Code of Conduct
Page 1 of 2 1 2 LastLast
Results 1 to 60 of 75

Thread: Doubts anyone?

  1. #1
    Dependent
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    New York city
    Posts
    1,544

    Default Doubts anyone?

    We all love fragrance, but does anyone ever question their obsession? People talk behind our backs, call us weirdos, complain to our supervisors. Does it ever get to anyone? Pls share your thoughts and what you do to reassure yourselves if needed.

  2. #2
    Banned
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    Chicago
    Posts
    15,256
    Blog Entries
    15

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Everybody has something that they enjoy more than they should..
    As long as you can do it why not?

  3. #3

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Damn the torpedoes.

  4. #4

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    We seem to be living in an age where almost everyone is interested in at least one "collectible." In this case, you can actually use the bottles rather than just stare at them! And many increase in value significantly, even within a few years. You may want to point these things out to ill-informed critics.

  5. #5

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Since I made the decision to wear no more than three sprays to work, and just two to church, with almost any scent, I really doubt anyone takes issue with my habit. And if they do at this application level, I don't give a flip. I just want my wife and kids to be unscathed by it. I go a little heavier when I'm not in social settings, like maybe 4 or 5. I don't want to be an irritant, but I also want to enjoy my own scent. Cologne is one of my favorite joys in life.

  6. #6

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I agree with everyone. I could care less what anyone thinks. In such a dirty cruel world, fragrance is one that that brightens my day.
    Is the juice worth the squeeze?

  7. #7

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I can see where the OP is coming from.

    I wear cologne and I am not going to stop wearing based on someone else's opinion but I do like to keep it to myself.

    As I am sure my cologne has at times offended / bothered people around me, there have been times when I have been offended by people's reactions towards something I may be wearing.

    I don't like to show my knowledge, as limited as this is compared to some here, to the average Joe so to speak.

    And I certainly do not tell people of the amount of money I spend or the size of my collection.

    If someone does not like what I am wearing and says so then I am fine, but I don't appreciate people waving their arms about or holding their noses especially when its an adult.

    Having said that, I tend to spray lightly so most of the time I think I go un-noticed.

    But what I dislike the most is when people really like what I am wearing and start to draw attention to me, its not the reason I wear.

  8. #8
    Basenotes Plus

    Join Date
    Sep 2004
    Location
    Florida
    Posts
    6,759

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    What Chuck said.

  9. #9
    BetsyMeszaros's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Philadelphia
    Posts
    755
    Blog Entries
    1

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    We all love fragrance, but does anyone ever question their obsession? People talk behind our backs, call us weirdos, complain to our supervisors. Does it ever get to anyone? Pls share your thoughts and what you do to reassure yourselves if needed.
    I have no doubts but I have learned not to say much around others. I also collect dolls and doll collectors also catch a lot of grief. BUT --- the people I've taken the most static from about my love of fragrance are other doll collectors. Go figure!
    Betsy

  10. #10

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by BetsyMeszaros View Post
    I have no doubts but I have learned not to say much around others. I also collect dolls and doll collectors also catch a lot of grief. BUT --- the people I've taken the most static from about my love of fragrance are other doll collectors. Go figure!
    People love to judge, don't they?

  11. #11
    Dependent bigbz's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Location
    Central Oregon
    Posts
    2,622

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Yeah I can relate. I think if I didn't know any better, I could see how it might be strange to some for a guy(or woman for that matter)to have a bunch of bottles of fragrance. I'm sure most people just would "get it". I know my mom talks about it to my face about how much she hates it and puts me down because of it. Granted she has super bad asthma, so I don't wear anything but deodorant around her and still I get the coughing and hand waving with "OH JEEZ Brian, quit wearing so much cologne!!!" And yes, I'm sure people are talking about it behind my back....but I don't really care all that much. I just get self-conscience when someone near we starts to cough or clear their throat....my 1st thought is "oh crap, I wonder if that's because of me...did I wear too much":/ And I'm the same as Chuck, 3 sprays for work max and 2 for church.

