Since perfume is a sensory pleasure it's easy to see how it can become an addiction. But I"m wonderng just what it is that people are drawn to.
for example, out of 15 fragrances that I"ll sample, i'll like 1 enought to buy. This means that 14 are either OK or flat out crap. So I can't imagine that it's the smell that is such a draw.
Personally I like getting packages in the mail. The thrill of pulling out a padded bundle is such a draw. I also like to write reviews, because the creative process needed to describe an olfactory experience using visuals and adjectives is just plain fun.
i do get discouraged though when i go through a streak of stinkers. i do like to find at least one every now and then that "Id like to buy.
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So many both sensory and even intellectual/artistic/spiritual satisfactions I usually associate with a frag.
In most cases, even if it is just a subjective impression, I feel instantly submerged into an elusive world of class, uniqueness, extravagance, grace and beauty.
I've just had a run of good samples that I'd like to have a decant of (I don't buy FBs), and that has been great fun. Before that it was a run of blahs along with a few stinkers.
I guess I'm addicted to smelling new things all the time, hence the sampling and perfume-making addictions.
Yes, I also love the thrill of getting packages in the mail.It's like Santa calling !
There are so many good scents out there, I cannot restrict myself to one perfume anymore, though for 2 decades and more ,I did ! Go figure how someone can change like that.
I actually find this a difficult question to answer. Lol.
Smell was always important to me; a beautiful scent was something magical whether it came from a bottle or not. But I used to go through cologne only one bottle at a time. Sometimes I couldn't justify the expense of buying a second fragrance, sometimes I had the "you have to finish what's on your plate" mentality, and then I also found a lot of the fad frags uninspiring. Oh, what a difference Basenotes has made! BN opened a whole world of possibilities.
So now I find myself going to the mall once a week to hit Sephora and some others shops to test, test, test. There's the joy of learning about smell and scents in general - and love of the smelling experience.
And, if I'm honest with myself, part of it is the thrill of the find and anticipation of the buy. If I fall in love with a scent - enough to buy a bottle - I'll get a sample. And then I'll figure out how soon I can get it. And I build up the anticipation. Getting it in the mail is a special event. And of course once I have it, I get to use it.
And this is the way it has been with every enthusiasm I've had. Something important to me finding an outlet.
From many of the above posts it seems that experiences are what matter most to us. The experience of smelling a scent, hunting it down, writing about it, and sharing it. Maybe we're just addicted to new experiences?
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I think it is the thrill of something new and unknown every time because you don't know what's going to happen or how it will smell. Also fragrance brings memories and images into your head about who would wear what and when you would wear it. Especially if a fragrance is loved by many and is hard to find that makes you really want to try it. I think it is a new adventure, we always need to find something to stimulate our minds and senses.
The biggest thrill is the challenge of becoming a slow and gradual 'expert' by each sniff of a new scent. To have met a whole forum of people who share a passion and to be able to discuss the finer parts of a frag in detail that may bore the pants of someone....'normal'. To read a review and know exactly what each person is referring to, and to go and have another sniff if someone mentions a new undetected whiff. To chase out and find smells that evoke past memories very strongly, or people. All these things are good things....
The big fat downside is the creeping costs. Swapping is the way forward with this addiction.
I was describing to my hubby the above discussion about the thrill of getting packages in the mail. Before I even got a chance to agree with it, he said, "Oh, that's you, totally."
I still haven't quite figured out how I got from being someone who was happy for the first 20 years or so to have just 3 or 4 nice bottles of perfume at any given time, to being this person who has 50+ full bottles now and is constantly wanting more. (And I realize that's still a small collection compared to many of you.)
It's more than the scents and more than the mail that brought me here.
For me, I think the thrill of the hunt has something to do with it, too. I like to "hunt" for new (to me) scents, and when I sample something good, I enjoy "hunting" for the best price on a full bottle.
I also love "hunting" for unexpected perfume treasures at antique stores and thrift stores.
Because there are so many different fragrances.
Because it's history and culture.
Because I can play with it.
Because I can feel classy and expensive doing the laundry. I can't do the laundry in a ball gown.
Because it's so personal.
Because it's so fun.
Because you can learn so much.
And, very important: because it's invisible.
It's not very invisible on my bendy plastic.......
It's invisible when you wear it and that's very important for me. Very personal.
Well as far scents are concerned i never prefer them buying without smelling them and by just reading unknown people's comments on them.
The only reason i might go to buy some perfume online is that i would have smell that somewhere on my friends's shirt or in market.
The only reason to buy a fragrance is its SMELL..
