Short story: Go with the A*Men
In case you care, here's the long story:
-You already know you like it
-I'll second the notion that it's the bomb explosive
-It has legendary sillage and longevity
-It is the best clubbing/partying scent there is (especially for the winter)
-Other people will like it on you
-Comes in a nice 50ml rubber bottle (great for traveling) at a reasonable price ($50 or less). 50ml will last you forever, btw.
-Some people dislike the tar note, but since you've smelled the scent and like it this is rather irrelevant
New Haarlem pros:
-I don't even know where to start. Really though, I don't.
New Haarlem cons:
-You haven't even smelled it yet
-It is thick, gross, and syrupy
-You smell like you spilled coffee on yourself. Unless you're that stupid lady who won millions from McDonalds for doing that, it is probably not a good thing
-Oh yea, it costs like $175
To answer your other question, they are different enough to warrant owning both, but only if you like NH enough to want to own it in the first place. It costs $175, but I wouldn't wear it if I got paid. It is just really not a good scent to me. It never hurts to try things, so you might want to try contacting Bond, you might be able to get some samples. Or maybe a store near you has it. But for now, go with the A*Men, after all it's something that you know you like. Good luck man.