since you already seem confused, I'll go easy on you and recommend only one fragrance, which should be easy to find. YSL M7. It's unique, perfect for winter, masculine and mature, yet warm, intimate and very relaxing. It has aoud in it which might smell like medicine to you if you're not very familiar with, but it'll grow on you. And most girls I know find oud attractive, in a sort of relaxing way.