Find a barber who knows a thing or two about cutting, trimming and/or shaping beards and let him do it. I have rocked a beard for about the last 3-4 years and I couldn't have done it without the help of my barber, Manny. It's just too hard and too detailed oriented for me to do myself.
And for what it's worth: I also have people who LOVED my beard when I grew it and also HATED it. I stopped trying to please both camps (when I would shave it certain people would be happy and certain people would be upset...WTF?) and just wear it because I LIKE IT.
I think most guys with beards, if they wear it with confidence and they don't shave it into stupid, silly designs, look HOT. But that's just me.