Is B* Men a gourmand? I thought i'd read that it was a citrussy frag. Be sure to double check if that's what you decide.
My favorite from your list is easily Lempicka. I blind bought it last month and love it. Rochas was nothing special to me though my female companion at the store was losing her mind over it. It's very linear on my skin, but straight vanilla and lavendar.
A*men is an interesting frag and multi-faceted, but it just doens't do much for me. Plus, everyone has it and you won't stand out if that's important to you.
I'd strongly recommend Lolita for you. The aniseed/licorice note is fantastic without being cloying. It's complex and very unique, withour assaulting the senses. I got several enthusiastic compliments by female coworkers on it and i love tracking the drydown.
The only drawback possibly is that I wouldn't wear it everyday. Not in hot weather (fine in cool or moderate weather). and despite not being tooooo cloying, its an intense experience and might beat you over the head to wear it every day. (they do make a lighter "au fresh" version.
Given the list, Lolita is the temptress you desire.