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    Default My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    "My friends don't want to smell like their maids"- said frederic malle as reported by
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    What a stuck up, elitist, unpleasant man. Not an attitude I want to buy in to.
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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    and who exactly is fredric malle?

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Well, do you ?
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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Scentimental didn't write that. That's the article title........

    Having previously had a cleaning woman come in once a week, I can safely I also didn't want to smell like her either

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    I don't want to smell like a maid either.

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    Confusing 'Seeing' with 'Being' has always been the root problem of The Aloof who never appreciate the paradox, whereby, by their attitude, they betray a deep identification with the object of their disdain.
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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    I'm confused. You want your friends to smell like Frederic Malle's maid? Or someone else's maid?

    Or wait...you want Frederic Malle's friends to smell like YOUR maid?

    Frederic Malle's maid should want her friends to smell like Geir Ness's chauffeur. And her gardener to smell like Henry Cabot Lodge's publicist.

    (Note: Neither Henry Cabot Lodge nor his publicist (or either of their maids) were available for comment at the time of this printing.)


    Now....what is it you're offended by?

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    [QUOTE=DrBubba]I'm confused. You want your friends to smell like Frederic Malle's maid? Or someone else's maid?

    Or wait...you want Frederic Malle's friends to smell like YOUR maid?
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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    damnit, I always do that! When I try to tamper with the quote to only quote people on certian parts of their post, it doesn't appear as a quote. What am I doing wrong? Sorry if it seems like I'm hijacking the post, not my intention. I agree that that is an elitist thing to say and it makes me glad I don't feel the need to spend $150 on one of his fragrances.

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    If Malle said this, I think it has more to do with the tone. I also wouldn't want to smell like a maid (and how do we know that there aren't basenotes members who are maids and that all the maids don't smell good?)

    If he said it in a funny way I think there's no problem with that; but if you could notice from his tone the despise towards the maids, like they should be ashamed because they are maids and weren't lucky to be born in a wealthy family like he probably was and because they can't afford the scents made under his brand, like his friends (customers ) can, then it's not so nice...

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    It also depends on if he means his maid when she shows up for work...or when she's done with work.

    I don't think anyone can pass judgement until/unless we smell his maid. She may have serious issues and he just hasn't figured out how to tell her.

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    [quote=Paul G]Scentimental didn't write that. That's the article title........

    sorry. my mistake. corrected now.
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    I'd be fine with my girlfriend smelling like a maid! I just prefer not to smell pretty myself.

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    I gave my maid a bottle of McQueen's Kingdom and I wear it as well. Who cares? I just want all the people of the world to smell wonderful! Actually, I am trying to get everyone addicted to the fragrance bug.

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    i think if you re-read the article, it's not malle who said this, or if it is he means that his friends said that to him.
    there was a thread a while back about someone meeting malle and how nice and down to earth he was. I have read this on other occaisions as well and personally i think malle has built a fine company, their customer service is excellent, they corresponded with me through several emails to find out which samples would be best suited to me, and then they sent three huge 5ml spray samples.
    "...fragrance is a silent language that does not use words. One can express with fragrance things that cannot be expressed in any other way." - Jacques Polge

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Quote Originally Posted by paintrman
    I just want all the people of the world to smell wonderful! Actually, I am trying to get everyone addicted to the fragrance bug.
    "There might be bugs on some of your mugs,
    But there ain't no bugs on me".

    Sorry, just could not resist!

    Disagree with FM. And they did not send my anything, not even a response to my e-mail.

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Again (as I've said this before in another post), I don't believe that wearing perfume counts as conspicuous consumption. Even if that perfume costs $100-$200+ dollars, it is not something that any sane person would do just to show off. Here is why.

    -Try asking random people who F. Malle is. The look on their face will undoubtedly be the same face I get when weighing the various virtues of Pratt & Whitney or General Electric jet engines. People don't know, and they don't care that they don't know. Perfume (especially male perfume) has to be one of the absolute smallest online communities out there. Mentioning your new bottle of Yatagan will be just as prestigious as mentioning your bottle of Carnal Flower, because virtually no one knows what either of them are. In the field of public consumption of perfume, price does not equate to image.

