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A Question for Gay, Straight and Bisexual Men

post #1 of 103
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1) Gay men: Which fragrances do you think smell the sexiest on other men?

2) Straight men: In your opinion, which fragrances make you smell the sexiest?

3) Bisexual men: Answer both of the above.
post #2 of 103
Other guys I like Eternity , Musc Ravaguer or just good old fashioned clean

.... bisexual men , dont even get me started on that ole chestnut - rolls eyes to the heavens
post #3 of 103
I used to think Rive Gauche was the sexiest. But then the most "unsexy" person in the world started wearing it and I've completely gone off it. So now the fragrance I've found sexiest (recently) turned out to be Dolce & Gabanna The One for men, which shocked me as I find it completely boring on! I don't think I have an ultimate 'sexiest' scent that I've smelled on a man, but Versace Crystal Noir AND Dior Addict should be worn by more men IMO. They are damn seductive.
Anything citrus is a turn off though.
post #4 of 103
I'm not sure I believe in the legitimacy of these three categories and I don't make a distinction between what smells sexy on me vs. what smells sexy on other men. There are body chemistry issues which cause many fragrances to smell different on different people, but I doubt those have anything to do with "sexual orientation." It'll be interesting to see what others think.
post #5 of 103
Really doesn't affect me one way or another, in terms of base attraction. That being said, I'd appreciate anyone wearing a fragrance I enjoyed smelling.

I'm sorry to say, the kind of fragrances the average guy wears just aren't that interesting me.
post #6 of 103
i think tobacco vanille or tuscan leather make me feel and smell the sexiest, among others, i got many sexy colgones.
post #7 of 103
I was hit on by a very cute guy the other day while wearing Pi. But to me Pi is not one of those scents I feel sexy wearing. I'm at my sexiest state of mind when I wear Body Kouros or Alien.
By the way, I'm not bi.
post #8 of 103
I'm str8.

Royal Water by Creed
Jubilation XXV by Amouage
post #9 of 103
Jean Patou's JOY on a woman drives me crazy....
post #10 of 103
I actually enjoy smelling a crisp Eau de Cologne or bright citrus scent on men.
In the evening, I think leather based scents are nice on men...Cuiron and Tuscan Leather especially.
post #11 of 103
My partner likes and wears Egoiste. I think it smells fantastic on him.
post #12 of 103
If anyone finds me 'sexy' I can assure you it has nothing to do with the fragrance I'm wearing. But personally I think more men should wear orientals and chypres... enough with the 'sport whatchamacallits'!
post #13 of 103
The notion that perfume is an enhancer of sexual gravitation must be the biggest fallacy in our world of scent.
Leave that to the hordes that follow the marketeers in a world of ignorance.

In reality, it works the other way round--if you love a person (the gay/bisexual/straight parameters do not apply here, as this fact applies to us all irrespective of our sexual orientation), you'll probably begin to accept their scent, even if you never liked it in the first place.

What I'm trying to say is: you might love a scent because of a person, but the scent will never enhance your attraction to them, or theirs to you. Scent appreciation has to do with many things, such as nostalgia, trying to relive a past moment, genuine inclination to the smell of that scent, etc...

If you hate Yatagan, for instance, and you happen to have a sudden crush on a guy, him wearing Yatagan will not drive you away from him. In fact, you are likely to develop an appreciation for Yatagan with time passage. It's that simple.
post #14 of 103
"Paco Rabanne pour Homme -- it is up to you to make it unforgettable"
post #15 of 103
As I've said in another thread; I have fond memories
of a man in Givenchy's PI, but I guess, that most frags
can be sexy, on the right man.
post #16 of 103
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Originally Posted by Killer_Vavoom View Post

In reality, it works the other way round--if you love a person (the gay/bisexual/straight parameters do not apply here, as this fact applies to us all irrespective of our sexual orientation), you'll probably begin to accept their scent, even if you never liked it in the first place.

