There's nothing feminine about Dior Homme - it's just not spicy and herbal-heavy. Plus, the leathery drydown is anything but feminine. I'm not sure when iris and cocoa became associated with makeup, but now that a couple people have said it this description seems to have stuck.
That said, it's impossible to really make recommendations based on just a couple criteria. I recommend you go to websites like beautyencounter, luckyscent, or beautyhabit and just order a bunch of samples. You'll find something you like.