For me it used to be the thrill of the hunt to acquire something new. This was also under the guise to find my Holy Grail scent. I was brought to my "senses" so to speak when I moved. Excess! I've since weeded out my wardrobe and have tempered myself considerably.
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That sounds like a plan. It may take some time, though.
It's like the AA program.
It's gotta be "one day at the time".
Start finishing some fumes, and not buying new ones. Resist temptation at all time - and mayheps finding new temptations?
We're all addicted to the idea of finding that elusive holy grail.
I like getting packages in the mail, too.
I also love writing reviews, sometimes being descriptive and precise about the way the fragrance unfolds on my skin, sometimes being poetic about it. I try to stick to the first way of writing reviews though so if I write something poetic it's because it came to my mind on my own, not because I was searching for a metaphor. This is because for me perfume is a sensory experience. I started wearing and trying new perfumes because I can lack assertiveness in everyday life sometimes, and here it was -- an absolutely safe way to try something and say "I love it, I can see myself wearing it every day" or "this is total crap, never again". Sounds silly, but it's not always easy for me to say in a different context. However... several FBs later I wouldn't call it completely 'safe', but I am still comfortable expressing my immediate feelings and opinion without feeling bad for them.
I love going to perfume stores, looking at all the precious bottles, trying and sometimes buying.
I love a feel of beautiful perfume bottles in my hands.
I love trying a new sample each morning and I love choosing a scent from a FB to wear during a long day.
I like knowing that there's something new to look forward to trying.
Admittedly, my addiction has been curbed--financial restrictions were my antidote. Lacking the patience to fully appreciate a fragrance before purchasing, it is still love at first sniff with me. I do tire of fragrances easily which is so surprising that I've narrowed my preferences to about two that I vacillate from. For me, it is the thrill of becoming acquainted with something new...having an olfactory sensual fling. Now, I have entered a comfort zone with a couple of constant companions.
I've thought about this...and for me, I think it's the frisson of pure joy when I smell something that smells exactly right, and the hope of finding one perfume more like that.
I think deep down , I am still searching for the HG - if I am honest. The one that lasts, the one that brings me complete joy and becomes me. Impossible ,i suppose.
It's not about finding the HG for me at all. Not about receiving a package in the mail either. I enjoy being at a store and actually looking at and touching the bottles more. I was always drawn to good smells (including comic books as a child, etc.) and fragrances AND their presentation. Of course, the scent has to be pleasing to me but my most favorite ones are those that evoke memories or a sort of escape for me.
I like the idea that it's a type of hobby that you can enjoy throughout the day while doing other things i.e., work (unlike painting for example, which I havne't touched in a few years...). I enjoy the complexities like the development of the scent on the skin.
Financial restrictions do curb my purchases. I hold out for a long while and then manage to get some more.
My main problem is I can hardly let go of any of my bottles (I have convinced myself to do so with a few). Each one gives me pleasure even if I get to wear it once every six months. However, I'm really trying to work on this and I'm trying hard to let go of some. I'm not comfortable with a very large wardrobe but I guess it's a little late...
Also thought of this. Just look at how enjoyable it is for a lot of us to see each other's fragrance wardrobe photos. Just looking at those bottles, is really a lot of fun. I may not want to have many of them and may already own a lot but it's still nice to look at those beauties. For me, it's that many-layered work of art in one bottle that is thrilling to look at. Just like at a store.
Hmm. After giving this some thought... perhaps we are simply a little "hedonistic" in some ways... we love the sheer joy of scent. the sheer joy of an experience... the joy (and sometimes the sadness) of life... and we sense all of that in perfume.
Revel in life and what brings us joy! What else do we have?
I hate the feeling of not knowing what I'm talking about when discussing something I am interested in, so I obsessively try to learn about it...only to realise that I still don't know what I'm talking about (compared to the next level of knowledgable people).....
A smell high and bottle porn.
Plump packages in the mail.
The thrill of the chase.
The joy and wonder of discovery.
The awe at the perfumer's art - be the fragrance wearable or not.
The challenge of learning to describe a scent... not to mention revisiting high-school chemistry (!)
The delight at finding scents that remind me of places I've been to, people I've known.
(and lol@hirch_duckfinder and zztopp!)
im addicted to scents themselves and the attention they seem to draw
I agree with Warum on many points. I would add that the sense of smell is our most powerful sense for memories and for recognition. Babies know their mothers by sense of smell. Memories are restored by sense of smell. Fragrance is very seductive.
It is magical!
This leaves music on the internet with a good set of headphones, a fine cigar after a great meal ( I believe the last one I had was in October, 2009), great films to see--and fragrances.
