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    He's not gay, but he knows the difference between mauve and periwinkle. He loves his fine fragrances and takes his time buying clothes. And with those clothes he has matching shoes. You may even run into him at the day spa getting his eyebrows done or getting a pedicure. He likes women alright but he likes to look good too. The metrosexual . . .

    Personally, I like nice fragrances and nice clothes but it kinda ends there. So many of my friends however have turned into metrosexuals. I want to go shoot hoops on a Saturday morning but they want to get their nails done or have a stylist appointment from a month ago with some schmuck with more vowels in his or her name than consonants.

    For a while this was the "thing" and the US turned a bit more "european" (which somehow became synonymous with civilized?). But now there seems to be a backlash. I'm noticing more and more girls turn to the rugged Marlboro man who doesn't know his Eau de Parfum from his Aqua Velva. The t-shirt and jeans cowboy with a little dirt under the nails is coming back. I wonder if this is just an LA/NY phenomena or if it's happening in other parts (the rest of the 50 states or the world). A few incidents in the last month have made me curious.

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    I, for one, think that there will always be a market for guys with good taste. I think that there might be girls that are sick of effeminate "metros", but I don't think it is much of a "movement".

    One defining factor of a supposed "metro" is that they are confident in themselves. I don't think you're going to see these same confident guys simply adopt an entirely new set of habits and style cues.

    "Metrosexuality" (for lack of a better term, unfortunately), is not a fad. It is a label that has been placed on people who are living their lives in the way they see fit, which, amusingly, has nothing to do with sexuality and isn't meant to provoke any sort of specific response. "WE" don't want to be called that. I obviously say that, having been labeled one myself. I don't give a sh*t if girls appreciate the fact that I'm well-groomed. This isn't for them. This is simply ME, taking care of myself in the best way that I know how to and surrounding myself with things that I find interesting and attractive.

    If there ARE guys (and I'm sure there are) who are going to go out and consciously revamp their image to accommodate any supposed impending movement away from "Metrosexuality", means to me that they probably weren't really "one" in the first place (I'm proud to belong to this group, but hate the label) and should probably try and find out who they are for their own self, not someone else and not to satisfy some stupid style trend.
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    Labels suck, because there are always exceptions. Just dress for the occasion and you won't have anything to worry about. I wouldn't wear the Vera Bradley quilted handbag I'm about to get to a Broadway show, but it's perfect around here.

    And anak, it sounds like your friends are moving in a different direction. Do your thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anak View Post
    He's not gay, but he knows the difference between mauve and periwinkle. He loves his fine fragrances and takes his time buying clothes. And with those clothes he has matching shoes. You may even run into him at the day spa getting his eyebrows done or getting a pedicure. He likes women alright but he likes to look good too. The metrosexual . . .

    Personally, I like nice fragrances and nice clothes but it kinda ends there. So many of my friends however have turned into metrosexuals. I want to go shoot hoops on a Saturday morning but they want to get their nails done or have a stylist appointment from a month ago with some schmuck with more vowels in his or her name than consonants.

    For a while this was the "thing" and the US turned a bit more "european" (which somehow became synonymous with civilized?). But now there seems to be a backlash. I'm noticing more and more girls turn to the rugged Marlboro man who doesn't know his Eau de Parfum from his Aqua Velva. The t-shirt and jeans cowboy with a little dirt under the nails is coming back. I wonder if this is just an LA/NY phenomena or if it's happening in other parts (the rest of the 50 states or the world). A few incidents in the last month have made me curious.

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    I don't understand what metrosexuality has to do with being effeminate... I think it's all about taking care of yourself and keeping yourself well groomed. I also think your friends are a little overdoing the whole thing in general - stylist over sports? I have a lot of metrosexual friends (and don't shy away from the term myself) and they are nothing like this. All of us like to dress nice and bottom line (from my experience) - women will (9 out of 10 times) - go for the well groomed, well dressed guy rather than the rugged guy wearing a rock band shirt or something... And hey, if she's going after the latter, she's not my kind of girl anyway... Hell, all the girls I know swoon more over Brad Pitt in Ocean's 11 than Brad Pitt in Troy...

