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    So I read a thread over on the starting board about someone looking for a fragrance for their wedding and it got me thinking. We associate memories so strongly with fragrance that I can imagine it being a bit daunting to decide what you would wear for this day. I'm interested in what people would or did wear and their reasons for that. I'm single, and I can't say I've given it much thought til now, but I'm very curious.

    What would or did you wear and why? What entered into that decision? What others did you contemplate and rule out, and why? Would you choose the same thing now?

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    I wore a multifloral knit dress for my casual, outdoor wedding and the fragrance I chose echoed that: Laura Ashley No.1 .

    I will give only this advice to people choosing a wedding fragrance: buy extra and store it in a cool, dark place-- because odds are, it will be discontinued or reformulated, and then you will be glad you still have some of your sentimental perfume.
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    Do you still have some 30R? If so, do you wear it often? I'm so curious about these fragrances that signify a huge day or event, and how we experience them that day, and then in the years that pass.

    Do you still love it?

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    Great thread - I think that was my post you are referring to that started the idea. Thanks for starting it, and I look forward to reading everyone's answers.

    Just to fill in a little bit more: I was totally thinking about the issue you alluded to about fragrances being associated with memories. I'm sure my brain and misterben's brain are going to be forming a lot of memories on that day, and I do want to be able to hint at them by bringing out the fragrance again. Additionally, I just want to feel especially glamorous and sexy since I'm going to be the center of attention, and am going to be wearing a dress and hairstyle and makeup I'm never going to be wearing again in my life (I'm a pretty low-key kind of girl fashion-wise).

    Choosing this fragrance is a bit more complicated for me since I'm completely new to the world of perfume, but nevertheless I have already-formed ideas of what I like and don't like, and am learning quickly as I explore samples. I realize that whatever I pick out might end up not being the OMG be-all-and-end-all perfume of my entire life, so I'm not stressing out too much about selecting the "wrong" one - it should just be something that I like a lot, that seems right for my personality, and that I will want to wear again.

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    Default Re: What would/did you wear for your wedding?

    Quote Originally Posted by elizrj View Post
    Do you still have some 30R? If so, do you wear it often? I'm so curious about these fragrances that signify a huge day or event, and how we experience them that day, and then in the years that pass.

    Do you still love it?
    In those days I had no idea that my pretty bottle sitting on my dresser would be spoiled by light. That bottle is solely on display now; it is not wearable.

    I bought two bottles on eBay, sealed, but both had lost their top notes, one worse than the other; sometimes I wear it and try to ignore the spoiled first 10 minutes, but I regret them. I bought a few knock-offs as well but the more costly of the two is weak in the top notes; I think the perfumer had a poor sample. The other, an oil, is grassier and less accurate but pleasant.

    All in all, I wear it maybe a few times per year.
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    I wore the Homage by Amouage on my day. Not my usual style, but seemed completely perfect on the day. I recommend a concentrated attar-type fragrance as it will last- the last thing on your mind will be reapplying!

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    To elaborate- the decision was completely mine on the choice of perfume, and was totally instinctive. I have a small amount left I like to sniff every now and then, for memories

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    Mrs. H, does the smell of it really bring the day back for you? Man, I could just write an article on this, it's so interesting to me.

    For instance, do you recognize the scent on someone else, and if you smell it do you automatically think back to that day? Does your spouse recognize it on you?

    I think if I had to pick one today, I'd go with Chanel #22. I'd want something I wouldn't smell on everyone else out there, that would seem sparkling and beautiful and light and warm. But then I wonder if I'd rather have something that I would only wear sparingly through the years and only would remind me of that one day, be so strongly associated with that one day.

    Ok, trying to restrain myself so I don't quiz everyone to death :P

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    Does anyone want to weigh in on any of the scents in this sampler at The Perfumed Court: http://theperfumedcourt.com/Products...alsampler.aspx

    • Caron Bellodgia parfum (1/2 ml)
    • Chanel No. 5 EDP
    • Chanel No. 22
    • Christian Dior Diorrissimo EDT
    • Guerlain Cruel Gardenia
    • Frederic Malle En Passant
    • Hermessence Rose Ikebana
    • L'Artisan Le Chasse aux Papillion
    • Ormonde Jayne Osmanthus
    • Patou 1000 edt
    • Strange Invisible Perfumes Lady Day parfum (1/4 ml)
    • Van Cleef & Arpels First EDP

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    When my husband and I got married in 1982 I wore Private Collection. I'd first smelled it a few years earlier on a high school classmate. This was in the days when most of my circle and I were wearing Charlie, Love's Baby Soft, Bonne Bell Skin, Coty Wild Musk etc. Private Collection seemed so very different from those; formal and unique. I have since gone on to other fragrances but still think it's beautiful and I keep a mini on hand for sentimental reasons.