Now, about saving pennies to declare bankruptcy--well, I seem to be in good company these days
As in other of life's pleasures, to many the fragrance journey is as important as the fragrant destination.
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I think I'm addicted to the images I get in my own mind if I really like the name of the fragrance. I realize that marketing has a lot to do with my obsession and so I try to curb my imagination. For example; Black Diamonds by Elizabeth Taylor. I spray it on and suddenly I find myself dripping in diamonds sitting in the back of a chauffered limo with my very spoiled Bichon Frise. If I smell a fragrance I like, I wont buy it if the name doesnt capture my imagination. I dont want a fragrance called Lavendar or Rose. I want Evening In Paris, Moonlight Path, or any name that stirs my imagination. Last week it got the best of me when I bought Wild Musk. I pictured myself out in the forest running through the branches while being chased by Indians who were intoxicated by my fragrance. Imagine my huge disappointment when the fragrance turned out to smell like a marshmallow/baby powder blend.............the last time I checked, babypowder/marshmallow has been removed from the "wild" list. So sad.........
I was talking with my DH about this last night.
Sometimes this world is so harsh, there are so many horrible things we see,hear and read about.
To be dramatic ,I sometimes feel my soul is being poked, prodded, scatched and such - perfume is a lovely intangible salve for it .
Good thread, BayKAT.
Perfume can be an addiction, just like anything appealing to the senses or interests. Some people are addicted to food, wine or cigars. (OK, the wine has alcohol and cigars have nicotine. I am not talking about those substances.) I think it is easy to have a hobby in which one gets carried away. One person's addiction is another's "passion." Some people collect watches. I myself never understood this...but to each his own...chacun a son gout.
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"No sweet perfume ever tortured me more than this." Desert Rose by Sting and Cheb Mami, Album 1999.
Besides all else that has been mentioned here, I think I am addicted to the fact that perfume accompanies whatever else is happening that day. It is my silent refuge. My secret pleasure. I use a particular fragrance to enhance whatever mood I am in. It can boost my confidence, my happiness level, make me feel super sexy. It can bring to mind a particular day, or past experience. It is calorie free, yet oh so delicious. The sheer pleasure I get from inhaling a well loved scent can almost bring me to my knees. It is liquid magic.
Yes, Scent can be the salve, the complement, the mood matcher or mood setter... can evoke memories of happy times or bittersweet memories. The material cost of scent sometimes pales in comparison to what it can bring to the moment.
Again, I'm trying to "weigh in" in a quite belated and off-topic, thus quite redundant and inconsiderate manner, but Mario's post on this thread made me acknowledge a both pleasant and painful passion of mine: I am fond of cognac, in a manner almost equal and as passionate, as with fragrance- and almost equally costly and thus financially unsustainable for me. I'm only sorry, that apart from Courvoisier and Frapin 1270, I have such little knowledge of other fragrance houses in connection with and/or inspired from cognac ranges. And, I'm also sorry to break another quite unpleasant off-topic news to you: the two even more exclusive ranges of Remy Martin cognac, the "Black Pearl" and the "CASK 43,8" ranges come in only 786 bottles each, so even if we, the cognac loving Basenoters had Forbes list kind of money, we would most likely not come across these most likely sold out, very scarce bottles. In a certain way, the same principle applies to some of our fave (and alas, not only niche) fave frags- with all these limited editions and multiple, usually irreversible, discontinuations of many great classic frags, I'm afraid that, apart from the frag prices rising at a completely unaffordable and unsustainable pace, the really top of the line frags will become increasingly scarce and sadly limited to not just very pricey, but also very limited access, collector markets.
I'm looking for a perfume that gives me perfect rapture; a frisson or an olfactory orgasm-if I may. Most of my perfumes do that for me. Some-like Allure make me feel warm and cozy because it reminds me of my mother and happy times spent together. But, mostly-I'm looking for that rush of pure pleasure when I happen to turn my neck and get a sniff of Une Rose or Ubar.
The scent - especially, for me, of roses, which I find comforting and uplifting. Taking me away to a better world, even in the midst of the struggles and tasks of every day. A private pleasure, to be indulged anywhere, any time, and yes, calorie-free indeed. Plus the thrill of the chase, the lure of the unknown, the next sample that just might be the absolutely perfect one, the HG! But mostly, the scent itself, which to me is a link between the physical and the spiritual worlds we live in.
The answer for me is simple ... I made a pic for a recent blog and I called it "Why" meaning this is why I do this ...
Admittedly I don't look quite as bad as the woman on the left but I sure feel that way a lot!
As flip as it seems, I really need this ...
He isn't poor because he lacks money but because everything he wants is unobtainable ...
