Thanks for your note, and welcome! We are always glad to hear from new and not-so-new folk.
You are presenting many complex facets. Here is one suggestion. Try to sample the Comme des Garcons Incense line. These are complex, moody, intriguing scents. They are a bit niche and yet not "out there." There are several different ones, you may find one or more to you liking.
I love Kyoto, Zagorsk and especially Ouazarzate.