This
post #17 of 103
i've seen someone love a scent before they ever saw the person connected to it. for example, my aunt has always liked cops and carpenters. men with lots of chissimo ala jean paul belmondo. she visited me one day and was wondering what smelled so good. then enters my driver fresh from his mourning routine of trimming his moustache and splashing on some cologne. he smelled fougerish/ brutish but mind you brut is expensive in my country since nobody produces it locally so it is an imported good. it would have to have been something even cheaper or more local. ah chissimo! i don't know it's like the chicken and the egg to me.
post #18 of 103
I know this isn't a direct answer to the OP's question, but regarding smelliing sexy, for some reason the most un-sexy thing (IMO) is somebody that's blatantly trying to smell sexy. People aren't sexy because of how they smell or what they wear (necessarily) - sexy comes from inside - from the soul. It's definitely nice when somebody cares enough about their hygeine, etc... to put on a nice fragrance (subtlely) but as far as putting on a fragrance that's going to make you sexy - not gonna happen. Okay, somebody else can have the soapbox now...
post #19 of 103
My Wife would be better at giving an answer to this question.....Gary
post #20 of 103
Hi everyone. Long-time fragrance lover. First time ranter.

The nature of this question is, most likely without intending to be so, a tad bit homophobic, much in the same way the idea of gendering fragrances reinforces sexism. Orientation has nothing to do with olfactive preference. Zip. Zilch. And digging for a connection between the two is a marketer looking for a quick answer to a far more complicated question.

Fragrance probably has more to do with the way in which we engage in social relationships than it does with singular interactions (health and hygiene excluded of course). But once you move away from the holistic side of fragrance, into the more ritualistic, sense-memory side, you start to realize that any particular person's attraction or repulsion to particular notes is in itself a testament to thousands of cultural influencers, compounded in a particular second in time. For example, if you and I as kids had a killer day while selling lemonade, your mom washed the house in lemon scented cleaner, and you later in life started sipping cocktails with a wedge of lemon in it, you're most likely going to find the scent reminiscent of happiness and purity, as well as revelry. When these things become cultural staples, we inadvertently train those unfamiliar with the scent to act or fill in the way we have learned from our own past experiences. Think about the way we pass along language. Though, an individual trauma or negative response can override this. It's that whole notion that scent is connected to our fight/flight mechanism in the brain.

If you are instead asking how to get any of this particular groups to be an advocate for your scent, start by paying attention to their lives. Listen to their stories. See what is affecting them today, and use the power of olfaction and authentic brand messaging to tie it in with past relate-able experiences. Use that earlier idea I had mentioned about language to stitch them back in.

But please, stop encouraging the flattening and oversimplification of fragrance, which has been so solidly tied to all areas of human existence since man grew a nose. It has been there in love and war, sex and death, friendship and love, health and spirituality... if it were ever that simple to understand, would civilization after civilization have adopted it as a key aspects in temples and the description of their ideas of the divine?

I know it gets lost in the constant onslaught of mass-market drivel that is continuously pumped out into the market, but do we really still need to ask the gender and orientation question about fragrance?
post #21 of 103
Straight male here, so I only know what is sexy on me from female responses:

Girls like on me...

Aqua di Gio
Herrera for Men
Original Vetiver (Creed)
Millesime Imperial
Silver Mountain Water
Happy
Egoiste Platinum
New Haarlem
post #22 of 103
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Originally Posted by xavier1145 View Post

Hi everyone. Long-time fragrance lover. First time ranter....yada, yada, yada..

It was a simple question. I think you're over thinking this.
post #23 of 103
I got compliments for Heritage :P the current formulation. Not even egoiste manage to get that hehe
post #24 of 103
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Originally Posted by xavier1145 View Post

Hi everyone. Long-time fragrance lover. First time ranter.

The nature of this question is, most likely without intending to be so, a tad bit homophobic, much in the same way the idea of gendering fragrances reinforces sexism. Orientation has nothing to do with olfactive preference. Zip. Zilch. And digging for a connection between the two is a marketer looking for a quick answer to a far more complicated question.

Fragrance probably has more to do with the way in which we engage in social relationships than it does with singular interactions (health and hygiene excluded of course). But once you move away from the holistic side of fragrance, into the more ritualistic, sense-memory side, you start to realize that any particular person's attraction or repulsion to particular notes is in itself a testament to thousands of cultural influencers, compounded in a particular second in time. For example, if you and I as kids had a killer day while selling lemonade, your mom washed the house in lemon scented cleaner, and you later in life started sipping cocktails with a wedge of lemon in it, you're most likely going to find the scent reminiscent of happiness and purity, as well as revelry. When these things become cultural staples, we inadvertently train those unfamiliar with the scent to act or fill in the way we have learned from our own past experiences. Think about the way we pass along language. Though, an individual trauma or negative response can override this. It's that whole notion that scent is connected to our fight/flight mechanism in the brain.

