Originally Posted by mel_lou I may have my head turned by a man or a woman's fragrance; I may engage them in conversation as a result; I may even go for dinner with them.
If, over the course of that dinner, I discover the man or woman in question isn't somebody I like, well, frankly a good perfume isn't going to cut it. Not even if it's Kouros.
I think here in lies what most of the guys are going for though. The fragrance itself can be an active initiator.
I believe that potentially one of the main problems for guys in this arena is the signature mistake that most men make when believing that women will respond to something the exact same way a man would. I can't speak for all men, and even for men on this board, but I can say for myself, that in the past fragrance has drastically helped shape my initial opinion of many girls and women. There have been many times when people who are completely unattractive in general will show themselves in an entirely different light to me, SOLELY based on the fact that they smell nice.
Just a few months back I remember being out to eat, and during the course of the meal, one of the girls from behind the counter walked past me and I caught a quick blast of her perfume's sillage, and then once again when she walked back. When I took a good look at her I started wondering how I had missed seeing such an attractive girl in such a small restaurant, until it dawned on me that I hadn't. She had been standing directly in front of me my entire time there. I had seen her since the moment I had come in. She had been standing within eyesight since I sat down. I just hadn't cared. Not that she was unattractive. But initially there was nothing about her appearance that was attention grabbing, UNTIL I smelled her as she walked by.
Then everything changed.
This has happened so many times to me personally, I can't even keep count. Now, mind you I still of course use discernment and realize that if I can separate the two in my mind, and that I'm only attracted to the girls because of the way they smell. But the fact remains that I still find them attractive, even if I won't act out on my feelings because I know it's the most shallow of attractions. BUT the attraction is there. I think that's what most guys think will happen.
Now like I said, this could be more of a guy thing, as even some of the other guy posts allude more to effects of what a good woman's fragrance will do to them. As StylinLA said, "Angel will stop me in my tracks". I know and sympathize with this feeling 100%. It's possible that it's maybe a guy thing, and since we know it, we project it onto women and think that they must react the same way. I really don't know. But as mel_lou initially said, she just might
have her head turned by a fragrance, which by her own conclusion could lead to a dinner date, and DEPENDING on what the person is like could go beyond that. So I don't think it's 100% fair to say, "It doesn't effect our attraction in the slightest."
Heavenly scents might not overrule good judgement, (i.e. they're still uninteresting, no sense of humor, out of shape, unappealing to the eye, etc. etc.) but from my own experience I can't say that they have ZERO effect on my perception of a person. Many times they've forced an attraction that would have not existed otherwise. And like I said, it doesn't go beyond that for me if they're unattractive without smelling the way they do, but if the person also has other qualities that are attractive to me, smelling nice is more than just icing on the cake.
Now this is all just purely opinion. Maybe only guys think this way. Maybe only I think this way. But even reading though the posts, I would have a slight inkling that I'm not the only one. I'm always ready to be 100% wrong however.