Welcome to Basenotes! I think you are in exactly in the the right place! I find that most members here don't actually "call any mens fragrance "cologne" and any womans fragrance "perfume"". Some members get sooooo detailed and obsessed about whether their juice is EDC, EDT, EDP, extrait, vintage or re-formulated and the various attributes/characteristics of the aforementioned categories that their passion is addicting. And so, we have a community where a lot of folks are going t o agree with you 100%. The rest of the world- not so much.
Love your user name, BTW