If you are instead asking how to get any of this particular groups to be an advocate for your scent, start by paying attention to their lives. Listen to their stories. See what is affecting them today, and use the power of olfaction and authentic brand messaging to tie it in with past relate-able experiences. Use that earlier idea I had mentioned about language to stitch them back in.

But please, stop encouraging the flattening and oversimplification of fragrance, which has been so solidly tied to all areas of human existence since man grew a nose. It has been there in love and war, sex and death, friendship and love, health and spirituality... if it were ever that simple to understand, would civilization after civilization have adopted it as a key aspects in temples and the description of their ideas of the divine?

I know it gets lost in the constant onslaught of mass-market drivel that is continuously pumped out into the market, but do we really still need to ask the gender and orientation question about fragrance?

Wow, take it easy man!

I personally think threads like this are very entertaining and sometimes even informative cuz I do think sexual orientations and genders do effect one's attraction.
post #25 of 103
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Originally Posted by StylinLA View Post

It was a simple question. I think you're over thinking this.

I don't agree. I don't think he's over-thinking, I think he's just thinking. And it wasn't a simple question at all. There are two questions that are distinctly different from each other, one posed to "gay" men and one to "straight" men, followed by a third direction for "bisexual" men to combine the two. Lots of interesting assumptions here one could unpack for analysis. Not simple at all. I'd also like to add that I think it's fine for threads to go in serious and light-hearted directions at the same time. I don't think it hurts either aspect; it simply expands the discussion.
post #26 of 103
I used to go out with someone who wore Habit Rouge , and it was a real turn off ! We didn't last very long , I think the fragrance had a large part in that decision too !
post #27 of 103
Let's not turn this into a debate about gender and sexuality, thanks
post #28 of 103
Christian Dior Dune for Men, Burberry Touch for Men (still my leading compliment-getter), and M7 all make me feel extremely sexy. Dune is more a daily-wear scent, but it is classier than the modern citrus or aquatic daily-wear fragrances. Touch and M7 make me feel like I can walk into any room naked and the only thing people would ask themselves is, "What is that fragrance he's wearing??"
post #29 of 103
Musc Koulai Khan is crazy sexy on a man, and in a differnt vein A la Nuit. Worn with confidence, it a huge turn on.
post #30 of 103
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Originally Posted by Killer_Vavoom View Post

The notion that perfume is an enhancer of sexual gravitation must be the biggest fallacy in our world of scent.
Leave that to the hordes that follow the marketeers in a world of ignorance.

In reality, it works the other way round--if you love a person (the gay/bisexual/straight parameters do not apply here, as this fact applies to us all irrespective of our sexual orientation), you'll probably begin to accept their scent, even if you never liked it in the first place.

What I'm trying to say is: you might love a scent because of a person, but the scent will never enhance your attraction to them, or theirs to you. Scent appreciation has to do with many things, such as nostalgia, trying to relive a past moment, genuine inclination to the smell of that scent, etc...

If you hate Yatagan, for instance, and you happen to have a sudden crush on a guy, him wearing Yatagan will not drive you away from him. In fact, you are likely to develop an appreciation for Yatagan with time passage. It's that simple.

You're right on, Killer! I never liked Habit Rouge very much until I smelled it on my innamorato. Now I like it enough to wear it myself on occasion.

Our little joke is that he wears nothing but Habit Rouge, whereas I have an extensive collection, most of which he emphatically doesn't like. It never seemed to keep him from warming up to me, though! I guess there must be something else... Gee, I wonder what it could be?
post #31 of 103
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Originally Posted by Tonyprince View Post

I don't agree. I don't think he's over-thinking, I think he's just thinking. And it wasn't a simple question at all. There are two questions that are distinctly different from each other, one posed to "gay" men and one to "straight" men, followed by a third direction for "bisexual" men to combine the two. Lots of interesting assumptions here one could unpack for analysis. Not simple at all. I'd also like to add that I think it's fine for threads to go in serious and light-hearted directions at the same time. I don't think it hurts either aspect; it simply expands the discussion.

Yeah, what he said!
post #32 of 103
I am bi.. so

When I mix Chanel Egoiste and Guerlain L'instant Extreme together - I get the most reaction from others and that makes me feel sexy.

I live in Nashville, so anything outside of the normal dept store stuff catches my attention. From the DJ booth, I smelled something intoxicating from someone right below me. Walked up to him and he said he just sprayed some Musc Ravageur in the men's room from a travel spray. That has been on my maybe list for a while and I think it will now be my next purchase.
post #33 of 103
Fragrance choice among groups is likely to have a more of a memetic factor and not a genetic factor.

