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    Default Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    whether it is other peoples' comments that might make you feel a bit guilty or perhaps your own realisation that maybe you have too many scents that get you feeling a little guilty. i know i get that way sometimes but then i justify it to myself by saying there are far worse 'vices'. i am not sure though how many scents is too many, i own about 27-30 but i know many on this forum own considerably more than that but i also know i am certainly going to add more to my own collection since i always seem to have a list of at least two or three 'must have' scents. i don't think i am addicted to buying fragrances but i cannot forsee any time when i won't be purchasing them. i think we all believe/hope that the next one we buy will be 'the holy grail' of fragrances and i suspect that is what drives/motivates many on this forum. am i right or wrong?

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    The most prominent nation on here is a consumer culture. That is what motivates many of us. Consume and be happy.

    I feel bad about having five bottles right now. Look at America's economy! I don't know whether to spend to feed it or to change currencies and get out of the country.

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    I do sometimes feel guilty, no question. I started to elaborate, but I think I'll leave it at that.
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    Yeah, I've really got to stop buying stuff. I've accrued quite the bill in the last month. At first it was like, "Well, I need this scent for X event" and it's evolved into "whatever I smell for more than 5 minutes at one time."

    Anyways, yeah, I wasn't looking for the Holy Grail. I already found mine. I just wanted to fill out my wardrobe. And eventually I found a dressy(Prada Amber pH), then even dressier(Guerlain Vetiver), and even MORE dressy(Chanel Antaeus), then finally the dressiest scent I could find, which is Montale's Steam Aoud. So I'm putting my foot down. I can't possibly dress up for Steam Aoud.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Yep, I do. Right now, I need roses petals, white aoud, Fleur du male la cologne and Domenico caraceni EDT, shaving cream and shampoo, but I already have too many bottles. As for looking for a Holy Grail, it is not my case. It is unrealistic and boring. what is wrong with having the perfect smal collection?
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    Quote Originally Posted by dynendal View Post
    Yeah, I've really got to stop buying stuff. I've accrued quite the bill in the last month. At first it was like, "Well, I need this scent for X event" and it's evolved into "whatever I smell for more than 5 minutes at one time."

    Anyways, yeah, I wasn't looking for the Holy Grail. I already found mine. I just wanted to fill out my wardrobe. And eventually I found a dressy(Prada Amber pH), then even dressier(Guerlain Vetiver), and even MORE dressy(Chanel Antaeus), then finally the dressiest scent I could find, which is Montale's Steam Aoud. So I'm putting my foot down. I can't possibly dress up for Steam Aoud.
    Hey Dynendal - Where did u find the Guerlain Vetiver in Vancouver if you dont mind me askings?

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    What's the point of feeling guilty? If I had, I wouldn't have bought them all, and if I did now, I would get rid of them. I have given some away, but only remnants of bottles for which I got fresh replacements.
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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Feeling guilty about owning non-essentials can be examined in many areas of possession in your life. Car, home, clothes, books, DVDs, food, TV viewing time etc. Some think even a single fragrance is excessive luxury. For others there will never be enough frags in their collection. As for me, I am grateful I can afford to buy what I buy. And no, I don't feel guilty about doing so. I just try not to make fragrances into something I would be miserable living without. I would certainly miss having them but if for whatever reason I coundn't have fragrances in my life it wouldn't be something I couldn't get over.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FlyingLotus View Post
    Hey Dynendal - Where did u find the Guerlain Vetiver in Vancouver if you dont mind me askings?
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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Never. Not even when I temporarily had the market cornered on Nicole Miller for Men.

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    I did feel guilty when my purchases were impulse buys. These days I plan my purchases and test well before I splurge. I still have a large collection i.e. > 40.
    If you're spending within your means and you think carefully before you buy don't feel bad.
    Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels so good.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Nope; not even a little bit (and, at last count, I own 56). I'm divorced for years, no more paying child-support, and I buy for my twenty-something daughters, as well. I don't use (or have any) credit cards, so all my purchases are with cash or debit card. I've never been late with any regular payment; i.e., rent, utilities, cable-TV, etc.

    Now, there are some fragrances which I bought early-on, that no longer give me the pleasure they once did (and I sell 'em at very reasonable prices to people on the B&B shaving forum). But these days I buy higher-end products, and I do test them before buying... sometimes.

    Hey! If you're into guilt, go to church!
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    Nope! Not even a little. It makes me happier actually.

    Kinda like playing Pokemon. Gotta catch smell 'em all!
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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Guilt is a waste of time. Screw it. The only important lesson is that there are actions and their consequences. If you can live with the consequences, it's all just fine. You're going to be dead a really long time. Enjoy yourself now.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    i never feel guilty.

    but at the same time, i never wanna be someone with 100s of bottles....no offense, of course to people who do have 100s....i just feel that my enjoyment would be less with too many.

    but i always enjoy my 'roster'...and i'm never ashamed of this hobby OR any of my other hobbies. live it large, if you can...i say.

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    Guilty? No. Bored of a scent? Yes.

