Originally Posted by DavidBond007
... i could not see a girl putting this on herself.
Hey, guys, I can't resist jumping into the fray here. I agree that a GIRL probably wouldn't wear Kouros, but I think there are probably some WOMEN that would.
I've sniffed Kouros before, but I haven't tried it on skin. I love the clove and incense but generally struggle with the sharpness of the oakmoss -- but oakmoss is an issue for me in any frag, not just Kouros. I have the same problem with vetiver.
That being said, a number of my favorite frags trend toward the "masculine" end of the spectrum, and I've now decided that, just to be contrary, I'm going to sample Kouros on skin today or tomorrow and report back.
But here are my general thoughts on this issue:
(1) From the perspective of those who aren't wearing the scent (but smelling it), I think categorizing a fragrance as "masculine" or "feminine" has as much to do with the smeller's expectations as with the composition of the fragrance itself. My DH prefers it when I smell "girly," which for me means either Bois de Violette
, or Carnal Flower
(although with the cumin, leather, and indolic notes, none of these 3 could be considered a "clean" feminine frag). However, I've received a surprisingly high number of compliments from both men and women in my office when I wear "masculine" scents like Amber Absolute
, Muscs Koublai Khan
, Fumerie Turque
, Je Suis Un Homme
, and Halston Z-14
. Those compliments generally fall into 2 categories: (a) "Oh my God, what are you wearing? It's so different, and it's incredible!" and (b) "That smells really familiar, and I can't place it, but it smells really good!" When they find out that I'm wearing what some/most would consider a men's fragrance, some are a little puzzled and not sure what to do with that (given that they liked it so much), and some are positively intrigued and, if anything, like it even more because it turned their expectations upside down. Interestingly, women tend to be more confused by my fragrance choices than men.
(2) From the perspective of the wearer of the scent, I think it all depends on one's preferences and, perhaps, one's concerns about how others will react to a particular fragrance. I personally don't give a rat's ass whether a fragrance is categorized as masculine, feminine, or unisex. If I love it and think it smells good on me (e.g., my bones dissolve when I smell Avignon
on me), I'm wearing it. Period. Full stop. If others are confused by my choices, or a twenty-something young woman asks me after sniffing a sample of Amber Absolute
how I can wear something so "strong," I say that the strength and variety of my fragrances reflects my personality -- and, ultimately, I wear what makes me happy.
I am not "typically feminine" in my fragrance choices (by which I mean predominantly -- and stereotypically -- floral, fruity, light musky, and clean). I NEED something dirty in my frags to keep it interesting for me, whether it's leather, skanky musk, amber, incense, smoke, tobacco, etc. If that means that I wear more "masculine" than "feminine" fragrances, so be it.
Sorry for the novella, guys. I just find this conversation (and the one about males who wear feminine fragrances) very interesting.