

I completely echo, but only the age part, I'm now only 18.
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post #9 of 46
9/11/09 at 1:01pm
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I won't mind going once in a while but sometimes i wonder how some of my friends can go clubbing 2 to 3 times a week.

It also helps that a lot of bars here in my town are of a sort of hybrid form: they look and feel like they are old-fashioned pubs, but there's music (not too loud) and there are dancefloors. Then there are the true bars and the true clubs, so it's very easy to go from bar to hybrid to club and back again if you get tired of the loud music or the meat market
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post #10 of 46
9/11/09 at 1:11pm
It does sound like a hassle where you are -urine tests, police raids, but you're too young not to enjoy it still on occasion. Take a break for a while. Then maybe you'll be in the mood to blow it out again some night. Moderation! One day you'll be my age and enjoy staying home reading or having dinner with your spouse/significant other. Going out to dinner somewhere will be a big treat.

p.s. We're usually in bed by 10 pm!
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post #11 of 46
9/11/09 at 1:24pm
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Originally Posted by Galamb_Borong View Post

I hate loud music, I don't drink, and I can't dance. I have enough self-preservation to know to not even step into a club. I'm twenty-two, but I sometimes think I've skipped modern-day "youth" altogether - my idea of a "hot date" consists of a stroll by the ocean and meaningful conversation.

I'm completely with you GB, except for the drinking. However, I drink for the taste, not the alcohol, which alienates me from that scene just as much. Jagermeister, neat, at room temperature, please.
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post #12 of 46
9/11/09 at 4:20pm
wow! Urine tests!?!?!? And I thought clubbing in Miami was harsh.

I don't enjoy clubs all that much but for different reasons. I'm spoiled. I used to DJ so clubs for me aren't as fun as they used to be. Unless I don't have to wait in line and get in free I usually won't waste me time going out. Unless there is a DJ I want to see. most of the times I can't stand the music. Sorry I don't want to hear the latest Pitbull song. I don't drink so the going rate of $14 drinks doesn't bother me that much.

I recently went to see Infected Mushroom and I wish I hadn't. We were on the list but some how th door person couldn't find our name and wanted us to pay. It wasn't untill I got the promoter on the phone and he told her exactly on what page out names were on that she relented. Lol then we got inside and the sound was horrible the drinks were $18 and the music sucked. The only nice thing I can say was that the bathrooms were nice. So yeah I think I'm a little over clubbing. Sorry for the long rant.
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post #13 of 46
9/11/09 at 9:11pm
I agree. 2008 is probably the year where i've exhausted/bored myself from too much clubbing. No issue of raids here, seriously, but I just got bored.
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post #14 of 46
9/11/09 at 10:23pm
I got burned out almost 10 years ago. A few months ago I decided to hit a few clubs downtown Vancouver and didn't have a whole lot of fun. Expensive cocktails - if there was any alcohol in them whatsoever, obscenely loud (and awful) music and aggressive crowds. I don't have much desire to do it anymore.

Like G_B I'd rather enjoy a quiet walk in a scenic setting, good conversation, maybe over a coffee and a bit of quiet music.
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post #15 of 46
9/11/09 at 11:01pm
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Looks i'm not alone. Seriously the raids here are quite irritating, I've been through a few of them. The problem is that everyone gets their urine tested. It's no more done randomly most of the time. However foreigners get off easily by just showing their passports while we locals get tested. The last time i went through one of these raids, the police came in at 130am and i only got out of the club around 3am. To make things worse, the ones that get tested positive get hancuffed together and thrown in the middle of the club where they usually get photographed by the press. Luckily my face has not appeared in the next days papers yet It's not only the cheap dodgy clubs that get raided, even happens to the expensive classy ones too.
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post #16 of 46
9/11/09 at 11:42pm
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I love classic moments, when a raid happens, and ALL the lights suddenly go ON, and everyone looks stunned... especially those on MDMA...
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post #17 of 46
9/12/09 at 1:13am
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I love classic moments, when a raid happens, and ALL the lights suddenly go ON, and everyone looks stunned... especially those on MDMA...

LOL..

and the girl a few tables away doesn't look so hot anymore once the lights come on...luckily she still smells good..

When the lights come on everyone sobers up quite quickly
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post #18 of 46
9/12/09 at 3:05am
LOL Funny one . )

@matthew: when im there be sure to take me out to a few nice clubs and introduce me some hot singaporean girls mang
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post #19 of 46
9/12/09 at 5:40am
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post #20 of 46
9/12/09 at 10:04am
I stopped in 1982 and I'm still sick of it!
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post #21 of 46
9/12/09 at 10:40am
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Nah, not yet, probably because I don't do it very often. I usually prefer a night simply spent talking and hanging out with friends, but if we decide to go out to a club I'm up for that too. Usually if we are going to a club we'll get together a couple hours beforehand for drinks to avoid the killer drink prices, then at the club it's just straight to the dancefloor with no detours to the bar. If I did this several times a week or even every weekend I would probably get bored of it, but every once in a while if I'm in the mood for it there's nothing like getting on the dancefloor and going wild.
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post #22 of 46
9/12/09 at 1:08pm
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every once in a while if I'm in the mood for it there's nothing like getting on the dancefloor and going wild.