  12. #12
    Basenotes Junkie Trilby Lark's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Location
    Orange County, CA
    Posts
    921

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I do not choose to share my hobby with others because I find most people aren't interested. That way I avoid negativity and judgment. Thank goodness there's the Basenotes community that appreciates fragrance beyond mass market scents.

  13. #13

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Trilby Lark View Post
    I do not choose to share my hobby with others because I find most people aren't interested. That way I avoid negativity and judgment. Thank goodness there's the Basenotes community that appreciates fragrance beyond mass market scents.
    It's just our little secret.

  14. #14

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by adam090273 View Post
    Having said that, I tend to spray lightly so most of the time I think I go un-noticed.
    I think this is the general case. I am starting to wear more sprays as long as my sinuses can handle it.
    Is the juice worth the squeeze?

  15. #15
    Dependent
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    New York city
    Posts
    1,544

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Do any of you doubt why you're doing it though? I think basenotes is the only place I don't feel like an outcast because I'm so into fragrance

  16. #16
    hednic's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Location
    McLean, NYC, & Búzios
    Posts
    90,894

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    It has never bothered me what other people might think.

    (2726)
    Remember that while it is perfectly acceptable to criticize the content of a post - criticizing the poster is not.
    Mean spirited, nasty, snide, sarcastic, hateful, and rude individuals on Basenotes don't warrant or deserve other individuals' acknowledgement or respect.

  17. #17
    Basenotes Junkie Trilby Lark's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Location
    Orange County, CA
    Posts
    921

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChuckW View Post
    It's just our little secret.
    Yes.
    Last edited by Trilby Lark; 7th January 2014 at 04:27 AM.

  18. #18
    Basenotes Plus

    Join Date
    Jul 2013
    Location
    Tacoma, WA
    Posts
    672

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I hold a fairly libertarian view of this; as long as my hobby does not interfere with others' rights, it is fine. I believe in spraying lightly in situations where others do not have the choice to not be in the situation (i.e. work). I also only try new fragrances when I am home alone, which is a few days a week.

    Plus, internet forums ARE community in the post-modern world. We fit in here, so we fit in.

  19. #19
    kumquat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Lincoln, Nebraska
    Posts
    9,176
    Blog Entries
    99

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I have no doubts about why I love scent. I do get annoyed if I get criticized for it. (See my recent thread on my sister's opinion.) annoyed- well, good and mad actually. It's no one's business and it's not hurting anyone.

  20. #20
    Basenotes Plus
    indianwells's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Location
    Pembrokeshire
    Posts
    963

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    The older I get the less I care what people think. I like being curmudgeonly!!
    Hard work never killed anyone, but why risk it?

  21. #21

    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Location
    England
    Posts
    2,282

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I'm ok with being called a weirdo, but I doubt anyone's talking very much behind my back and as far as I know nobody's ever complained. I generally don't talk about my interest in perfume unless asked about it, or unless the subject comes up and I might express an opinion. So I don't feel like I need reassurance.

    It certainly is nice to have people here to talk with about perfumes, as there aren't many interested people in my "real life."

  22. #22

    Join Date
    Jan 1970
    Location
    Golden State North
    Posts
    431

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Wearing fragrance is a portal into a personal world filled with memories, emotions and feelings. No different from seeing a great work of art , and probably more relevant to make us revisit over and over again.
    Chic is all about humor. Which means chic is about intelligence. And there has to be oddness-- most luxury is conformist, and chic cannot be. Chic must be polite and not incommode others, but within that it can be as weird as it wants.” - LT

  23. #23
    Basenotes Institution sjg3839's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    12,827

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Don't worry about what people think about my hobby. More concerned about being able to afford this stuff!

  24. #24

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I remember several years ago I went over to a friend of mine's apartment and saw the number of shoes she had in her closet - not to worry, I said, I have a cologne collection about the same size.

