About 5 years ago I went through a period where I wore wear ylang ylang essential oil straight. Not first grade ylang ylang essential oil, but third grade, which works much better as a soliflore, the first grade being far to heady to wear straight.
I think two men's fragrances in which the ylang ylang note is tamed and integrated, but still salient--not an easy thing to do--are Gendarme V and Tiffany for Men. I think a failure to tame and integrate the ylang ylang note can be seen in Damien Bash's Lucifer 3, where its heady and jagged edges are the Satanic horns of the fragrance.
Hadrien Absolu EDP (or Eau d'Hadrien EDP, its identical women's version) has a salient ylang ylang note at its center. Over spraying it, will bring it out to the point of unbearableness. I have found the trick is to take Eau d'Hadrien EDT, where the ylang ylang note is a minor one, and spray it a number of times and then finish off the application with two to three sprays of the EDP. That way, one gets the best of the citrus from Eau d'Hadrien along with a manageable and pleasant dose of ylang ylang from the EDP.