Imagine an undiscovered island of people. Imagine an inhabitant picks up an as-of-yet unknown, somewhat pleasing, fragrant root and starts rubbing it all over themselves. They have romantic relations with another islander, as is custom and normal. When they "break-up" the other partner is left with the association of the fragrant root. Soon, this particular fragrance becomes more popular than even the bottle of Aqua di Gio that washes up on shore one day...

My point is, analyses of groups will likely produce conclusive data patterns, be it buying habits or even thoughts and opinions. Professionals involved in demographics and politics know this. It isn't a big deal and my intuition says that the differences in this case would probably be only slight shifts of the bell curve, most likely with memetic related causality.
post #34 of 103
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Originally Posted by trapper View Post

I'm str8.

Royal Water by Creed

Really? does anyone else think Royal Water is a sexy frag?
post #35 of 103
I know I'll get sh*t for this, but Creed Aventus is by far the most alluring, sexy fragrance that they have ever put out. I think that, and I've been told that.

GIT and Windsor have also gotten me a lot of lady-love.
post #36 of 103
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Originally Posted by JaimeB View Post

You're right on, Killer! I never liked Habit Rouge very much until I smelled it on my innamorato. Now I like it enough to wear it myself on occasion.

Our little joke is that he wears nothing but Habit Rouge, whereas I have an extensive collection, most of which he emphatically doesn't like. It never seemed to keep him from warming up to me, though! I guess there must be something else... Gee, I wonder what it could be?

JaimeB...I love that word...so underused these days...innamorato...I also like "paramour." LOL!

Actually, I don't see how perfume preference can have any bearing on sexual preference. It's like asking straight, gay or bi people about their preferences in liquors, wines and Champagnes...

Really, now...

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Originally Posted by Lian View Post

Let's not turn this into a debate about gender and sexuality, thanks

Thank you to the mods for keeping an eye on this thread.
post #37 of 103
I'm straight
I feel fahrenheit is still what makes me feel more aligned to my perceived image of myself.
post #38 of 103
I love Sand & Sable on a woman. My Mama wears Mitsouko which is very mature and matronly on her. I have'nt payed any 'tention to guys. I take that back. If I smell something I like on a man, I usually want the scent for myself. Most guys around here wears stuff that's too "newsprint-y" and common. Same with most chicks, too. All cucumbers and pears, or something biddy-boppy, teensy-weensy, air-head-ish, with no soul or depth.
post #39 of 103
I am straight and i would stop anyone in their tracks - man, woman or child if I smelled something enjoyable......that hasnt happened in a loooooong time.

on myself.... Musc Ravageur used to make me feel like im walking out shirtless...

I like Cuba Gold or GIT for daily feeling of moderate "sexiness".
post #40 of 103
I am 100% straight and I feel like walking sex while wearing Body Kouros.

It is so rare to smell fragrances on men here that I like and appreciate almost anything. Anyway, it really depends on overall impression. I sprayed my best friend with Le Male and it smelled soo sexy (but he is attractive for women anyway) so maybe that..
post #41 of 103
Based on strictly female input, most of my female acquaintances made me feel, if not more sexy, but more confident, more socially adjusted and more fun-loving, outgoing while wearing some of the generic gourmands like Envy for men, although in some very rare and unlikely cases I got complimented for very classic, conservative, un-sexy frags too (but then again, what is sexy or not, I guess it is all so personal and subjective, no general rules apply)

I also got compliments from both women and, oddly, from straight men (yap, I was pretty sure about that since they were either married or with gf) for wearing Dior Homme- yes, it really is a universally and timelessly sexy frag, so I can understand its appeal with all genders and orientations

Coming closer to my own preferences... classic female frags on a lady drive me crazy, so much so that if the right female wearer puts on the right classic of the likes of good ole No. 5, Insolence or Miss Dior, it might become serious, it might even lead to more than just the right chemistry, namely even falling in love.
post #42 of 103
1) Pink juice / bottled fragrances

2) Blue juice / bottled fragrances

3) Both of the above
post #43 of 103
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Originally Posted by Trebor View Post