    Of course, it doesn't matter how you dress if you're not confident... any confident guy can pull off any girl, whether he's clean shaven or sporting stubble.
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    I thought the Metrosexual died a long time ago. It was replaced with the Ubersexual almost 2 years ago. Now I don't know what the fad is as I don't really keep track of these things.
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    Found this in the Urban Directory, what a hoot

    Here are six quick and easy ways to tell the difference between being ubersexual and metrosexual:

    1. Both are passionate, but the ubersexual is passionate about causes and principles.

    2. The ubersexual spends more time grooming his mind than his hair.

    3. Both treat and respect women as equals, but the ubersexual considers other men, and women, his best friends.

    4. The ubersexual is more sensual and not at all self-conscious. He doesn't need other people to tell him he's sexy.

    5. The metrosexual gets his design tips from the Fab Five, the design gurus from Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. Ubersexuals get their ideas from travels and interest in art and culture.

    6. The ubersexual knows the difference between right and wrong and will make the right decision regardless of what others around him may think. The metrosexual knows the difference between toner and exfoliant.

    The current icon of Übersexuals is Bono. He's global, socially aware, confident, and compassionate, and he commands a huge base of followers who are fans of his music and his humanitarianism. Other notable ubersexuals are Bill Clinton, George Clooney, Jon Stewart, Pierce Brosnan, Donald Trump, and Ewan McGregor.
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    I was on board with you until Bono came into the picture.
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    Yeah, that list is hardly inspiring! I guess George Clooney is OK, and Jon Stewart is good. OK, maybe Ewan McGregor is a good actor. The rest though are complete phony zeros.

    Of course people have the right to whatever style they like and amount of grooming they like, but I do think that there has been a push in the last ten years by advertizers to get men to be as neurotic and self-obsessed about their bodies as women unfortunately are.

    I didn't really know much about these trends until I went back to university a few years ago in 2002. In my first class, sitting in front of me were two guys. They were wearing tight shirts, with big muscles, and tight pants. They had really neurotically overplucked eyebrows, and short spikey hair with blonde highlights and they had earrings. Without thinking much about it, I just assumed they were gay. Of course not all gays dress any particular way, and most of the gay people I am friends with don't dress that way, and I love to wear tight clothes, and tend to wear alot of purple ... but the point is that in my previous experience, the only people I've ever known who dressed that in that combination from the plucked eyebrows to the highlights, and muscles etc were always gay - and in fact in my cultural lexicon, that was the style you wore if you're gay and part of the gay club scene, and you're proud and want to show it out loud. They looked like a gay stereotype, the way a guy with long dreads, and a big tricolour hat and sandals, and africa necklace is a rasta stereotype.

    But when one of them raised his hand to ask a question I almost fell out of my chair, because it turned out that both these guys were total meathead macho Italian jocks. They'd probably sock me one if I insinuated they were gay. Eventually I figured out that what in 1998 was flaming gay clubber style, in 2002 had become average jock style. In the 90's a jock wouldn't be caught dead dressing like that, and if he did, he might end up the victim of a hate crime unless it was halloween!

    So funny!

    But really, I think girls should be the ones to become less obsessed and insecure about their looks, instead of guys going in the girls direction. But of course in a consumer society, that's not likely to happen...
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    If that's the list of Ubersexuals one would be considered in some form of social communiion with, I think of Groucho Marx's line: I would never want to belong to any club that would have me as a member.

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    I never heard of ubersexual before today by the way. Sounds like some really weak marketing schtick!
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    LOL this thread turned into something way cooler than I ever intended. I personally don't care I wear what I want and do what I want. Hell I went drag in a play I acted in once then went out with the cast in "guyliner." But I was just curious what people thought of the phenomena.



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    You attract what you put out, basically.

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    Well, I didn't get on this board in a while due to lack of time due to my work(amazingly, I got some contracts and stuff :P) and college, so I'll make my return.

