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    Default Never gotten a compliment..

    I don't get it. I never get compliments when I'm wearing cologne. In fact, most people are repulsed, if they have any reaction at all.

    Do you get compliments? From who, family? Not even my mom, sis, and etc notice or react to me when I'm wearing cologne.

    Is there a shot in the dark chance you'd know why I'm not getting any compliments?

    BTW, I just got two new colognes: Basi Homme, and Armand Basi Homme. What do you think of those?

    Just trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong here.

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    Hmmmmm... that's really weird. My family doesn't really compliment me but my friends do and sometimes random people do. Here's a suggestion: start talking to a close female friend about your hobby. Start asking her which of your scents smell good, and soon she'll take notice and start complimenting the ones she likes. Sure, it's not spontaneous, but it's something.

    It would help you if you listed the colognes that you wear most so that I can see if they are ones that are compliment getters. If you really care about compliments, I can share with you a few scents that seem to effortlessly earn me compliments. Also, you should know that people might like your scent even if they don't compliment you.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    99% of complements I've gotten are from drunk girls. Not sure if thats good or bad.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I don't know what you wear so I can't judge you. Show your wardrobe.

    I only get compliments from my girlfriend. No one really seems to care about what I am wearing other than her. I really wear it for myself though. I wear a conservative amount. A few sprays is enough for me.

    Maybe you apply too much or just wear the annoying stuff that everyone wears. Who knows. Who cares too. If you like it then wear it for yourself. Don't expect people to like you for your scent but don't not wear something because one person gave you a bad look. No compliments are better than people telling you to go take a shower because you stink. They probably don't know how to tell a person that they smell amazing.

    I don't get compliments so you are not alone...

    PS I don't know what those 2 smell like...

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I get more compliments from my simple straight forward scents such as Armani Mania(most complimented), Gai Mattiollo Uomo, Gigli Man 2004, Rive Gauche PH,Roma which is more complex but simple delicious dry down of amber and vanilla which the girls love. If you want, try Polo Blue,Bulgari Aqua,Polo Black,Boss Soul,I don't necessarily like them but they do get tons of compliments.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I typically get compliments from the same people like my parents & a few certain friends. There's this one friend of mine that is always one of the first people I see when I go to my local bar. We always hug, & I have usually just showered & applied cologne. The FIRST TIME he complimented what I was wearing, was after I had just come home from a brief workout. I hadn't planned on going out, but he called me & asked if I'd like to shoot pool for awhile. Since I had just done some light weight training & a slow walk on the treadmill, I figured I hadn't sweat enough to warrant a shower. I applied a spritzing of CK one and headed out. My friend hugged me when I walked into the bar & he sniffed my neck & said I smelled really good & asked what I was wearing!!! It was really weird, lol. There had been several times when I had seen him & was wearing something that in my opinion smelled a lot better & he never gave me a compliment.

    I think a lot of it has to do w/ your own skin chemistry and how different frags react w/ your chemistry. Maybe let your skin "settle" a little bit after a shower & THEN apply fragrance?
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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    You dont wear Kouros do you?

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Joel, after looking through your collection, the only scent I can fully endore is Yang. I feel like a light to maybe medium application of Yang should definately get you some compliments. I don't know if it matters to you, but your collection lacks compliment ringers, and you might want a nice fresh scent (that doubles as a compliment ringer) to wear in the warm weather. Bulgari Aqua comes to mind first, along with Mugler Cologne and Chrome.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Quote Originally Posted by Trioxin
    99% of complements I've gotten are from drunk girls. Not sure if thats good or bad.
    Trioxin, good point, but oh so right ! Think that the alcohol take away the brakes and they say the things that they think but never would say when tey're sober !

    So, my opinion is that a lot of men and woman actually thinking : "that guy smells good " but will never saying it ...

    Renz

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I never get complements either......never. And that's OK, as
    I am not searching for them. I know I have some excellent
    fragrances, and I just wear what I like in moderate quantities
    (4 or 5 sprays) and enjoy it. Don't worry about compliments.
    Just wear stuff you love and think others might enjoy and be
    at peace with that.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I have never gotten any compliments either. I think it depends on what sort of people you hang out with. If they are close friends or family, they might compliment...if they are just work colleagues etc, they may not.

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    I always get compliments from my wife, and believe me, that's all that matters.

    Occasionally I get them from female family members.

    Very rarely a (female) work colleague will give me a compliment - the last being a couple of weeks ago after a mid-day work out, when I tried out Opium Eau d'Orient for the first time.

    I think a lot of people are self-conscious about paying compliments because it may be interpreted in the wrong way.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Dante is right, some people are just self-conscious about giving compliments. More important than outright verbal compliments is body language. If you see people leaning in to get a good sniff of you and stuff like that, it is as good or better than a compliment. If you get negative body language and no compliments, than maybe the scents you own don't agree with your body chemistry very well. Whether or not that is a problem is completely up to you.