I agree, I LOVE going out dancing. And I did my fair share of partying my late teens/early '20s, but eventually there comes a time when it's a good idea to take a step back. I say try to have a balance and enjoy it responsibly and in moderation. I find it's also good to be picky about how often you go out and where (I've always hated meat market-type clubs, I avoid them like the plague). My worst nights out have always been when I've gone just for something to do because all my friends were going.

I'm at the age group where everyone is getting married and starting to have children. I'm not ready to embrace that next stage of life yet, and my days of all-nighters are definitely behind me, but I still go out every now and then when I hear about a good event or DJ in town. There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying no to your friends and having a quiet night in, but at the same time if you truly feel like it, go out and enjoy, life's too short
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post #23 of 46
9/12/09 at 4:15pm
I'm lucky enough to live right next door to a nice lil quiet gay bar. When I go out w/ friends we usually go there or another quiet(er) gay sports bar downtown. I've been way over the dance clubs in town for years. I don't like the crowds, cover charges, loud music, spastic strobe lights, & long bathroom lines.
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post #24 of 46
9/12/09 at 7:49pm
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Clubs here have been pretty lame for a while now.... However, there are tons of quality underground parties in secret locations that I still love going to... I don't go out nearly as much as I used to, and that's probably why I still enjoy it as much as I do... I'm also very discerning about what I go out to... I think part of the battle is to know what works for you and not go out "just because". Otherwise it is very easy to burn out...
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post #25 of 46
10/30/09 at 9:57am
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I am..

I started going clubbing when i was 16 and i have been going about once a month sometimes more since then. I'm 26. But for the past year i've been really getting tired of going to clubs. I rather have a have a nice cold one with a few good friends in a nice comfortable pub/bar. I can hardly hear myself think not to mention talk when in clubs. I'm not sure about other countries but drinks here are generally very expensive. Malaysia is a Muslim country so tax on alcohol is very high. Then there's the puke on the floor, drunken fights and raids by police. Raids do happen here because the authorities want to clamp down on Muslims consuming alcohol and the druggies. I'm pretty safe because i'm neither Muslim nor a drug user. But the urine tests are a hassle. My friends called me just now asking me out for clubbing in town but i said no. i just recalled all the hassle that comes with clubbing and felt sick and tired of it. Maybe next year.

You're getting OLD!

j/k

I'd much rather sit and have a beer with friends in a relaxed environment rather than deal with the blood sweat and drama that goes along with clubbing
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post #26 of 46
10/30/09 at 12:52pm
Quite regularly until I was 17-18, then infrequently until the age of 24, and now I don not miss it that much.
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post #27 of 46
10/30/09 at 1:12pm
I can probably count the number of clubs I've been on two hands. Each time, I walked out a) with a pounding headache, b) lacking any vocal strength and c) very, very annoyed.

I consider myself social. I like concerts. I like bars. I like parties. But I hate clubs.
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post #28 of 46
10/30/09 at 1:21pm
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post #29 of 46
10/30/09 at 1:54pm
Look at "old people" over the age of 30 or so. Maybe they have a kid, maybe not. But they probably love quiet evenings at home, and not because they can't go out, but because peace and quiet are also wonderful things.
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post #30 of 46
10/30/09 at 5:11pm
I'm the same age as you, and the days when I got excited to go out to a club have long passed. I go just 2 or 3 times a year now, usually only for a special occasion like a birthday. It's just not worth the long lineups, ridiculous cover charges and ripoff drink prices. Plus clubs make me feel so old when I scan the crowd and think, I could have babysat all these kids here!

Anyway, I don't miss it. My friends and I aren't the types who go places to see and be seen... we'd much rather throw together a potluck dinner and watch So You Think You Can Dance than spend the night yelling in each others' ears over crappy music.
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post #31 of 46
10/30/09 at 5:16pm
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Who's Sick of Clubbing?

I am! And I don't even go!
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post #32 of 46
10/30/09 at 6:37pm
I sneaked out to clubs at 15 and briefly worked in them. I got pretty sick of it all by the time I turned 18 and decided to save the money for shopping instead.
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post #33 of 46
10/30/09 at 7:04pm
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Look at "old people" over the age of 30 or so. Maybe they have a kid, maybe not. But they probably love quiet evenings at home, and not because they can't go out, but because peace and quiet are also wonderful things.

My girlfriend and I are both well over 30, and still go out once (sometimes twice) every week, usually into either Hollywood or Downtown L.A. We don't go out until around 10pm, and usually don't come home until after 2am unless one of us is working the next day. We meet new people all the time, and even occasionally run into her son and his girlfriend while we are out. We're almost always older than the people we see in the clubs. Sometimes the really young kids don't know what to make of us, but we don't care.
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post #34 of 46
10/30/09 at 7:14pm
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My girlfriend and I are both well over 30, and still go out once (sometimes twice) every week, usually into either Hollywood or Downtown L.A. We don't go out until around 10pm, and usually don't come home until after 2am unless one of us is working the next day. We meet new people all the time, and even occasionally run into her son and his girlfriend while we are out. We're almost always older than the people we see in the clubs. Sometimes the really young kids don't know what to make of us, but we don't care.

