Crying my eyes out, Sudsy is dead

[Riannon]

Susan Benn

This just appeared as a post on the Test Board, and it would probably go unnoticed there for most members.

Hello folks, this is smelly dolly here,

It causes me great pain and sorrow to have to inform you all that my dear friend and spiritual sister Susan Benn, also known as Sudsy on this site, was unfortunately involved in a fatal car crash in Perth Australia Sunday 30th Sept. I am going to miss her terribly!!! I would like you to know that she spent many happy hours chatting with you all and thoroughly enjoyed the whole exercise. Thank you everyone. God bless.

Smelly Dolly

First you survive cancer and then.......

Sudsy, my darling sweet 'bubbly' woman, the tears I shed for you are not enough to say how I will miss you.
You stole my heart from the very start with your honesty, humor and love for life. Love for us. A love you shared without holding back.

Heartbroken. Please, let there be a heaven for people like my SisterSuds. Please.

[rentboy]

oh my god
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i don't know what else to say.
so sorry to hear this.
suds we'll definitely miss you around here

[the_good_life]

I come here to get away from IT all for a while. And now I see IT is here, too. Such a terrible pointless loss.

"I dont want to start any blasphemous rumours
But I think that god's got a sick sense of humor
And when I die I expect to find him laughing"

(Depeche Mode, Blasphemous Rumours)

[kbe]

What can be said?

You were a bright point in here, and I am sure the same to whoever was fortunate enough to meet you.

Sudsy, me love, wait patiently..we here, and all your friends and relatives, we will all join you at our own pace.

I miss you already.

XXXKen

::gassho::

[TaoLady]

Unbelievable.

None of us gets out of this alive, for sure - but I would have thought we were entitled to a bit more of her gallant humor and "bubbling" ways.

Sad. Sad.

[ineespenes]

I'm shocked My thoughts go to her friend's and family.I know a bit too well how it's like to suddenly miss someone you love.She will be missed.

[Eluard]

Completely shocked. There just aren't any words for how terrible this is. I still can't believe it.

[Indiscreet]

I'm speechless. Life can be so cruel at times. It's awful that she fought so hard to live, only to have her life taken away anyway. Peace, Sudsy. We'll all miss you.

[Gus]

I didn't know Sudsy, but the loss of any Basenoter is a terrible news. Riannon and all the people who were close to her, please accept my condolences.

[mikeperez23]

Riannon thanks for the courage to post this sad, sad news - I am at a total loss for words.

[BrothaG]

That is absolutely horrible news. She was an extremely kind and helpful woman, and losing her so abruptly is something no one could have seen coming. You'll be part of our thoughts forever, Sudsy.

[Lady_in_Black]

May the light guide you home, my dear, where you will not need to worry any more.
Goodbye, Susan.

[eric]

That's horrible!.... so sad.

My condolances.

[sloan_8013]

I give you one thought to keep. . . I am with you still - I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow, I am the sunlight on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift, uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not think of me as gone - I am with you still, in each new dawn.

Native American prayer
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[MFfan310]

I never knew Susan (except on Basenotes), as I live in the USA, not Australia, but this is sad news anyway. Still, all my thoughts and sympathies extend to her family.

May she live forever in our hearts and in perfume heaven!

[musse]

I have no words to express how I feel right now...
Dear, dear, Sudsy - I will miss you so very much...

[Coconut]

Most sincere condolences on the loss of Sudsy...

[Eluard]

Some flowers for you Sudsy — you'll know them, they are common to Australia.

[Sorcery of Scent]

Oh NOOO! I am shocked to the core! *tears*

Suds always bought a breath of fresh air to this place! Already miss ya Suds! :'(
Words cant describe such a sad loss...

[Jock_With_Scents]

Just when we get numb and comfortable in the shell of everyday life, something happens to shock us back to the reality of it all. It is all too fleeting friends. Hug, love, and care for those you love today and always.