    If we were getting married now, I'd probably wear Aimez-Moi or vintage Shalimar parfum -- better yet, maybe we'd both wear the same thing. Heritage and Jaipur Homme come to mind.
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    This is an interesting one- yes, the smell really does bring the day back for me and I instantly recognize it on others. I think it's possibly the case that when you are in a high emotional state, the sensory memories imprint themselves more firmly. My husband hardly ever notices my perfume but he does normally comment on the 'wedding perfume'- unusual for him! I think the experiences of that day were so heightened that we both retained a lot more than we normally would

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    And my wedding was not especially expensive or fancy, it was very relaxed. I think the perfume cost more than my dress!

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    tdem1961, I like the idea of the vintage Shalimar - sort of like something old, may even qualify for the blue ... but it's rare enough that you won't smell it everywhere, and it's hauntingly beautiful. It's also precious, if you go for the extrait.

    Mrs. H, thanks for the input! That's definitely what I wondered about. If it's one of those moments in your life where your emotions are so high, how does the scent tie into that memory. It makes it much more of a deliberate choice in scents to wear because you're going to have that feeling about the scent later. I think it's great that your husband recognizes it! I was smiling at how your perfume was more expensive, because I think I would put as much thought into that as I would the dress. Maybe more, because there's a bigger chance of you walking down the street and smelling that scent and being reminded of the day.

    Now I wonder about the opposite side of things. If you had a tragic event happen, would you forever associate the scent with it, and be unable to wear it again because of the memories.

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    I wore Carnal Flower for my Commitment Ceremony, which was on the beach in Maui. It is one of my favorite fragrances, plus it seemed to fit the occasion/enviroment.

    When I am allowed to legally get married, I may choose a different fragrance.
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    petruccijc, that's such a heady scent, I can imagine it would be perfect in that setting. It's also one that's distinctive, I can imagine it would imprint into your memory easily.

    So are both you and your husband fans? Does he love the scent and recognize it as the scent of the day as well? Do you remember what he wore? And what would you pick now?

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    Such a lovely thread! I wore AG Ce Soir ou Jamais to my wedding in 2000, and the bottle finally turned a little while ago. I didn't buy a backup then, but I have since purchased a new bottle (within the last few months, I think?). It doesn't seem exactly as I remember it, but it is still beautiful and reminds me of the best of the big day. Would I choose the same one? Not sure, but I don't regret my choice at all.

    30R - I had a bottle of the No. 1, too! I also kept it on the top of my dresser, and when it went off, I foolishly threw the bottle out, figuring I could just replace it. Did you also wear a Laura Ashley dress for your wedding? (I used to have 2 or 3 and just loved them.)

    elizrj - I think that the choice of venue may play into the right choice. petruccij's choice of Carnal Flower sounds absolutely perfect for the wedding on Maui, as does 30R's choice of the Laura Ashley for the garden wedding. I think that maybe some of the "bigger" scents might match up with a more lavish event, whereas something like La Chasse may be the right thing for a low-key wedding, maybe in the summer, maybe outdoors...

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    Quote Originally Posted by RainDropSparkle View Post
    elizrj - I think that the choice of venue may play into the right choice. petruccij's choice of Carnal Flower sounds absolutely perfect for the wedding on Maui, as does 30R's choice of the Laura Ashley for the garden wedding. I think that maybe some of the "bigger" scents might match up with a more lavish event, whereas something like La Chasse may be the right thing for a low-key wedding, maybe in the summer, maybe outdoors...
    Any suggestions that might be appropriate for a funky-but-glamorous small wedding of nerdy/artsy 40-somethings in an art gallery with mid-century furniture, a tiki room, and a wall covered with paint-by-numbers, where the bridal party is wearing a non-matching combination of their own suits or dresses combined with handmade silk jackets/vests?

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    I like your style!

    Our wedding invitations consisted of a limerick written by us. Plus the date and time, of course.

    I made the cakes (2 heart shaped, chocolate frosted devil's food cakes decorated to look like him and me looking at each other side by side, with licorice strands for hair) with small bride and groom trolls, instead of the usual bride and groom figurines for the cake.

    I never dreamed of the traditional wedding. Wasn't me.

    Ah, the dress was actually from a Victoria's Secret catalogue-- they used to sell dresses, not just lingerie.
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    Vintage Bal a Versailles perfume, just the thing for an innocent bride
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    Quote Originally Posted by elizrj View Post
    petruccijc, that's such a heady scent, I can imagine it would be perfect in that setting. It's also one that's distinctive, I can imagine it would imprint into your memory easily.

    So are both you and your husband fans? Does he love the scent and recognize it as the scent of the day as well? Do you remember what he wore? And what would you pick now?
    My husband is not a big fragrance enthusiast. However, I have tried to convert him little-by-little. When we first met, he wore mostly Chrome and Curve - but he has branched out more recently. For our ceremony, he wore Creed Millesime Imperiale.

    When we got in the car to drive to the venue, he said "Did you spray air freshener in the car?". I guess that was a reference to my Carnal Flower.

