Originally Posted by Rüssel
I'd discuss it like any other topic.
Originally Posted by noirdrakkar
assuming whether or not people know about your hobby, what do you do?
me personally, i act like i know almost nothing about fragrances. i'll ask a question or two and then move on.
i'd end the conversation quickly because 99% of people only talk about fragrances for 30 seconds max.
Noir, you keep asking the same question over and over, each time phrased slightly differently, but the root of the question is always the same. Clearly, the issue of fragrances in your life causes you grief or frustration, but it doesn't have to be that way.
If there's an elephant in the room, that's what people are going to talk about. If you have a giant collection of knives hanging along a wall, the topic of knives is going to come up. If collecting knives makes you feel so uncomfortable that, OMG, you have to immediately change the topic when it comes up in conversation or pretend you know nothing about knives, perhaps hanging them on the wall does you more harm than good.
At some point, you really should try to figure out why the topic comes up so often around you, and why it makes you so uncomfortable. I'm going to take a wild guess: you still live at home with your parents and you have your perfume collection displayed on a dresser and/or shelves. Your parents and their friends see "that stuff" and wonder why can afford it all but can't afford your own place. The topic comes up a lot because they disapprove of your priorities.
For better or for worse, in other people's eyes, we are what we show them. If you don't like being judged for collecting stuffed animals, don't keep the stuffed animals on the bed. Find a place out of view to store them (this example brought to you by a woman I had a crush on in college until I saw her dorm room, half of which was filled with at least a hundred stuffed animals. Uhm... Yikes? To make matters worse, her roommate was very goth. You can imagine what the other half of the room looked like. Double yikes!)
For better or for worse, in other people's eyes, we are what we show them. Think about who you truly are and how you'd like people to see you. Show them that. If your love of fragrances is one of those things, show them and be proud to do so.