[Magnifiscent]

I personally never had the chance to get closer to Sudsy, but I read her witty posts from time to time so, that's anyway a big loss for our big smelling family. May you rest in peace Sudsy, and may the grace and the solace shine on you and on all the people who loved you.

[Twolf]

Lost for words here, just awful!

I got close to Susan because she was a newbie and because she was asking questions and because she agreed to put up my unwanted smellies and because she was very excited to participate in a Blind Sniff and because she had such a bubbly and contageous personality. I wondered if anything was the matter when I did not "see" her here on basenotes for a couple of days. Very sad.

May you rest in peace, Suds!

[maisonstinky]

I don't know what to say. So sad that such a bubbly personality , and someone that was so full of life was taken away by a fatal accident.

Susan, wherever you are , I know you have friends here that will miss you.
May you rest in peace forever. To your family and loved ones we offer condolences and may they have the strength to endure such a tragic loss.

[Otto]

I am going to be honest...I hate stuff like this...When I hear of situations like this, I get messed up. I don't even know Sudsy and tears are in my eyes. Man you just don't know-that's why we have to live life to the fullest. My heart goes out to her family.

Very Sad right now.

Otto

[LiveJazz]

Such a wonderful person. Her posts always make me happier. I can't imagine how amazing she was in person!

An enormous loss

[Quixotiq]

I'm so sorry to hear of Sudsy's passing. I did not know her, but my heart, thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who was fortunate enough to have an impression made on their hearts by this seemingly remarkable woman. I'm sure she will be missed.
I took a look at her wardrobe. In her to test section, it looks like she liked Michael quite a bit.
I wear Michael today as my way of paying respect to Sudsy.

Lux Aeterna,
-Teddy

[Kyra]

It seems surreal that someone so vibrant can be gone so suddenly.

[tang]

I've only been back on the boards for a month, and I didn't know Sudsy, but her presence was enough of a light here that I missed it yesterday and wondered where she was. My heart hurts for her family and friends.

There are no words,

[rtamara41]

I had no idea, and when I posted my sotd, and was scrolling through, seeing folks wearing scents in honor of sudsy...but I told myself, nah, she just got good news about her cancer, something couldn't have relapsed that quickly...
but a car crash?
I am shocked and it will take a bit for this to sink in.

I am sort of trembling realizing how lucky I was to have gotten to know Susan just a bit, to have had the fun of swapping scents with her, pming happy notes about this and that, and being graced with her bubbliness and sweet generous nature. I often thought, there's a woman who knows the value of life, maybe because of her brush with cancer...she seemed so appreciative, so naturally pleased with little things, the little exchanges between members, and discovering a new scent or a new fragrance concept or revelation...

I will miss her very much.
I feel badly for her family.
I hope the end was quick.

[PaulSC]

Sudsy was a bright light here, and even just knowing her from the basenotes boards -- which seems like a superficial way to "know" someone, in the scheme of things -- leaves me feeling real pain at her loss. When I think of the impact this must have on those who were closest to her ... what to say ... such a sad occasion.

The next time I feel any tendency to be snarky or impolite with any of my fellow basenoters -- which I've never done with Sudsy, but I have my moments, most of us do -- I'm going to remember the lesson here. The community here at basenotes really does connect us in a meaningful way.

[rtamara41]

This was the last note I got from Sudsy, on 9/26. So much love bubbling out of that woman...

Thank you Thank you Renee my darling!!!
My work here is done!!
Luv ya,
Sudsyyyyyyyyy

[PigeonMurderer]

"I dont want to start any blasphemous rumours
But I think that god's got a sick sense of humor
And when I die I expect to find him laughing"

(Depeche Mode, Blasphemous Rumours)

"Death is everywhere
There are flies on the windscreen
For a start
Reminding us
We could be torn apart
Tonight"

(Depeche Mode : Fly On The Windscreen)


Goodbye, Sudsy!

