Thread: Men wearing Women's Fragrances?
I have just recently gotten into female fragrances. Male freshies are really clunky and boring, so I think for the lighter fragrances I will keep an eye out on both sides of the store and get whatever I like. I really enjoy the few Aqua Allegorias I got to try. Oh, and I know Hermes Elixir des Merveilles is quite masculine despite being marketed for women. In the end, who cares! Try every damn thing you can get your hands on. Don't let a masterpiece slip away because of some stupid marketing. Though do note that you will have to start incorporating womens clothing into your wardrobe.
Oh, and you will also loose your manhood. Oh, and you will wake up knowing the words to Evita by heart. You can do it! We all believe in you!
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I started with this hobby only 3 or 4 years ago and never thought I could wear female fragrances (maybe because I am gay?). I must admit that I don't like most of the female scents I have smelt, maybe because some of them are like flower or fruity bombs. However, I am becoming to be more openminded, and now I have just found that I have double choice of finding scents I like. Some of the gems I found are Black Orchid, Un Bois Vainille and In Black (Jesus del Pozo).
I wore Eau de Patou today....and of course......I smelled AWESOME. ( I was also reeking of Globe and Moschino from side by side comparisons.....so besides awesome.....I may have smelled very weird.....)
Female Shmemale......it either works or it doesn't. I try all kinds of juice and usually, the feminines don't work for me, but there are exceptional exceptions.
I'm believe in division between the male and the female. Division...value discrimination, ads to the variety of life.
The trouble comes when someone pipes up vocally toward you about it. I have a number of female fragrances, and there's no greater downer than when the girl I'm with exposes her inner hick by exclaiming something like, "wait...why are you wearing woman's perfume?"
Now, if I caught the scent of a guy wearing Youth Dew, that'd be quite beyond my understanding and taste. Though I'd keep it to myself. Keeping one's mouth shut is highly underrated in this age of the self-righteous declaration.
Anyway, lightly misted Joop for men smells really cute on a girl. I love to smell utra-masculines on women, but I don't like the reverse, ultra-fems on men. From what I can tell, this is just human nature. Girl hot-rodders are kick ass. Guy flower arrangers are nothing special.
Something ferverishly hot, like Antaeus or Fahrenheit on a chick would be killer.
Rochas Man is good for a girl too, especially during the brisky holidays. It even comes in a pink box.
I've a weak spot for burnt sugars on myself. I'd wear Hot Couture or Nanette...lightly.
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Dang, I just arrived at work, and the show is still running since last night. i would have imagine it banished into archival oblivion. Even my big bro Aromi has gotten involved, I am feeling lucky, going to buy lottery during lunch.
I like what CanwllCorfe said: I have just recently gotten into female fragrances. Male freshies are really clunky and boring. Coz I realized I started to open my (previously "homophobic" mind) to the idea of "perfume for women" because I was getting a little jaded and bored with the seemingly dull fate of the current mainstream designer fragrance. Of course, you shouldn't apply this concept to your marriage, you get jaded and bored, but you live exclusively with him/her.
I'm also on my third marriage.....and you wait until now to tell me this?
My wife is wearing Code by Armani, and I steal a couple of sprays every now and then.
I'll wait until she finishes it and get her some Dune or Chergui, I can c myself wearing those!
Oh and Angel too!
Definitely wanna give credit where it's due! It's a great blog.
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Thanks for so many replies. I tried some ladies scents today, but only Chopard Wish was almost acceptable. Forget about my post. My chest is too hairy
Guerlain Spiritueuse Double vanille was my first feminine and i love it
My very own blog : http://thefragranceguru.blogspot.com/
@Ash H. Thank you for the in-depth look at the gender issue!
The subject often raises emotional (and questionably logical) responses here on BN, so it is nice to look at it from a sociological and scientific perspective.
I agree with the data showing a sharper sense of smell in females than in men, and my mom is a great example of that sharp sense of smell. We used to tease her that she could put a pack of bloodhounds out of business, she was so good at sniffing out "contraband" in our possessions, no matter how well we thought we had hidden or contained that particular item.
My approach to perfume is definitely to wear perfume that I like, regardless of its target market. This to me is the only thing that makes sense.
What surprises me is the number of people who "dare" to wear a perfume marketed for the opposite gender who then discover that with a few exceptions, if comment is made about the scent that comment has nothing to do with the perceived "gender appropriateness" of the scent. It's not scientific at all because often people withhold what they believe might be "offensive" comments like - "hey girl, your perfume smells just like my father's aftershave!"
But that said... I really don't care whether people think this or not, if I'm happy in my own skin and the scent I'm wearing only accentuates that happiness.
