I relate! After a decade of smelling like a Mugler perfume counter, I reluctantly spritzed some testers but was dissatisfied with just about every designer fragrance marketed toward women. After lurking on this forum - mostly typing in notes that seemed interesting to me - I ordered my first round of unisex samples. One thing I learned is that I lean toward those that would probably be considered more "masculine" in a blind sniff test among the general public (e.g. Tom Ford Tuscan Leather, Helmut Lang Cuiron, and some of the Comme des Garcons offerings that mostly men seem to rave to about in this community). Through reading tons of posts, I also learned that one important key to unbridled enjoyment of fragrances is to unlearn previous constructs of what is supposed to smell "male" or "female" and become comfortable in our own scented skin. During my recently adopted but fast-growing obsession with this hobby (and this community) I've gotten the best recommendations for light, airy, white florals from men; likewise, I participated in an exchange with a woman who was looking for a raunchy, heavy, animalistic scent for her own wear. To me, the most fun aspect of niche perfumery is how its general philosophy rests on an entirely different-from-designer set of premises that seem to regard gender as an afterthought at most. Wear what you love, and keep testing your own boundaries!