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    yep, Hoarder, I admit it.Every hobby I've ever had. In the knitting world we have a label for your collective yarn supplies called SABLE (stash accumulated beyond lifetime expectations) My fragrance hobby is fast becoming SCENT accumulated beyond lifetime expectation, But the perfume bottles actually takes up a lot less room than the yarn does, and I don't have to do anything to it to use it- just enjoy .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ruggles View Post
    It's fascinating how the process of self teaching requires one setting up their very own institution.
    Yes......those around me would agree that it's most definitely a mental institution.

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    Several years ago when my FIL died, my husband found himself the executor-- and I found myself with the job of clearing out his house and selling/consigning/donating the contents. He was in no way an accumulator but even so, the job was exhausting.

    It made me think about how I really, really don't want to leave a huge clean-up for my daughter when we die. This is motivating me to get rid of things we aren't using now and to continue doing so as we grow older.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 30 Roses View Post
    Several years ago when my FIL died, my husband found himself the executor-- and I found myself with the job of clearing out his house and selling/consigning/donating the contents. He was in no way an accumulator but even so, the job was exhausting.

    It made me think about how I really, really don't want to leave a huge clean-up for my daughter when we die. This is motivating me to get rid of things we aren't using now and to continue doing so as we grow older.
    My inlaws held a big auction when they downsized into an apt from a bigger home, each member of the family got so much to bid with if they wanted anything. They also do this when members of the family pass away, it's a tradition among the Mennonites. My family fights over everything and I don't want to get involved in that, so I never ask for anything.

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    Beachroses, what an interesting tradition! And sensible, too.

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    I would LOVE to live by this quote by William Morris:

    Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.

    So I guess I need to think about fragrances in these terms. I seem to find a lot of them beautiful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haunani View Post
    I would LOVE to live by this quote by William Morris:

    Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.
    This is something i read many, many years ago and have lived by ever since. I give soooo much to Good Will and try to regularly. The only thing i keep backups for are scents and soaps, of course basics in life also.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brielle87 View Post
    This is something i read many, many years ago and have lived by ever since. I give soooo much to Good Will and try to regularly. The only thing i keep backups for are scents and soaps, of course basics in life also.
    What a great way to live! Congrats! I hope to get there someday. I am finding myself with too much stuff lately. Closets from hell, and not enough time to clean them out.

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    I'm with Ruggles on this. A little obsessive behavior. Was obsessed with a computer game once, spent months on it, read all I could about it. Then it was diamonds, learn a lot about them, offer customers advice on diamond selections (but obviously they are way too costly to collect). Now it's fragrances and I've watched my full bottle wardrobe growing fivefold though I've tried v hard to keep new frags to samples and decants... Wonder what's next?

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    Yeah I'm a hoarder! I can relate Aromi. One speed---balls to the wall. I usually disappear from BN through most of the summer to ride my bicycle like a madman getting 5000+ miles in, then become a slug in the cooler months and go nuts with frag hunting. I've had so many obsession over the years. I feel part of it's healthy to the point of occupying my time and my brain, but then I way overdo it financially and that's a bad sign. HELP!
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    Quote Originally Posted by JickyMan View Post
    Yeah I'm a hoarder! I can relate Aromi. One speed---balls to the wall. I usually disappear from BN through most of the summer to ride my bicycle like a madman getting 5000+ miles in, then become a slug in the cooler months and go nuts with frag hunting. I've had so many obsession over the years. I feel part of it's healthy to the point of occupying my time and my brain, but then I way overdo it financially and that's a bad sign. HELP!
    Bro....I know of only one way to excel at any undertaking....and that is to go for it full bore. Yes....it's obsessive and compulsive, but the end result is becoming accomplished at something in a short period of time.

    There's downsides to every behavior known to man. Our behavior is sort of like a blessing that's extremely heavy to carry.

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    Hoarding is bad in financial terms due to compulsive overspending, unless you put some efforts in turning it into a productive activity. That is what I am into. So, sooner or later, this hobby must turn into a business.

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    In all areas of non-perishable consumption...
    I am an extremely discerning and selective...
    ...HOARDER.
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    I would say I am a Micro-Hoarder. If I like a fragrance, I buy 3 of 4 bottles. This has served me well, because almost all of my multiple bottle purchases are now discontinued. I do limit my spending, and now it is almost nil due to my finances and the state of the economy. The term hoarding has a negative connotation. In a positive role it is stocking up, preparing.