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As a kid my parents used to call me the 'magpie', because i used to plant my face in the window of every jewelry store to look at the shiny colours. As long as i can remember i have been a collector of things that enthral me such as wine, whisky, analog synthesizers (..) and now this And as always i went through the cycle of 1: ooooooo! nice!!! 2: gotta have it 3: gotta have ALL of it 4: NOW! 5: now i need to understand it and create it myself (this has done my credit no good obviously but it certainly made life full of flavour and experience.
I guess the main theme through all of these experiences is this:
people want beauty, some are happy with a few things of beauty, others chase the idea of beauty itself. This chase of course is never finished but the chase says something about the person itself. Whether it be jewelry, art, music, poetry, knowledge, you name it, everything that appeals to the senses and imagination is in my idea a reflection of the platonic idea of beauty. The more one is captivated by that idea, the more his or her life is likely to show signs of this behaviour. I myself certainly do. almost anything can awaken that feeling in me, from food to music to smell and thought. The pursuit we have here, with perfumes, is in my view of the same category. One of my favourite smells is that of a good quality oud. It can really transport you to a different place, to childhood memories, in the same way as music can or art. We like to listen to different types of music for that very same reason so why not with other sensory experiences? Hence the holy grail, that ultimate reflection of what it is we are looking for.
On the downside, this desire to 'own' or 'acquire' the symbol of beauty itself can 1:bankrupt you 2: has plenty of other unhealthy side-effects amongst which is a dissociation or continual dissatisfaction with the current state of 'being'. but maybe im getting philosophical here
in any case, these are my 2 cents
My name is Mike and I'm a fragaholic.
There, that feels better. Seriously, lately, it's all I think about. I bleed Silver Mountain Water. In between the joy it brings me, I have short glimpses of worry. Why do I keep buying? I don't regret my purchases. I love almost every one of them. If I don't love it, I put it away thinking I'll give it another chance later or I'll trade/ sell it. Lately, I have to sneak them into the house or lie about the price so my other half, an accountant, doesn't kill me. Yesterday, I bought two (two!) By Killians travel sets (spectacular, btw). At this point, my wallet can pretty much handle it, but only because I believe it's money well spent. I rationalize it by saying, Well, if it gives me that much pleasure, it's worth it. I love it all: the packaging, the bottle, the marketing, the online chatter, the reviews, the chase, the shopping, the package at my door, but most of all, I love the fragrance itself. I love the concept of owning a smell. That's the ultimate for me. Saying, I OWN that beautiful scent. Bottled beauty. Bottled emotion. And I OWN that. Am I nuts or does anyone else relate to that?
For me - there is thrill in the search , the beauty of the perfume and bottle - like you, Mike; the thrill in the buying process and the receiving process ( packages coming in the mail ! ) .
After these years of buying perfumes ,my many bottles, I look at them now and I see my mortality .It would take me 3 lifetimes to go through what I have and I only have half of one lifetime left.
I am trying to be brutal with myself and sell the ones I will never finish .
I am no longer looking for the Holy Grail , it found me years ago and I couldn't see the wood for the trees. Mitsouko . Always there, even the new extrait version smells like me ,to me. It's like the correct piece of a jigsaw- the best peice. So why the hell do I buy anything else ? ( See 1st point- the thrill . The addiction - it is no longer fun after a while. )
I will always love perfume and try new ones because it's an art form but I have to place limits on my perfume lust or it will get out of hand again.
I believe it's just in my "addictive" nature...I am the same way with watches...although, they get much more expensive very quickly...either way, I think it's everything together...something new, feeling like I'm a part of something that I wouldn't have discovered on my own(in the "know")...I almost feel the same way with women and cars...lately it's definitely fragrances though...can't stop sampling them...I think about it in the shower,etc. Hopefully it tapers down a little without completely fading since I don't want to lose interest completely...thanks for listening...
It is one of the only ways to experience art at any given moment of the day should one feel the desire. It reminds me that every moment of these trivial little lives of ours is art, and is beautiful.
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Most of all, I enjoy hobbies (collections) that reward research, intellectuality, and tenacious devotion. I'm a helper, and the other day at Sephora I was able to help a guy find a fragrance he liked based on what he was into. That alone felt like a reward for the money and time spent...
For me it's all about the stimulation. I enjoy music (sound), food (taste), art (sight), and of course fragrances (scent). I'm an HSP, so when I encounter the right fragrance, my mind goes crazy. It's not easy to explain, other than the fact that it's almost like watching a movie except you're experiencing it first hand. If I'm wearing the right fragrance at the right time and at the right place, everything feels right in the world.