    I am not sure what I would wear now. We live in Florida, so I do like the idea of a beach wedding. So maybe Carnal Flower again or something else "tropical".
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    Both hub and I wore Chanel Égoïste when we got married in 1996. I used to wear it quite often in our early days together and once when he complimented it, I told him it was actually a scent for men. He then got a bottle of his own. A shared scent seemed a natural choice to wear when we gave our vows.
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    On the opposite side of the coin, I can't smell my late grandmother's perfume (Je Reviens) without feeling upset. It's tied to a strong emotional memory- she was in a nursing home during her last few months, and I would help her get dressed and perfumed because she said the nurses 'couldn't do it right'. She was a glamorous and meticulous lady and her perfume and grooming were important to her, right up to the end

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    Raindropsparkle, I agree with you! I think 30Roses selection was as perfect for her as petruccijc's was for him. I'm not familiar with yours, but you would choose something different now? Is that because your tastes have changed or the venue would be different?

    Matildaben, sounds like you are having a very fun wedding! I am very new to this whole field, so it's hard to pick out a couple in my head that are perfect. It seems to me that vintage something would be about perfect. Or else a new and very niche smell that would be unique like your wedding. Something fun though, and not too dark. I'm a fan of Lady Vengeance and Citizen Queen from the Juliette Has a Gun line. Some of the experts around here will probably have better suggestions. Olfacta's choice is a great one as well, Bal a Versailles. Definitely not the par for the wedding course

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    Petruccijc, thanks for your response! Seems like we try to convert all those we love simply by our sheer enthusiasm for the subject :P Do you have a soft spot for Creed Millesime Imperiale now?

    Tigrushka, that's such an interesting idea to wear the same scent. I've been thinking about it since Tdem mentioned it. It seems to me that without the scents competing, and both wearing the same thing, you would wind up with something that triggered that memory for both of you pretty strongly.

    MrsH, thank you so much for your comment on your grandmother. This is what initially sparked my interest in perfume. I smelled a scent that immediately brought my grandmother back to me. That's the basis for why I'm so passionate about perfumes and scents, the deep connection they have to memories. It makes a lot of sense that happy as well as sad memories can be evoked. It sounds like you were a big comfort to her, thanks for sharing that!

    I so appreciate people's comments on this, I am so fascinated by the connection between scent and memory/emotion. Thanks for the input!

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    As I plan to get married this year I have been thinking about which perfume to wear a lot!
    We will be married in America, for reasons of convenience, because if it were up to me it would be in the Netherlands. But we are going to have a great party and re-enact the marriage. I am going to order a custom made dress from China, edwardian in style with lace, very elegant.
    And I am going to wear Vintage Houbigant Chantilly!!!!
    And maybe Soir de Lune in the evening.

    In America it will just be a registrar wedding, so I am am going to have either a cream and gold Cheongsam, or I will make a damask silk overbust corset with matching bolero and wear them on a nice pair of cream chiffon trousers.
    Not quite sure about the perfume but most probably Aperçu, again by Houbigant.
    Or vintage Jolie Madame by Balmain.
    Depends a bit on when and what the weather will be.
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    I wore Iris Poudre. I find it elegant and comforting and somehow I thought it would "match" my lavender chiffon dress.

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    I did not wear anything and I don't regret it. Perfume was not a part of my life the same way back then, even though I packed my perfumes and took them with me. It was a hot and humid day, an outdoors very small wedding, we were flat broke, but we had to get married there and then, so my husband cashed his retirement account, which at his young age wasn't much, and we made do. I wouldn't have kept my wedding perfume right back then and was perhaps bound for a huge disappointment of not being able to smell it ever again.

    So, I regret nothing. The memories of that day are still very vivid in my memory. It was a special day for both of us, as we waited for it, and fought for it, and struggled for it...

    On the other note, we are considering renewing our vows for our 10th anniversary, and uh-oh, I would want to wear perfume for that. Don't know which.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elizrj View Post
    Matildaben, sounds like you are having a very fun wedding! I am very new to this whole field, so it's hard to pick out a couple in my head that are perfect. It seems to me that vintage something would be about perfect. Or else a new and very niche smell that would be unique like your wedding. Something fun though, and not too dark. I'm a fan of Lady Vengeance and Citizen Queen from the Juliette Has a Gun line. Some of the experts around here will probably have better suggestions.
    Interesting! I don't have the energy or the money to track down vintage, but I was thinking of exploring the classics from Chanel and Guerlain (which I am not familiar with since I'm so new) since my gown and hairstyle are going for "classic Hollywood glamour". On the other hand, something funky and niche might contrast with the outfit in a way that really suits my personality. I'll have to see if any of the local shops has the Juliette line for me to sample, since I don't know if I could get the samples shipped in time for me to try them all (it's 5 weeks away, yikes!).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Warum View Post
    I did not wear anything and I don't regret it. Perfume was not a part of my life the same way back then, even though I packed my perfumes and took them with me. It was a hot and humid day, an outdoors very small wedding, we were flat broke, but we had to get married there and then, so my husband cashed his retirement account, which at his young age wasn't much, and we made do.
    A great story, that I think a lot of people can relate to. Thanks for sharing it.

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    I love these stories!

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