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    No never. I don't have much time for guilt. You only get one ticket on this ride, so I'm busy enjoying the ride.
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    never feel guilty about what you do or like in life, because if you start feeling guilty then you shouldn't have started in the first place i think. got one life to live and thats it, i suggest we all live it to the fullest.

    Quote Originally Posted by moltening View Post
    Nope! Not even a little. It makes me happier actually.

    Kinda like playing Pokemon. Gotta catch smell 'em all!
    Exactly my point!!! Makes me sane from school, puts a smile on my face everytime I get a new bottle and especially when I get compliments that I smell good.

    GOTTA SMELL EM ALL!!!
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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Nope!

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Because I never use money on perfume that ought to have been used for more important things like food, bills etc.

    We all have discretionary money-- if I choose to use it on perfume instead of on clothes or iPods or travel, that's my prerogative.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    I have three full bottles and a couple of decants, so not really.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 30 Roses View Post
    Because I never use money on perfume that ought to have been used for more important things like food, bills etc.

    We all have discretionary money-- if I choose to use it on perfume instead of on clothes or iPods or travel, that's my prerogative.
    Yeah that is the key. This summer they raised my school tuition by 1000 USD per semester, so in theory I should not be buying fragrances. Moreover, other than perfumes, I am a man that enjoys certain level of frugality and moderation. I do not have an Ipod, I love my 4 year old cell phone, my 1 year shoes and my last century but ultra economic Toyota. I guess I should forget about grad school and just finance my EDT acquisition disorder .
    But one of the things that used to get me is that I am a privileged member of my family. Some of my close relatives earn as much money in a week than what I spend on fragrances alone. Now, I do not feel guilty about me, but I wish things were different for them .
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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    We do not deny natures senses of hearing, sight and feel. I see no reason to deny myself any less the diversity of fragrance.

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    It's art. We can live without it, but who wants to?
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    No, because my humble collection was recently lost in shipping when I moved from Europe to the US.

    On the bright side I just received an order of Rive Gauche, Rochas Man, and Dolce and Gabbanna pH from Scented Monkey. Yahoo!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kumquat View Post
    It's art. We can live without it, but who wants to?
    "Man does not live by bread alone."

    "Art is equipment for living."
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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    I don't feel guilty. What Astaroth said. However, if you feel bad about spending the money on a luxury, then I recommend some things that I do:

    (1) Live poorly in another area of your life, or maybe even several, to help balance things. I find this to be a morally helpful thing in any case. I have old, rusty, and fuel-efficient wheels, and generally fix stuff rather than replacing it. This isn't for everybody, but it's not a big stretch for those of us raised by Depression and WWII survivors. It leaves more cash for everything, including fragrance, too.

    (2) Give more to charity.

    (3) Give away some of your fragrances, as samples or bottles.

    (4) Only bottle on the stuff you really love, and get samples for the rest.

    Finally, if people think it's weird that you own a lot of fragrance, and that's what's really bothering you, just be honest about it. You want to be a fragrance expert. You simply cannot become a real one without owning a lot more fragrance than most people (you could do it with only samples, but it's still a ton of fragrance). Firearms authorities, golf pros, craft teachers, whatever - if you don't own a boatload of crap associated with your passion, you will NEVER become an expert. Gun nut, golf fanatic, perfume freak, climbing bum - people will have names for you, but they are the ones who have no hope of ever gaining true expertise. You do. Pat yourself on the back. You're a colognoisseur (Quarry's term). The world needs a few. You volunteered.
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    I like the previous post by RP. Plenty of good sense in his comments.

    I, for one, do not deal in guilt. With one exception: I feel bad when I hurt another living creature.

    Now, I have felt a little *stupid* after a less-than-properly-researched fragrance buy! But as others have said, one can always give or trade or sell a no-longer-wanted bottle.
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    I do not have any reason to feel guilty about owning anything, be it fragrance or other items. I am not taking anything away from anyone else by enjoying myself and purchasing that which brings great joy to me. If everyone on this earth had a little more joy and a little less guilt we would have a very different experience here. If buying fragrance makes you feel guilty there are several choices that I posit for you to consider. You can either:

    1. feel guilty and do it anyway;
    2. stop buying fragrances;
    3. buy fewer fragrances at a time, or less frequently, or
    3. realize that you are doing something that you love which makes you feel good and are harming no one in the process. Enjoy yourself.

    If, however, you are compulsively buying and are doing so by spending beyond your means, then that is a situation that you might consider addressing; but I suggest that if that is the case then it ultimately has nothing to do with fragrance buying per se. It is my experience that people who compulsively spend beyond their means will continue doing so until the spending compulsion itself is dealt with directly. It ultimately has nothing to do with the thing being purchased. If it wasn't this it would be something else.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel guilty about the number of fragrances you own?

    Quote Originally Posted by mrclmind View Post
    ...realize that you are doing something that you love which makes you feel good and are harming no one in the process. Enjoy yourself.
    Hear, hear!

    I also agree about the shopaholic component. If it's not this, it's something else. One must deal with that issue, not fragrance buying per se.
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