    Metrosexuals aren't insecure. There's no paralel between your style(or lack of it) and how confident with yourself you are. I bet a lot of guys that say that they are the epitome of machismo because they have hairy armpits and chest and don't care about how they look and girls should like them because of this, are insecure and use this macho stuff as an excuse for it. I don't know, I have a fairly poor opinion on most people. Now, getting over this thing... I'd take most metrosexuals over the nasty chimp anyday. Of course, I, and most girls(it's a guess), don't like guys who are over-careful with the way they look(for instance, that go to a spa to get their nails done), but we despise(at least I), the greasy, hairy etc guy.

    I also agree in a way, that girls should rely on other things than looks in getting a guy because if the only thing you have is looks, don't expect a relationship to last and be based on more than sex. Plus, don't expect to be with someone over 30 because they'll probably ditch you because your looks would be degrading already.

    And I do thing that Europeans are more stylish than Americans, but most of that European=civilized stuff, is just marketing. And good marketing that is. But again, Chanel, Dior, Prada are European and Abercrombie and Fitch, Hollister is American.

    Anyways, to sum it up, I think that those who label people as metros are the insecure ones and they do it because they're jealous on the guys who do take care of themselves and look better. I could type more, but I'll probably bore enough people anyways. :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by bebe_delia View Post

    And I do thing that Europeans are more stylish than Americans, but most of that European=civilized stuff, is just marketing. And good marketing that is. But again, Chanel, Dior, Prada are European and Abercrombie and Fitch, Hollister is American.
    I think so as well... They say that the US is 1 to 2 years behind Europe in fashion. In other words you will see Americans wear things that were popular in Europe a year or two ago... While I don't think the gap is that big, there is a noticable lag...
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    With the whole Metrosexual/Ubersexual thing: Its funny that who you are can be a trend.
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    I got called metro-sexual the other day. The girl's rationale was that I was wearing a black long sleeve t-shirt that actually fit and I hadn't shaved. Apparently, when one resides in the midwest, wearing anything besides overalls pretty much gets you labeled as a deviant. Pretty sure if anyone found out I was on this website, the rest of Kansas would burn me at the stake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KMF View Post
    I think so as well... They say that the US is 1 to 2 years behind Europe in fashion. In other words you will see Americans wear things that were popular in Europe a year or two ago... While I don't think the gap is that big, there is a noticable lag...
    The gap becomes very noticeable when you figure there is another 1-2 year lag on what is popular in America's rural areas. You're looking at close to a 5 year difference between Paris and Nebraska.

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    When I lived in San Fransisco, everyone wore black. I was back - and it was black again.

    But kidding aside, I have found that in the capital/international cities (London, NYC, Paris, etc. etc. etc.) they are much more experimental that in the Midwest of the US (where I grew up) and in the 1-2 years it takes for it to filter into those regions, the ones that "didn't quite work" are usually discarded along the way. (I was also briefly living in Cambridge England in the mid 1990's and saw that people in London were somewhat more fashionable than in Cambridge - so I do not think the US Midwest has the "lock" on the 1-2 year lag)

    With the internet and improvements in communication over the last 15 years I do believe the lag is reduced somewhat.
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    Spanish and ITalians are the most fashionable people. Been to London, PAris, Barcelona, Ibiza, Milan, Rome, Piza and some other cities and those two countries are the most fashionable by far.

    I might come to Toronto, NYC, Chicago, DC and tell you what I think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bebe_delia View Post
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    never heard of the term Ubersexual, sounds like oversexual.
    I think if you meet men from Europe you generally tend to think they're gay because of how much care they put into their looks, but then you realize it's part of the culture. They always present themselves the best way possible when they go out, thus hair gel, cologne, nice clothes and matching shoes. I can understand that, but I like the more rugged look on men.