    The day after Pearl Harbor (Dec 7th), my Grandfather went out and bought 300 pounds of Sugar and 20 cases of canned Coffee. He knew what would be coming. The result was he and Grandma had coffee and sugar during WWII. He never sold any of it because he would have been accused of being a hoarder.
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    Are you a sick person if you know you are hoarding to the point of absurdity and refuse to clean up, despite complaining nonstop about the mess you live in? I am desperate -

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    Are you a sick person if you know you are hoarding to the point of absurdity and refuse to clean up, despite complaining nonstop about the mess you live in? I am desperate -
    Maybe not sick. It depends on what you mean. A psychological problem like OCD? I think the collecting bug can just get out of hand.

    Your choice of language – "desperate" – has prompted me to post because I felt the same way and sometimes still do. Collecting anything can become a real problem if it reaches the point that you get uncomfortable or stressed about it.

    From your post it seems that you are referring to hoarding that is not limited to frags. So I'll share a bit in the hopes this may help you or others.

    I go through hoarding/purging spurts. Collecting frags is a recent interest, and I am trying to keep them under control. In my younger days the hoarding was really quite bad and it took some time to realize that I was living in a very organized mess. It became very uncomfortable physically and mentally.

    If you feel that you live in a mess, consider the following:

    A) Why do you hoard or obsessively collect something? For example, is it for 1) "future use"? Realistically, if you haven't used / read / touched it etc. in 6 months to a year, you never will. Really! 2) Collecting for emotional gratification? Things are just things and can't love you back. 3) For memories? Despite Kodak's best advertising, you really don't need all those reminders. Memories are most vivid in your own mind. 4) Are you afraid of a shortage? There will always be more. You might not think so, and it might take a little time, but when you run out a replacement will come your way.

    So try to take a step back and look at why you're doing it, and try to address the root problem.

    B) Have a vision of how you want the space around you to look like (clutter-free).

    C) Start weeding out your spaces to make that vision a reality. Just start with one room. Take a few hours on the weekend and focus on it. Get some big boxes or garbage bags and be ruthless. Once finished for the day either donate it or take it out to the curb immediately. Next weekend, move on to the next space, and then the next. Step by step.

    There are plenty of "systems" you can check out. My family was introduced to the Fly Lady site (http://www.flylady.net/index.asp) by a friend. It provides free information on keeping your home clean. I don't actually use this system – a little too compulsive for me – but there are some useful de-cluttering tips (http://www.flylady.net/pages/FLYingL...luttertips.asp).

    We are works in progress. Hope this helps someone out there.
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    Thank you Bon Vivant for the words of encouragement - I will begin to trash junk one bag at a time this weekend so help me!

    reine

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    Quote Originally Posted by Haunani View Post
    I would LOVE to live by this quote by William Morris:

    Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.

    So I guess I need to think about fragrances in these terms. I seem to find a lot of them beautiful.
    This meaningful post needs a bump.

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    I am an "organized mess" type of hoarder.
    It's one reason that I participate here heavily for a few days and then leave for months. I think I average buying a bottle a day during any stretch that I am regularly reading and/or posting here. I, like several others, enter into hobbies with the desire to learn, but acquisition is the inevitable result. Obsessive behavior, indeed. Really, I ought to sell off the excess and stay away from here. Perhaps I will get there eventually.

    Thanks for bumping this. I needed to read it.

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    I don't think that I'm a true hoarder but lately I've been buying much more than 'normal' because of the 'updates' (read: ruin) of some of my favorites. I'm not sure when stockpiling will change to hoarding.

    Before the reforms, I was totally fine with an extra bottle or two tucked away. Now it's developed into this sense of unease...regularly checking eekBay,... sending little 'I'm interested in...Please let me know if' notes to random vintage online sellers.

    I've also gotten into more lemmings lately (not as bad as my early MakeupAlley.com days) in hope of finding similar scents..for 'just in case', to bridge the days, & w/ foolish hope of finding something better and more plentiful.

    I envy the time where one could have a signature (or even a stable of signatures) and totally relax knowing that they'd be available and still intact.

    Recently, I've been thinking about perfume way too much... in a stressful, sweaty, Smeagol-y sort of way...not in my old fun, rhapsodic sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Haunani View Post
    I would LOVE to live by this quote by William Morris:

    Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.

    So I guess I need to think about fragrances in these terms. I seem to find a lot of them beautiful.
    I agree completely, both with the William Morris quote and with you about fragrances. If they bring you joy, they're beautiful.

    And I recognize the cyclical nature of my own obsessions, as with Ruggles the obsessions almost always are related to something I am trying to understand more deeply. So I end up with "mini-collections" (or not so "mini") and sometimes purge them once I'm done with the learning. (I recently did a purge of the Tarot card collection, it no longer interested me...)
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    Yes, I spend far too much time and money thinking about, indulging in, and buying fragrance. Whoreder maybe, but not a hoarder.

    Oh my, that is bad. . .