That's a great attitude!
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post #35 of 46
10/30/09 at 8:51pm
Well, what do you guys do on a Saturday night if not clubbing? I'm well into my 30's and need a night out to let out steam as it were. Can't stay at home all the time.
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post #36 of 46
10/31/09 at 7:20am
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Well, what do you guys do on a Saturday night if not clubbing? I'm well into my 30's and need a night out to let out steam as it were. Can't stay at home all the time.

You could do what my friend Johanna's mother told her years ago...go to the Polish dances at church.
We had a giggle over it then, but actually Polish (and Irish) dances are a LOT of fun. I'm just teasing you, though. Of course you need a night out now and then to blow off some steam! If you like going to clubs, then enjoy! Hubby and I stay home a lot because we're natural homebodies and we like each other's company, but even we have to get out now and then. We're just not into clubbing (and I'm 51, he's 49). We go to restaurants, an occasional movie, stuff like that. Usually, though, we fall asleep pretty early, as we are early risers. And here I am at 51 going to church events, too. There's a Fall Festival at our church today, which I'm looking forward to. Then the hoards of kids will come trick-or-treating. Later in the evening we'll have our annual Halloween block party...everyone is invited. There's always something interesting to do if you go out and look for it. I suppose if you're out at 2:00 a.m. the only thing open are clubs, or all night diners. I can't keep my eyes open that long.
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post #37 of 46
10/31/09 at 8:25am
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You're getting OLD!

j/k

I'd much rather sit and have a beer with friends in a relaxed environment rather than deal with the blood sweat and drama that goes along with clubbing

Yeah i guess i am.

I once saw a Chinese lady in her late 50s or early 60s doing "the hustle" in traditional Chinese clothes. I thought someone had spiked my drink when i saw that. A few guys young enough to be her grandsons joined her doing the dance It's amazing sometimes the things that happen during clubbing.
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post #38 of 46
11/1/09 at 9:40am
I only went to clubs to hear good live music and still prefer that venue over a large concert, but other than that, no. I'd rather hang out at home with friends or parties outdoors with good food. I don't drink to get drunk, so being around other drunks is pretty distasteful too. If I do go, I try to stick to places that aren't so low rent you find fights, whores and puke on the floor.
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post #39 of 46
11/1/09 at 10:16am
Been there done that. Nowadays I prefer a mildly boisterous gathering at a sports bar with friends instead of a claustrophobic, strobe-light infested dungeon with mind-numbing harsh german techno blaring at a trillion decibels.
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post #40 of 46
11/1/09 at 10:41am
Only go when Paul Oakenfold or Donald Glaude are spinning I live near Ybor City which is club city, just like South Beach..
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post #41 of 46
11/1/09 at 12:01pm
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A claustrophobic, strobe-light infested dungeon with mind-numbing harsh german techno blaring at a trillion decibels.

This is how I spend most of my Friday nights.
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post #42 of 46
11/1/09 at 3:32pm
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Yeah i guess i am.

I once saw a Chinese lady in her late 50s or early 60s doing "the hustle" in traditional Chinese clothes. I thought someone had spiked my drink when i saw that. A few guys young enough to be her grandsons joined her doing the dance It's amazing sometimes the things that happen during clubbing.

Haha, that's truly awesome!
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post #43 of 46
11/3/09 at 9:46am
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Well, what do you guys do on a Saturday night if not clubbing? I'm well into my 30's and need a night out to let out steam as it were. Can't stay at home all the time.

I play in a band and we play at least once sometimes up to three times a week. So thats been where i am for the past 4-5 years every weekend and sometimes it gets old, but I'd probably miss it and be bored if we didn't do it anymore.
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post #44 of 46
11/6/09 at 3:56am
Clubbing was a huge part of my youth. Drink, dance, casual encounters and the rest of it. My peak was during a four month stint on the Greek Islands, back then it seemed like heaven.

Old enough to go through the motions and too young to know any better. Glad I did it but even happier I don't have to play the facade game anymore.
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post #45 of 46
11/6/09 at 6:02am
Around last year, I used to go clubbing about 3-4 times a week. Everyday there is a club with something happening, so I would go out almost every night. I got tired of it quickly. Its always the same-old same-old. Get drunk, spend loads of money, hang with whomever I met after the club, eat, pass out. Time after time. Like I said, I got tired of the clubbing, scene quickly, although I do go out from time to time now for friends birthdays and such events.
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post #46 of 46
11/6/09 at 2:42pm
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Around last year, I used to go clubbing about 3-4 times a week. Everyday there is a club with something happening, so I would go out almost every night. I got tired of it quickly. Its always the same-old same-old. Get drunk, spend loads of money, hang with whomever I met after the club, eat, pass out. Time after time. Like I said, I got tired of the clubbing, scene quickly, although I do go out from time to time now for friends birthdays and such events.

I only go there once a while, maybe a month? And I have no interest in clubbing. I want to go there when I feel bad
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