I would consider wearing some of the Aqua Allegoria too, as well as Black Orchid by Tome Ford, Ispahan by Yves Rocher, Jasmin Noir by Bvlgari, Cuir de Russie by Chanel
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Would you wear a fragrance not designed for your gender? I ask because I wanted a Rose scent and I bought Sa Majeste La Rose by Serge Lutens. I'm a 44 yr. old Male and I thought I was going to buy Penhaligon's Hammam Boquet. But when I smelled Sa Majeste La Rose I had to have it. If I wear it lightly and not try to bring attention to myself I think it will work real nice.
If you look around enough in this forum, you'll see that perfume gender designations are usually ignored. Sa Majeste smells good, and that's it. Or perhaps you can just claim you are Victorian, since rose (and later violets) were normally worn by stern Victorian men.
Now you can move on to to the whole Parfums de Rosine range and then to the bigger Nahema and Rive Gauche (woman, that is).
As for myself, I was tempted to buy Anais Anais...
As cacio replied, many of us here would. Besides, the Lutens line has no gender delineations. I doubt if people who think men should not smell like flowers will then trace the scent to you if they smell roses in the air. They'll probably attribute it to a woman, or that it's from real roses, an air freshener or cleaning agent!
I grabbed Anais Anais at Marshall's, $20, but then there was the usual ridiculous line at checkout so I gave up. For now. (Luca Turin thinks it a masculine too, btw).
As for roses, my only current one is the (very masculine) 1876, but I've set my eyes on some Parfums de Rosine.
Although fragrances are designed with an intended audience based upon what we socially consider masculine or feminine scents, people should wear what makes them happy and resonates with them.
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As I mentioned on various other threads, I think that a good example may be Ispahan by Yves Rocher, meanwhile discontinued and marketed strictly as female, is a rich, dark, deep leathery floral which would be easily suitable as an unisex or male frag
I work in Perfume retail and i found that gender doesn't really matter in perfume and most people agree, even though its in a pink bottle it doesn't really matter! So many men go away with a 'womens' fragranceand vise versa. if it smells good on your skin then why not!
I wear Armani She alot of the time, its just quite a fresh and subtle scent, its not like people point at me cause i'm wearing it lol!
I was accidentally sent a sample of Mazzolari Ambra recently. I wore it not realizing it was something other than what I ordered and loved it. Most people categorize Ambra as a woman's fragrance. What difference does this make? None really, I'm buying it anyway.
- Expect the unexpected
A fragrance for the other gender???
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if you like it , don´t mind
my current top five (always in transition)
Dior Eau Noire
HdP 1725 Casanova
eau de gloire parfum d'empire
Dia man Amouage
comme des garçons man 2
On Basenotes, many members wear what they like without caring about the marketing.
Wear what you enjoy!
As for rose marketed to men, you may wish to try Rose d'Homme:
Another rose made for men is Artisan Voleur de Roses:
(scroll to the bottom)
"No sweet perfume ever tortured me more than this." Desert Rose by Sting and Cheb Mami, Album 1999.
what they all said ^
and personally i wear l'heure bleue on rare occasions, with Mitsouko arriving from the post any day now.
so screw gender connotations! if it works for you it works! With that said, white florals and berry-patchouli frappocinos are too girly for me to pull off...
When I was first wed, my husband's eldest brother was married to the most elegant British woman you could imagine. She wore only the finest clothing and accessories, never wore costume jewelry; only platinum, diamond, and pearl jewelry. And she wore the most incredible fragrance which only enhanced her feminine and elegant aura. I was floored when I learned (years later) that she wore a man's cologne. That was my introduction to the fact that fragrance knows no gender. If you like how it smells on you then so will others. It really only matters if you like it and how it makes you feel about yourself. Enjoy your life and fill it with what pleases you.
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I wear many fragrances marketed to women. Many chypres, especially, are suitable for either gender, as well as are some orientals.
I also own and wear Sa Majeste La Rose. It is a beautiful rose fragrance, not too sweet or powdery. I don't see anything particularly feminine about it other than that it is a floral fragrance. Hammam Bouquet is one of my favorites from Penhaligon's. It is powdery and "doctored up", more old fashioned than Sa Majeste La Rose, but oh so good.
Wearing "opposite gender" fragrances is a matter of your own confidence more than anything else. Other people who smell it, through conditioning, are going to automatically assume that you are wearing a "masculine" fragrance because you are a man. They aren't going to freak out and shout, "Oh, my God! Tommv is wearing a girl's perfume!" Chances are that they won't even think about it being anything other than a man's fragrance.