[Healer]

This is such sad news. I never knew Sudsy but I read many of her posts here and that almost makes me feel like I knew her. My condolances to her family and others close to her.

Rest In Peace

from a fellow fragrance addict

[lilybp]

Oh, no!! She was so full of life, so kind, funny, bubbly, and vibrant. She made everyone happier who had the pleasure of knowing her (even on the internet). We will miss you, Sudsy. Rest in peace, Susan.

[_R$_]

To me, it seems that Suds was a happy person. It is with greatest respect and honesty that I extend my well wishes to her family. However, Suds will indeed live on vicariously through those that knew her best and those who loved her most. When we die, I'm sure she will be waiting to laugh at you all. Then you will begin to laugh with her. And your pain will be no more.
- Rich

[knightowl]

Sudsy's bubbly personality really shone through in every post. I didn't know her either, but i'll always miss her here.


KO

[fredricktoo]

I didn't know her well. I'm very sorry she's gone though. She was one of of us. One of ours. Goodbye dear lady.

[Zibeline]

I am stunned. When I read the goodbyes I assumed it was a vacation. Unbelievable.

[Delia]

Someone's death is always a sad thing, even if you don't know the person...

It's said that life is full of ends, but each of them becomes a new beginning. Death is certainly an end, but I'll try to see it as a beginning too.

[Marcello]

My sincere condolences to her family and friends. This is terrible, terrible news.

Marcello

[Mario Justiniani]

[QUOTE=Kyra;1071581]It seems surreal that someone so vibrant can be gone so suddenly.[/QUOTE

Yes, it does. Sometimes it all seems surreal. We'd better get our 5 minutes with God after we die. I'd appreciate an explanation.

Meanwhile, my deepest condolences to all her family and all her friends.

Pax, 'alll.

Mario

[TaoLady]

This was her last post....http://community.basenotes.net/showt...p?t=197163.... think she loved The Game even more than the 'fumes!!

[dimples]

Oh my gosh, this is really sad news. My condolences to her family.

Just last week, we exchanged PMs for the first time. She was a very bright light on Basenotes and I always looked for her SOTD posts. I am so shocked and very saddened to hear of her passing.

Thank you for letting us know Riannon.

[shadesofbleu]

This was the last note I got from Sudsy, on 9/26. So much love bubbling out of that woman...

Thank you Thank you Renee my darling!!!
My work here is done!!
Luv ya,
Sudsyyyyyyyyy

Her work here was done ... heaven must have needed a bright and shining light and a new perfumed angel.

Rest in peace, Susan ...

[Eluard]

This was her last post....http://community.basenotes.net/showt...p?t=197163.... think she loved The Game even more than the 'fumes!!

She seems to have last posted around 9 minutes to midnight on the 29th, Perth time. She was gone the next day.

Does anyone know if she left a photo on the Members Pictures thread?

[gupts]

I am just shaken to the core just reading about this...

I had pm'ed her to enquire if she had received her Montale package and when she didn't respond i kept wondering why hasn't she responded. I didn't know Sudsy but by reading her posts i knew she was quite bubbly and cheerful and that she was hooked on to basenotes.

I used to check my pm's daily hoping to hear something from her but....

This is tragic. I am stunned with this. I pray to god that her soul rests in peace.

Sudsy if you can read this from the heavens above, we all want to let you know that we all loved you and would miss you.

You were so witty in your posts. Your happiness in life was splattered all over your posts. We all will miss you.

I wish god gives her family the courage & strength to handle these extremely difficult times.

[linnea]

I haven't been on the board for a few days, but when CologneJunkie messaged me to tell me about this...at first I thought it was a joke. This is so tragic. I can't believe it. Very sad news.

[rompip]

Was wondering why Sudsy was not posting. She has passed away.

Dont know her very well, but from what I do, Bubbly Bubbly Bubbly.

Its shocking news. Like, unbelievable. Really shocking.

Rest In Peace Sudsy

[Indie_Guy]

What terrible news. I enjoyed Sudsy's personality on the board. This is a shock.