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    Fragrances, clothes, shoes, accessories and body care are all some of the greatest pleasures in life. If you chose to ignore them (because you want to "be a man" or otherwise), you're missing out on a lot of fun.
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    I have also spent time in Spain and in Italy, infact in most European countries at one time or another, and there is now without doubt a fashion culture that is crossing borders (such as they are in the EU) We seem to be borrowing from each other and fitting it in to our own locale. I believe that fashion is born from little communties and not from label stores in the cities (they follow us) the right pair of shoes in a cutting edge underground club in London will fit perfectly with the right pair of trousers from Madrid and people will notice this and add say a pair of sunglasses to the look. This way of dressing and presenting oneself is catching on in Euro-land. We are after all the same country more or less. One day with better comunication and opportunity to travel it'll be truly global. I was born too early, I so wanna see it, be part of it because the seeds are being sown now in so many different ways.
    I have followed cutting edge fashion or at least like to think so since I was a young teenager, I'm now 50+ and I'm still at it. lol
    Metro/uber/rufty-tufty/anything ya like, it's all an expression like cologne or dropping your razor in the bin or the hair cut that you wear or any other thing that a man feels he is at the time on the day. I like to think I'm all things, and in an ideal world neither man nor woman, just a human being living thankfully in a world that allows me to do so. Straight, Gay this or Trans' that is so yesterday. Enjoy being you. As Lonnie Liston-Smith once said "express yourself ! "
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    Default Re: Death of the Metrosexual

    There's a guy at the gym who looks amazing... Both style wise and body wise. I'm pretty approached so to speak, but when he said hi(I was on the inner thigh machine thingy because when I was a newbie there I used that), I didn't know what to reply. I felt what guys feel before they approach me I suppose. So yea, dress nice and go to the gym FTW! :P

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    I guess I'm not a metrosexual after all. While there is something to be said about dressing nice, taking care of yourself, and trying to look your best- I think for most men plucking your eyebrows on buffing your nails borders on unnecessary vanity. And alot of the push for "metrosexuality" was indeed from marketters salivating over the possibility of turning mens psyches into maleable playdough just like they have done with women.

    Besides, there are some things out there that are worth having that you cannot buy at a store and wear, there is no beauty product or accesory that's going to transform you into a substantive person if you are completely empty on the inside. Sure, people are sometimes impressed by expensive clothing or fashions, but very often these people are not really worth impressing and won't add any value to your life in the end. There is more to self-improvement than just a makeover.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bebe_delia View Post
    Spanish and ITalians are the most fashionable people. Been to London, PAris, Barcelona, Ibiza, Milan, Rome, Piza and some other cities and those two countries are the most fashionable by far.

    I might come to Toronto, NYC, Chicago, DC and tell you what I think.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bebe_delia View Post
    I felt what guys feel before they approach me I suppose
    Wow. Now I know this thread hasn't seen any activity in a month but I came here via the related topics section and I can't help but comment. It seems we have finally been blessed by god guys. Upon us has been bestowed a creature so beautiful that no man would feel confident approaching without at least 3 valium and half a keg down.

    And on another note, please stop talking about "In Europe this, in Europe that" because your Europe clearly differs from mine...

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    Wasn't proper grooming and care for the thoughts of those around you considered as just part of being a gentleman?, and something that every man should practice?

    Now being a Dandy is something different, but not bad. It is a tad more effemiate (from the traditional sense of the word), but has been around for far longer than the new "metrosexual" terminology fad. Look at Ralph Waldo Emerson and Rudolph Valentino; both very famous Dandy's who projected themselves the way the wanted to decades before the word metrosexual ever existed.

    I personally am a bit more conservative and "bespoke" in my dress than a Dandy would be, and don't feel that I could pull off the look. I have friends that look great in a pair of disigner jeans and floral print t-shirts, and would look rediculous if they dressed the way I do. I say act and dress the way you feel comfortable, just be conscious and considerate of those around you.

    What a boring world it would be if everyone and everything had to be the same.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Merlino View Post
    Wow. Now I know this thread hasn't seen any activity in a month but I came here via the related topics section and I can't help but comment. It seems we have finally been blessed by god guys. Upon us has been bestowed a creature so beautiful that no man would feel confident approaching without at least 3 valium and half a keg down.

    And on another note, please stop talking about "In Europe this, in Europe that" because your Europe clearly differs from mine...
    Merlino, for some reason, I doubt you would have said the first part of your post in my face.
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    I couldn't help but to notice you are really generalizing in your last post.
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