I must have the same problem, either:
1. People around here do not appreciate scent.
2. I don't put off sillage.
3. The places I go lack adequate air circulation.
However, I have reached the following conclusion--I wear fragrance for myself. It doesn't matter if anyone else smells me. I started replacing my EDPs/EDTs with pure parfum whenever possible. It smells deeper and softer, it doesn't bother other people, and it lasts longer on me.
This is a crazy world when people cannot stop to "smell the roses." I am glad that we Basenoters have not lost that ability (or desire) to enjoy our senses.
Unfortunately, I see signs of fragrance use being compared to smoking in terms of using shared "air space." Multiple chemical sensitivity, allergy, and intolerence are on the upswing.
So I carry a small vial with me all day and re-apply frequent, small amounts to my hands and wrists where can smell it most, and enjoy myself. Who knows? Maybe someday, someone will notice.