Originally Posted by Alityke
I've listed it to see how it fairs. If it doesn't sell then I'll make her a reasonable offer. However it's my recently widowed MiLs favourite and Mr Ali would like it to go for her if I buy it.
Ali, not to stir the pot, but three things come to mind as I read your post:
1. Does your mother like your MIL or is there any rivalry there? Unless they really get along well, she might not be entirely happy about your MIL getting it.
My mother is very sweet, and so was my late MIL, but there was a little jealousy that came out when my daughter was born. Mom took it hard that my MIL, who lived nearby, would see our newborn daughter before she did, living in Florida. I was surprised, but you know, our mothers are only human.
2. Your husband loves his mother and he loves you...the two most important women in his life. Still, I would want my husband to champion my cause above that of his mother. We had a few tiffs about this sort of thing early in our marriage and I told him that I needed to come first...he got the message.
3. As your mother's heir you would have a natural right to it above the right of your MIL, who can always be given a gift of perfume that did not belong to your mother. I'm sorry she was widowed, and by all means buy her some of her favorite perfume, but she does not need to acquire your mother's
bottles. If she knew they meant so much to you, I'm sure she would want you to have them, in any case.
It's not really
only about the perfume.