No, not really. People are different and we all have different taste in things.
Thread: Does it make you kind of sad...
...that other people don't really appreciate fragrances or have extremely limited tastes in them unlike people on here? I've been seeing someone lately and he hates everything I own except Windsor, GIT and Aqua Nautilus. Pretty much all he likes are fresh run of the mill fragrances other than those. He told me I smelled like an old man while trying out Tuscan Leather by Tom Ford (which I loved) today and he haaaaatttees Bois d'Orage on me, which is one of my absolute favorite fragrances. Grrrrr
It's annoying when a partner dislikes some of your favorites, but I don't mind if the public at large appreciate the quality of my scent when I'm wearing an Amouage or an MPG or a L'Artisan or what have you. I wear scent primarily for myself. It is my own little olfactory story that I get to enjoy for the day.
Phil, don't worry....TL and Bois d'Orage are very nice frags. Maybe if you keep wearing them, his nose might "open up" to the real beauty of those perfumes and might actually start liking it.
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So, lack of depth in exploration and understanding, by defintion, equals shallow. A shallow society. We've got more than ever to look at, listen to, read learn and explore, and yet as a whole, we appreciate less of it than ever.
Just think: Jazz used to be the popular music of its time. That's actually kind of mind-boggling to me.
Different strokes for different folks ....but at least we are all enlightened !
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Sometimes I do get sort of aggravated, but I don't need other people to enjoy fragrances as a hobby. I just wish more could recognize it as one.
It actually does make me sad :[ it makes me really sad when i show my gf all my cool colognes, and the ones she ends up liking is my friends aqua di gio or something
Good post SOS, I agree completely. It makes me sad that people nowadays has no passion for arts, poems, novels, philosophy or anything that might make existence feel more profound and meaningful. Metaphysical hunger is gone, and we've entered the trivial happiness of the termite nest. Life can be understood only in economical or scientific way. To quote Oscar Milosz; It's an age of jeering ugliness.
It makes me more than kind of sad.
More like 'pity' actually. That they don't get to explore a whole new world with one of God-given senses. It's like stubbornly choosing to wear shades of one color when the world is so much more colorful... I guess that IS kinda sad, isn't it?
Yeah it makes me sad, my girlfriend for example didn't appreciate most of my not so common fragrances, but now she steals from me all the time, I guess I made her appreciate more complex and higher quality fragrances. As with most young girls at first the only things she liked are fresh fragrances or sweet non-offensive gourmands. Whenever I make her smell something woody, spicy or what have you, she asks "why would you want to smell like this or that" but she changed
However, she still criticizes my obsession all the time, and asks "do you have to go through your fragrances 5 times a day" and I reply "it's enjoyable and I have to keep my nose trained". Oh well, it still bothers me, sometimes it's not easy for people to understand that one can get obsessed with a hobby. At least she enjoys some aspects of it. Maybe the best start for you is to start buying things both of you like, and slowly drag him in there. L'Eau D'Ambre Extreme by L'Artisan did the trick for me and my partner, she just fell in love with it and slowly got introduced to the more uncommon and niche perfumes
It only makes me feel more superior...
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At first, it did make me kind of sad to "stand out" rather than "blend in" (and bear in mind, my frags are mostly designer, so not even particularly rare, exclusive, upscale, high-maintenance or experimental) and thus only get mixed or negative feedback on my fragrance tastes, but Basenotes made me embrace both everyone else's and my own diversity- rather than avoiding it or brushing it off.
I'm fortunate that my other half and I both discovered this world at the same after a visit to a small, handcrafted-perfume store where we spoke we a perfumer at length and watched as she made perfumes before our eyes. It was then both realized what an art form this is. I'd suggest something like that. Almost like going to a vineyard might help someone appreciate the effort and artistry that go into winemaking.
Actually, i don’t think that people who don’t have this hobby don’t appreciate perfume, but do it in a different way. Maybe even in a better way, because they wouldn’t know the scent is good but rather feel or smell it. While i might think, oh, i like how the jasmin blends with the spices, someone else might just think, oh, that’s sexy – or not.
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It's tough when your wife is not as "enlightened" in the world of colognes. For example, on vacation a couple of weeks ago, my wife presented me with a can of Axe Dark Temptation body spray. Not bad for Axe, but wouldn't most basenoters go for Rochas or A*Men instead?
It does suck when you're at the department store and you know more about the fragrance than the person selling it to you. It's even sadder when you ask them for a fragrance with coriander in it, and they don't know what it is.
Then too, this is the beauty of BN, we all unite here with our "obsession" and not have to worry about people who don't know what coriander is lol.
Don't worry. Be happy.
No, not really. I hate baseball and I imagine that would make some folks sort of sad. To each his or her own.
No I do not get sad.....I don't understand why anyone would not want to smell good.....Fragrance is such a wonderful world to explore.....I can't imagine going out without fragrance.....I feel that fragrance is a form of art and fashion.....The history of fragrance is also a very interesting study.....I just Love fragrance.....Niche, Designer, Private Label, Drug Store and on and on!!!
No it doesn't make me sad. Or angry, or whatever.....
About the only thing that slightly annoys me is that some of the fragrances I really like don't seem to match up well with what the ladies like. But hey, I guess that's what they make massage parlors for, right?
Not sad, but I was thinking just last night how powerful the sense of smell is vs. how little people really pay attention to it. I purchased some frankincense oil recently because I wanted to know what it smelled like exactly, and immediately and unexpectedly the scent took me back to a Halloween night in 1984, with a memory as powerful as a videotape.
I suppose it is unfortunate that many people choose not to seek out enjoyment in such things as fragrances, but similarly, I cannot imagine missing out on the joy of seeing a performance of Rachmaninov's Third Piano Concerto -- but the majority of the population would not care to see or hear it.
To me, Nautilus Aqua captures the ocean far better than numerous other scents, Erolfa included. And he can obviously identify the quality in GIT, something that escapes many.
In your position, I'd only feel sad if he said that GIT and Cool Water are exactly the same.
I know that Americans are generally sensually uneducated or unappreciative. Some people believe that typical, bland WASP tastes date back, culturally, to the Puritans -- so perhaps it's memetic. When one considers the spiciest thing in their average daily grind is a shake of black pepper on a baked potato and an NPR joke heard during commute, you may begin to suspect there is an almost anti-hedonist mentality.
If you really want to see the extent of this, get the book -- or read it for free on the website -- "Stuff White People Like".
I dont care what other people think ... although I do get quite fed up when people tell me its a waste of money , you know the kind of people that will spend £100 on a night in the pub
This might not be the case here - hope it isn't - but I've run into several versions of the "because you like it I hate it" game from women, and even male acquaintances, over the years. It's a childish control thing. If you suspect that's what's going on, you'd better directly confront the person who's pulling this on you. Otherwise, it will just go on and on.
If it persists, you need to remove this person from your life as soon as you can.