[*dora*]

This is horrible news…
My sincere condolences to her family and friends.

[lievje]

What a terrible news.

An angel past away. Rest in peace dear Susan.

[Ascella]

This is so terrible! Life is so unpredictable! And Susan was such a nice person!
We had pm exchanges until 28th, and I have been wondering about if she has received my Blue Amber split, but never never thought things like this could happen!
I feel really sorry for her family, and may you rest in peace Susan.

[pluran]

I'll miss Sudsy.

People have a hard time with death because they don't understand it, and when someone dies it amplifies their feeling of vulnerability. And so, there is always quite a bit of resistance around the subject, and resistance means you don't let the energy flow, so it's usually not a very pleasant experience. Imagine, in one fell swoop...in something faster than a split second, releasing all resistance. Releasing all doubt and worry and fear and guardedness and relaxing into that feeling of knowing your well-being (emerging into non-physical, the joy of pure positive energy).

[tdi]

I'm so sad. What a tragedy. Life is so very fragile. My heart goes out to her family.

[Nicolas V]

It is a moment like this that reminds us of how precious and fragile life is, and of the inevitable journey we all must make, ready or not. Although I did not know Sudsy, my heart is heavy with knowledge of her passing and my condolences go out to her family.

For what it is worth, I have included this poem, from Jalal al-Din al-Rumi:

Al-Ghazal
when i die
when my coffin
is being taken out
you must never think
i am missing this world

don't shed any tears
don't lament or
feel sorry
i'm not falling
into a monster's abyss

when you see
my corpse is being carried
don't cry for my leaving
i'm not leaving
i'm arriving at eternal love

when you leave me
in the grave
don't say goodbye
remember a grave is
only a curtain
for the paradise behind

you'll only see me
descending into a grave
now watch me rise
how can there be an end
when the sun sets or
the moon goes down

it looks like the end
it seems like a sunset
but in reality it is a dawn
when the grave locks you up
that is when your soul is freed

have you ever seen
a seed fallen to earth
not rise with a new life
why should you doubt the rise
of a seed named human

have you ever seen
a bucket lowered into a well
coming back empty
why lament for a soul
when it can come back
like Joseph from the well

when for the last time
you close your mouth
your words and soul
will belong to the world of
no place no time

[Süsser]

I am so sorry about this sad news. I was reading in the SOTD thread and read about "in memory of Suds" and now I read this.
We didn't know each other very long, but we just "met" and had very nice mail contact.
She was a very sweet lady, I really liked her.

Suds, I will miss you :cry

[NEoTY26]

Although I have never met Sudsy, everyone in this thread shows how she was such a great person. I'm so sorry for the loss

[ajmc]

My sincerest condolences go out to all her family and friends. I know she will be missed here very much.

[Quarry]

Oh, God, no. Susan. Susan.

I was thinking only yesterday how every several months a new personality arrives here at basenotes and shines their light on all of us in a new and vibrant way and that this past summer that special person was Sudsy.

Dear Susan: I thought we might speak one day, and I'd test your native Canadian accent against the influences of your adopted country, Australia. Thank you for the Joy--you know what I really mean. I'm really going to miss you, girl. You know, we could have celebrated our birthdays together. If there's any chance for us to meet someday, please have some tea with me in those beautiful chintz china teacups you treasured. Love and hugs from Quarry

[jasper_244]

Dearest Susan, I will miss you so very much - although you were on the other side of the country I knew we we closer than that - Your mails always cheered me up - your enthusiasm and kindspirit and generous nature all added up to a beautiful person.

Suds was a good friend to me in my time of needing a friend the most - I only hope that all of us can take a small piece of Suds wonderful "jump in and live" attitude - Please extend the hand of friendship to a total stranger wherever possible - you never know who you need and who needs you.

I wear Pamplelune in your memory today - thankyou for this gift

Again I will miss you terribly - god bless - Ed