welcome to basenotes and thanks for that elaborate description! you have exceptionally good taste i must say...and i msure guys here would be able ot recommend you some great stuff...
here are some of my recommendations...
Bond No.9 Riverside Drive
Bond No.9 Chez Bond (i actually want to recommend Creed GIT, but it's too controversial and somehow people always complain about their purchase in the end)
Dior Bois d'Argent (available at neiman marcus)
Lorenso Villoresi Uomo
Penhaligons LP No.9