1) Pink juice / bottled fragrances

2) Blue juice / bottled fragrances

Exactly. When I'm trying to pick up bisexual men I'll often layer a blue fragrance and a pink one.
post #44 of 103
I have got MANY compliments when wearing Gucci Envy! Actually more men have stopped me & asked what I was wearing than women! It makes me feel good to know what im wearing sparks interest in others to @ least start a conversation with me!
post #45 of 103
The usual caveats: it's not about the scent, it's about you; attraction to a man would probably make me like anything he wears, etc. Valid points, but let's have fun anyway. I (a gay man) find men smell sexiest in aromatics or orientals, preferably with a musky or woody base. In other words, old-school stuff that nobody my age wears anymore. The Acqua di Gio/Sean John/Light Blue stuff can actually turn me off at this point. It's not olfactory snobbery - aquatics and sheer greens or citrus just don't pique my interest or make me think licentious thoughts, which is the whole point of a "sexy" frag, no? I personally feel sexiest in anything with strong musk, wood or leather notes, but I make exceptions for the occasional powdery oriental or whacked-out gourmand (hi, Angel!).
post #46 of 103
girls like on me

Pure Malt
YSL Opium
Tobacco Vanille

i like..
Chergui
Musc Ravageur
post #47 of 103
I also feel like it has nothing to do with scent, but more to do with your experiences with an individual wearing one. For example, I once had a horrible experience with someone wearing Clinique Happy, and I will forever hate the scent, no matter who it was on!
post #48 of 103
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Originally Posted by jasonx View Post

....I'm at my sexiest state of mind when I wear Body Kouros or Alien.

Mmm, I love the idea of Alien on a man!

*end hijack*
post #49 of 103
Tuscany smells the sexiest of anything I have tried. It's nothing but sexy!

I think it would apply to all of the above.
post #50 of 103
I feel sexy in L'eau d'Hiver
Im st8..but I recently went to a gay club with a friend. I wore Vetiver Extraordinaire..a Drag said Im the only one in the club that smells like a man...lol..I think it was a good thing..
post #51 of 103
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Originally Posted by TalkingMuffin View Post

Really? does anyone else think Royal Water is a sexy frag?

I do, on a female it is.
post #52 of 103
Rosehavn,

You are a very naughty person, starting really contentious topics and then going really quiet!

Gucci Envy for Men and Alfred Dunhill Desire for a men smell great on me (well I think so anyway, and that is the important bit).

What about you?
post #53 of 103
Thread Starter 
See what happens when you give the Lurkers confidence? Geez. Treating me like they have 6 stars under their name. I admit I started some semi-controversial threads, but it was my way of getting involved. I didn't lurk very long. I decided to stir the pot instead.

The fragrances I find sexiest on a man: 1) Speed Stick Deodorant "Regular" with no other fragrances. 2) Spicy oriental fragrances worn subtlely (1-2 sprays). 3) Desert Moroccain by Tauer 4) Anise/Licorice notes that are in fragrances that are NOT sweet. 5) I almost forgot the most recent discovery, which was when I sprayed Tom Ford's Tobacco Vanille for the first time. My eyes rolled back in my head and I had a mini-seizure. I ended up laying on the floor crying, "OHHHHHHH TOMMMMM! OHHHHHHHHH TOMMMM!"
It kinda sounded like a chant to the perfume god.
post #54 of 103
I found the following in a review (by a man) of Kouros: 'Virility and male sexuality, not in "gay" sense. My situation with that is how can something so masculine attract "gays"?' - so I gather that gays are not supposed to like manly scents on other men...I'm really confused by this LOL :\\
post #55 of 103
I think By Kilian's Back to Black, Hermes Ambre Narguile (as well as Elixir des Merveilles), and Costume National 21 all make me smell smexy. Verreh smexy.
post #56 of 103
Really interesting thread on all levels, thanks Rosehavn!

If I wanted to smell sexy, I might lay on some Ungaro II.

But what I look for most now with fragrance is consolation and validation (Sables, Invasion Barbare, Myrrhe Ardente).
post #57 of 103
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Originally Posted by Rosehavn View Post

2) Straight men: In your opinion, which fragrances make you smell the sexiest?

Balafre
post #58 of 103
I think all scents are strictly scents. What makes any scent sexy is how the person carries it. end of story
post #59 of 103
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post #60 of 103
I, a straight man and 40 really like the older stuff.

I know my post will cause a lot of eye rolling or furrowing of the brows but I really like my old vintage bottle of Avon's Leather aftershave.
It adds, to me, some macho-ness to other scents like Varvatos Vintage.
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