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    Smile Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Oh,that`s not fair! I always compliment a person who wears a nice scent,male or female...Yesterday I complimented one of my patients on his scent and asked him what he was wearing.Well,it was Nivea aftershave balm but I liked it.I have only two male patients who wear fragrance regularly and whenever they come to my office they make my day

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    I also try to compliment people that smell good. In order to get some you have to give some... With that said most compliments comes from my girlfriend of course, and the rest from friends who knows about my heavy addiction. The very last few comments I've recieved has been from co-workers, but that sure doesn't happen very often.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I can't relate. I receive compliments frequently from all kinds of people while wearing all kinds of fragrances.
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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I used to not get many compliments, now it seems like about one every 10 days. It may be because I have a few more sillage-scents. Since I wear what I like for me, the compliments are just icing on the cake. It would be very unusual for me to wear something I didnt really like just because it's a compliment-magnet. It's much more a factor of the people around you, than it is a measure of how you actually smell, if you ask me. Also, if you barely apply enough for your own nose to smell, then it is also possible that it is too little for anyone else to notice either, as well.

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    I tend to be an extravert, and body language does help with the compliment department. Your less apt to tell a stanger with dark body language that he/she smells great. On the other hand, a person smiling and generating positive body language may garner more compliments. Not saying that Joel is being negative - I liked his honest post. Food for thought.

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    It's unfortunate that my lifestlye doesn't allow me to wear fragrance as much as I would like to. I practise Bikram Yoga everyday and swim laps for an hour every other day. When I do wear fragrance, I usually get a compliment.
    "A great perfume is a work of art, it can lift our days, haunt our nights and create the milestones of our memories. Fragrance is liquid emotion. And that never goes out of fashion. " MICHAEL EDWARDS

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Interesting question. You mentioned that some people are repulsed... can you elaborate? It would be helpful to know exactly what they said, what type of person said it, and the setting.

    The colognes you have look OK. Maybe you could use one more "lady-killer" in your repertoire, and depending on your personality, etc., I'm sure you can get loads of suggestions.

    Markymark's idea is a very good one - I would agree that people who look highly approachable are more likely to have people speak to them spontaneously. I suppose wearing nice clothes would help this even further.

    I don't get loads of compliments, but I do get some. And sometimes I'll get a smile that seems to be saying, "you smell nice".

    This may or may not be true, but I wonder if most of the people who get tons of compliments are already fairly "studly", and the nice cologne gives interested individuals an easy conversation starter.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    I get one every once in a while here at work. Several Ladies know of my passion(s) and will 'sample' a sniff of my SOTD.

    Sometimes, I get a wink from one of the Bass I catch(and release):




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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Neither have I. But somehow I don't really expect it from my colleagues (German academics :-)
    My wife compliments me on not wearing a fragrance. When I do - she coughs, hits me and says things like "go away." Life is hard sometimes ;-)
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    I'd be a little self conscious if someone complimented my sotd. I wear scents for myself, sometimes I'll wear something my gf really likes. Its actually a happy coincedence that I havent heard any comments one way or another in public, although sometimes people seem to hover around and bump into me more than usual.
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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    It sounds like you may be putting too much on.

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    I'd think it's better to never get a compliment than what happened to my mum:

    She came home one day looking very gloomy, the reason, she was on the bus, some man was seated next to her, she, who never notices anything anyone does while on the street, notices he's gaging for his life, suddenly he gets up and opens the window in their row and slyly gives her a dissaproving look, she realises then...it's her perfume! Sun Moon Stars by Lagerfield...
    The thing is she loves that perfume, and told me people at work have told her she smelled too heady...and now that incident on the bus...
    I just hope she doesn't get discouraged and never gives strong perfumes another chance.
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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Quote Originally Posted by Lightninrod
    I get one every once in a while here at work. Several Ladies know of my passion(s) and will 'sample' a sniff of my SOTD.

    Sometimes, I get a wink from one of the Bass I catch(and release):




    Dan
    That's a nice bass Lightninrod. I started fishing East Texas lakes when I was five years old - Lake Fork, Lake O'The Pines, Toledo Bend, etc. I used Lightning Rods and Ambassadeur 500c reels. Learned a lot of discipline working through some good backlashes. Caught a lot of bass too.

    There aren't many things to compare to good bass fishing.

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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Quote Originally Posted by Princess_Jime
    I'd think it's better to never get a compliment than what happened to my mum:

    She came home one day looking very gloomy, the reason, she was on the bus, some man was seated next to her, she, who never notices anything anyone does while on the street, notices he's gaging for his life, suddenly he gets up and opens the window in their row and slyly gives her a dissaproving look, she realises then...it's her perfume! Sun Moon Stars by Lagerfield...
    The thing is she loves that perfume, and told me people at work have told her she smelled too heady...and now that incident on the bus...
    I just hope she doesn't get discouraged and never gives strong perfumes another chance.
    I just got a Sun Moon Stars sample and love it! I am even thinking of getting myself a bottle. But I think the problem is that you are in warm weather while it's winter here in Australia...

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    Oh,and I agree with Markymark about that `body language advice`.I.e. I would compliment Lightninrod on his fragrance even if he wore Eau de Turpentine LOL
    JK,Dan,I love your wardrobe
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    Default Re: Never gotten a compliment..

    Quote Originally Posted by Lightninrod
    I get one every once in a while here at work. Several Ladies know of my passion(s) and will 'sample' a sniff of my SOTD.

    Sometimes, I get a wink from one of the Bass I catch(and release):




    Dan

    A little off topic but about that bass... what's that thing on its underside? Is that its weiner?



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