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    Guilty as charged for being a "hoarder"...I tend to purchase duplicate shower gel, lotion, and EDP of each fragrance in my stable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mysticknot View Post
    I cannot just buy one bottle - I have to stock up and buy 2 ,sometimes 3 bottles of the same fragrance in case I run out !

    OR (don't forget, and ad this to your reasons if you haven't already!) in case it will ever get reformulated!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by greendragon View Post
    If I like a fragrance, I buy 3 of 4 bottles.
    Me too. Most often, after a while I discover that I don;t like the scent anymore, or at least, not that much to need more than one bottle. Wasted money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by w3pearl View Post
    Me too. Most often, after a while I discover that I don;t like the scent anymore, or at least, not that much to need more than one bottle. Wasted money.
    But you may be able to resell an unopened frag later at more money if it has been discontinued or reformulated, some folks will pay to have the original in box won't they?

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    I can be a hoarder when it comes to fragrances. I already have too many for my regular use and it's very hard for me to let go of any of my bottles because I genuienly like all of them and do enjoy using them once in awhile. I've always felt like this way about fragrances. As a result I haven't bought anything for months. I really would like to buy a couple of new scents but I'm fighting the urge--not until I get rid of a few bottles.
    The problem is I find it's hard to sell used bottles and even if you do, it's a complete waste of money (i.e., if they're not super exclusive or vintage and add to that postage, etc.). You might as well give them away to anyone who wants them (I have no one like that) or the the Salvation Army (very likely to happen). My sales thread has alwasy been very unsuccessful. Swapping is also not an option if you're trying to reduce.
    I also used to keep numerous sample vials, many for "reference" purposes. I've reduced those numbers drastically. I enjoy them in one or two shots when I don't know what to wear and have kept only a handful as permanent "reference."
    However, I have definitely stopped blind-buying (what little I ever did) and will only buy stuff that I test several times and I know is unique and very evocative for me.
    This is a hobby and I don't see "collceting" as a big problem. Especially because I was always interested in the packaging and ads and not just the juice. But I can only afford so much money and storage space. Sigh...

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    I just finished reading Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things by Randy O. Frost and Gail Steketee-- fascinating reading. I definitely saw some of my own tendencies in there, but thankfully I'm quite not that far gone.

    Nevertheless I do need to clear out some accumulated things that none of us needs any more, especially in the basement where everything that isn't dealt with immediately tends to gravitate in our small house.

    And having given some of our bookcases to my mother for her new apartment that we moved her to after Dad died last month, I now have laundry baskets full of books with nowhere to put them. A very good time to give some away to the library's ongoing book sale. Some of my perfumes and samples have found a new home as well this week.

    One of the hardest things to clear out is art/craft supplies. With a teen who is artistic and who is forever having to make projects for school, I don't dare get rid of the fabric & craft paints, the polymer clay, the papier maché, the pipe cleaners and popsicle sticks and adhesive letters. The brushes, rubber cement, the felt, even the shoeboxes. Especially the shoe boxes-- I've lost track of how many projects she's had that required shoe boxes! I wish I could fling it all!

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    30 Roses, I know how it is with the art supplies. I studied fine arts and accumulated paints, paper, clippings, etc., etc., etc. There was *always* a use for something - in my head. But realistically I never got around to using half the stuff I saved, if that. Something that really helped me deal with that particular accumulation problem was one of those plastic drawer sets (approx. 4 feet high).

    I kept only the things that were too expensive to replace (gold leaf, calligraphy pens), and ditched quite a lot of the remainder. I tossed the Duco Cement (gasp), old mouldering paper, and the tins - the tins! Biscuit tins that were supposed to be so useful for projects and holding *stuff*, but never held anything at all. (Shoeboxes anyone? ) It's really tempting to chuck it all, and realistically you can toss most of it out on the curb.

    Suggestions from an artist:

    1) Have your aspiring artist sort the stuff herself, whatever she thinks is indispensable and will fit in one of those draw sets or another designated space.
    2) Ditto for paper products: only the cream of the crop that will fit into a large manila envelope.
    3) Save only 3 shoeboxes, of varying sizes.

    Old paints separate, dry out, etc. Papier mache will get soggy or musty. Rubber cement is cheap and can be replaced when the time comes. The hassle of having to go out and buy specific supplies when it's time for the project is easier to deal with than the mental and physical burden of saving so much stuff.

    Hope this have given you some ideas that might help. And thank you for the book tip! Will have to check it out.
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    I like the idea of having her sort through the stuff! She may well have a different take on it than I do, and you are right about its being easy to replace a lot of items, with a Michael's craft store only one town away. Right now the supplies are on different shelves in the basement but consolidating makes sense. Then she wouldn't have to involve me in hunting for specific supplies.

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