    -Perfume is not really something that you talk about with people who would otherwise see your expensive suit, car, pool, cellphone, haircut, etc. Those people who do find out what you're wearing either secretly don't care, already want to get you in bed no matter what, or do know and understand what you're wearing. The last category cannot honestly happen to people more than a few times in a lifetime.

    -Perfume is perceived as a rather personal thing. Sure, expensive lingerie MIGHT constitute conspicuous consumption, but why on earth would you do that in front of your closest friends/SO?

    I'm tired, and I apologize for beating this like a dead horse. I apologize for the grammatic ambiguity of that last sentence.

    No offense to anyone, but even if Malle is a raving, elitist, chauvenist pig: big deal. It's perfume. Read about Hugo Boss's past before passing spurious judgment on this guy. I think that other posts have already made it clear that Malle is a decent guy, anyways.

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    I agree with what greyhue says. Most of my male friends are more than happy with generic Aqua di Gio/CK bottles, and dont understand why I would spend $100+ on a Malle or Creed PERFUME/COLOGNE.
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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    I can't see why you think him unpleasant for his comment.
    If his friends don't want to smell like their maids, well, they'd probably be more inclined to want to smell like their butlers. Doesn't seem unreasonable to me.
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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Really, I agree with Renato! What do you find objectionable about his comment? Maybe some men would like to smell like a maid, and that's fine. But most men don't want to smell very girly.

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Looking around at the chaos in my house right now, I'd be thankful just to have a maid: regardless of how she smells!


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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Woah ho! Can anyone on basenotes really be offended by a comment about not wanting to smell like their maids???? I believe I detect a bit of irony, and washery, too.


    I'm sure there are maids amoung us, and I'm equally sure they don't want to smell like the other maids, either. I have no problem assuming the average maid, or waitress, or kindergarden teacher doesn't blow a hundred bucks on a niche scent. The average maid would be wearing a reasonably priced, easily available fragrance. Like one of my personal favs-- Paris.

    But anyway! If *I* spend a whopping sum for a tiny bottle, I want it to smell amazing and special--I don't want to go krogering and have the cashier say 'Oh, that smells just like my Lipstick Rose I've worn today!'

    I *beg* your pardon!!? This is the classic Paris by Yves St. Laurent, I'll have you know. *sniff* I don't wear knock-offs. You should be able to tell that by the genuine Froot-Loops in my cart.


    But I digress. And I confess. I am a fragrance SNOB. I am unreasonably and equally proud of my cream Pur desir de Gardenia in the collectable tiny tins (I have a dozen @ $1.50 each on the half price sale) as I am of my bell bottle of Un Lys by Serge Lutens (full price, shipped from Paris.) They are the best. And *I* know it, because I'm so smart.

    I like Ralph Lauren Blue. But I don't wear it much--I don't want strangers to nod and say "Oh, that's Blue!" Even if they are smiling, and say how much they like it. (Happened to me a couple of times...) I feel like they should as well be saying "Oh, that Nice-N-Easy's #18! It's such a warm golden brown--my sister uses that shade, but I go for Clairol in Honey Blonde. And I see you favor L'Eggs pantyhose--aren't they great!"

    I mean, where's the magic in that?



    Do you see what I'm getting at?





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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    I don't find the comment offensive at all. I can see how some would construe it, but I don't this is how it is meant.

    I think he's saying that people want to wear unique scents that have kind of an exclusivity about them, something the masses wouldn't know of... Like wearing a bespoke suit. Have you ever been to an event and saw someone wearing the SAME shirt that you are wearing? It's embarassing and funny. Kind of the same thing. You want to smell good and mysterious. It kills it when a layperson can immediately say "He's wearing LeMale." It takes an experience and reduces it to shorthand.

    It's the same reason that WE don't wear Aqua di Gio. It has nothing to do with the price one way or another-- It's about finding a fragrance that the average "Joe" isn't likely to smell of. Take your own personal favorite scent for an example. How would you feel if tomorrow, every Tom, Dick, and Harry you met on the street started wearing it? You'd hate it.