I tend to wear a fair amount of unisex, but only a few feminines. I'm a huge fan of woody, smoky, spicy, and green notes, and those tend to get called masculine or unisex. But I'm also a sucker for jasmine, and that gets me crossing the aisle for some good ones in the women's area.
If rose is your note, go for it. Many men's scents and shave creams emphasize rose. My Trumper's Rose shave cream is a treasure. When I smell "women's" rose scents, most of the time, I can't really distinguish the gender stereotype anyway.
Any opinions here on Femininitè du Bois? I'm wondering about some of the more woody feminines. The ones I've tried always seem to go over well with me, but I've never even smelled that one.
I've worn Sa Majeste la Rose. It is indeed awesome. For guys, irrespective of the fragrance, a light application / low sillage is always more appropriate. At least that's what I gather from the fine ladies here...
in this day and age anything goes you can wear what you like
don't let gender rule i know it's cliche but it's true
i'm a woman and i love Azzaro Pour Homme faberge Brut
English Leather and Paco Rabenne pour Homme
Sa Majeste la Rose is one of complicated roses i've ever seen. With huge lasting!
I like Hypnotic Poison, The One by D&G.
Just about everyone replied to this thread back in March, except Tommv the O.P. I am curious. Did he read the replies and if so, did he then act as was suggested? that is, forgetting about what gender a perfume is supposed to be for, and just going for what smells good for them? (I notice that Tommv has not posted since March 20th).
By the way, widening the question a bit, I have found, as I have grown older, that the age group most concerned about what other people think (usually of them) are young people. And this is as it should be. It's a part of "growing up". But I assure you that "as time passes" what other people think begins to assume its real importance, which is very little.
I found this quote that is perhaps apropos:
"I don't like the word 'unisex', said Ellena. 'That's no sex'. She thought about it. He watched her, sought to explain his point of view. 'For me, if you write a book, it's not for a man or a woman. It's a book.' She nodded. 'For anyone who loves to read. I can wear Shalimar. If I like it, I wear it'."
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"Classics aren't classics because they seem old but because they seem always new". Tania Sanchez
I wear Nuits de Noho by Bond No. 9 and Un Bois de Vanille by Serge Lutens. Really if you like how it smells of you, wear it, don't worry about the targeted gender.
Don't worry about gender assignments for fragrances. I mainly wear unisex and masculines. And I throw femme samples in my bf's sample box because quite often they smell better on his chemistry than on my own - especially anything with rose because he smells great in rose fragrances.
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Not a fan of Sa Majestie la Rose, but A la Nuit is awesome. Wear whatever works for you.
I LOVE wearing a man's fragrance as long as there are some citrus notes and it's not too musky/woody. But that's just my preference.
Grey Vetiver and Guerlain Homme are stunning. Think a fair few of the Chanel "men's" ones are very likeable to me, as are a lot of the Gucci's and Boss's. (on women) Orange Boss for men and Hugo are also fabulous.
I see some female fragrances in the wardrobe pics of male collections in here and wonder how many of you males use female labeled frags on a regularly basis ?
Is it mostly gays who tend to use these often sweeter and more flower based scents or are there also full blown straight guys who spray female frags after the daily shower ?
Just curious hope I don't offend anyone with my question !!
Claus The Danish Viking
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I wear fragrances marketed as feminine quite a bit more than masculines. Maybe it's because I've been wearing feminines for so long, but in a lot of cases I can't see any particular reason why a fragrance is marketed to one gender rather than the other. In other words, I think a lot of fragrances marketed as feminine are better perceived as unisex.
I don't have any insight into the correlation between sexual preference and tendency to wear feminine fragrances.
I wear what I like!
Personally don't use them.
I thought all men who wear any fragrance of any gender was gay...
1a. Slumberhouse Zahd
1. Amouage Epic man
2. Dior Leather Oud
3. Amouage Tribute Attar
4. Le Labo Patchouli 24
5. Amouage Opus VII
6. Bond No.9 New York Oud
7. Norma Kamali Incense
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
If you look at it that way we're pretty much all unisex - but come on, if you have more than let's say 4" flaccid between your legs, it's not a clit anymore, right
I'm a straight 7" flaccid guy, and if i found a female frag I liked, I would consider buying and using it !
Problem is I haven't found one yet
They all smell too fruity, lipstick and flower based for my taste.
So just curious what kind of female fragrances appeal to you guys, who buys female frags and consider all frags as unisex and not segregated ?
Claus The Danish Viking
GR8 Hitz: Kouros, Egoiste & Fahrenheit