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    Also, I wanted to add that as a waiter, I'm at about the same rung on the professional ladder as a maid...

    And I get obviously a perverse thrill in wearing Creeds, L'Artisans, Comme des Garçons...and yes, Malle's Vetiver Extraordinaire to work. I know I mentioned it once--the first time I wore a Creed to work... it was Original Vetiver. And as I was reaching over a table to move a water glass, the man at the table started looking me up and down. I started to walk away but he called me back. He looked at me intensely for a moment, as if something was not quite right... then he just said it "Pardon me for asking you this...but do you come from MONEY?"

    I was taken aback by it. It was the kind of comment that a lot of people would take offense to, but I enjoyed the directness. So I asked him to elaborate.

    He said something like, "well I have a hunch that your family has money and you're just kind of 'slumming it' by waiting tables. There's something about you that just tells me that you come from old money."

    I couldn't even gauge WHY he'd say all this to me out of the blue--then after five minutes I thought it was possibly and probably the cologne I was wearing. A Creed. It was just ODD that a random guy would smell the OV and mistake me for some sort of "blue-blood". For all the hype and criticisms of Creed, this is about as much of a blind test as you'll find and yes, Creeds CAN get you mistaken for the upper crust. So there ya have it!

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    Oh yea, I have received similar reaction at work with Original Vetiver. Theres something about this scent. Its VERY appropriate for work/office wear and is amazingly constructed, mugler cologne or no mugler cologne.
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    I really don't know how to reply to this without getting too political, which I don't want to do, but I suppose that cultural history may have something to do with differences in interpretation.

    To me it's a "pulling of rank" and a putting down of those born in less fortunate circumstance with no regard for their potential.

    (I'm restraining myself heavilly here)

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    Well I also think that taken on it's own, it was a bit of a snobbish comment, speaking myself as a working class person.

    On the other hand, it doesn't necessarily make him "bad" or anything. We all say "the wrong thing", off-guard, now and then and we can't all be perfectly politically correct all the time, it would be too exhausting.

    The context should be considered. For someone like Malle (who according to the article, has "the countenance of a seventeenth century king"), having a "maid" is probably no big deal and the remark was just a slight faux-pas. I also read the thread recently where someone met him in a shop and he was very civil and kind apparently. Also his company are generous with samples, something I have to admire.

    If I was a maid myself reading it, I might be momentarily vexed. Mind you, some maids may well be wearing classy perfumes themselves; we've seen in the post above that there are waiters wearing Creed and L'Artisan to work, so the issue is not a simple one.

    Interesting thread anyway. And some very amusing posts!
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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    hmmm, even though you may not run into people who "know and understand" fragrances and fragrance connoisseurship where you live "more than a few times in a lifetime"...

    i can honestly say that has not my been experience living and working in a large city. but since you probably do not have a Barneys, Bergdorf Goodman and Bloomingdales all within a 2 block radius of your office... i can totally understand how you might have this view.

    then again, maybe they all just want to get me into bed "no matter what".



    Quote Originally Posted by greyhueofdoubt
    -Perfume is not really something that you talk about with people who would otherwise see your expensive suit, car, pool, cellphone, haircut, etc. Those people who do find out what you're wearing either secretly don't care, already want to get you in bed no matter what, or do know and understand what you're wearing. The last category cannot honestly happen to people more than a few times in a lifetime.


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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    frederic malle lives in a world completely different from the one most of us live in... I don't blame him for what he said at all... its completley natural to think and talk like that when you live in 10 million dollar palaces and use a learjet like a car... and if you happen to be a maid and you read this and get mad... well... hey! thats just the way it works. I'm sure you talk down about somebody / some group all the time too. the malle line isn't exactly positioned to be marketed to maids anyways... and no I don't think im anybody special either... im just telling it how i see it

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    Default Re: My friends don't want to smell like their maids

    I still don't see the problem with what he said, but I'm not going to belabor the point.

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