    I had an employee of mine help me move once and he kept saying to himself, "holy cow! Why so many?" Well... here's an answer that some may be able to relate to: memories. I have a very good memory and there are two things that I "use" to recollect - music and scent. The amount of minutia I can recall from both is pretty scary, but in general it tends to be "mood". In fact, I recall posting here about 10 years ago where I bought a scent I wore in college, Lagerfeld Photo, and instantly recalled all these memories and details when I sprayed it.
    The Bark Bites Back here --> https://thebarkbitesback.wordpress.com

  25. #25
    Dependent BRM85282's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Arizona
    Posts
    4,687

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Who cares what others think!

  26. #26

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I don't really care much.

    Bark, you been here a while, 2003? Awesome man!
    There is a sufficiency in the world for man's need but not for man's greed. ~Mohandas K. Gandhi

  27. #27

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    If its something I enjoy, and doesn't take away from my family or hurt anyone, I could care less what anyone else thinks about my hobbies.
    Current Top 10:
    Creed Green Irish Tweed
    Creed Silver Mountain Water
    Creed Royal Oud
    Amouage Jubilation XXV
    Tom Ford Tuscan Leather
    Tom Ford Amber Absolute
    Tom Ford Italian Cypress
    Serge Lutens Ambre Sultan
    Bleu de Chanel
    YSL Rive Gauche Pour Homme

  28. #28

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by kalli View Post
    I don't really care much.

    Bark, you been here a while, 2003? Awesome man!
    I've been around before that, back on the old Yahoo boards! There's still some of us still lingering about, lol. (Though my post count here is way off; somewhere along the line I lost a few thousand...)
    The Bark Bites Back here --> https://thebarkbitesback.wordpress.com

  29. #29
    BetsyMeszaros's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Philadelphia
    Posts
    755
    Blog Entries
    1

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by sjg3839 View Post
    Don't worry about what people think about my hobby. More concerned about being able to afford this stuff!
    Well said!
    Betsy

  30. #30
    Dependent magnus611's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2013
    Location
    NYC
    Posts
    4,698

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I'm well balanced in this venture, so I can't say complains follow me, as I can say without no air of arrogance that I have great opulent taste and garnish compliments as I'm always well dressed and keep a balance on everything...The problem arises when an imbalance occurs and this Sir you can applied it to many situations in life...
    "Thank GOD for the nose, for without it we would not be enjoying these beautiful created Scents" also Remember "Balance is everything and the key to appreciating "

  31. #31
    Renato's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2001
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    11,588

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    If those people you worry about can only afford to buy Gillette aftershave and Brut/Old Spice underarm deodorant, or feel that is all their bodies warrant (i.e. cheapskates/ puritans etc) - that's their problem.
    I spend my money where I like.
    Cheers,
    Renato

  32. #32

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I really don't care what others think about my hobby. Imaginary discussion with a critic friend of mine: "Oh, but you spend so much on fragrances!" My response, "Yes, and you just spent $25,000 on a fishing boat. At least I don't smell like a walleye."

  33. #33
    Cow Tipper Extraordinaire

    kbe's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    The Big Blue Marble
    Posts
    20,541
    Blog Entries
    1

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    ....People talk behind our backs, call us weirdos, complain to our supervisors. Does it ever get to anyone? Pls share your thoughts and what you do to reassure yourselves if needed.
    They did that long before I 'found' fragrances. I just grin and continue to quietly play me bagpipes.
    There are three kinds of people in this world: those who understand math and those who don't (four out of three people surveyed agree with this).

  34. #34
    kumquat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Lincoln, Nebraska
    Posts
    9,176
    Blog Entries
    99

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Oproust View Post
    I really don't care what others think about my hobby. Imaginary discussion with a critic friend of mine: "Oh, but you spend so much on fragrances!" My response, "Yes, and you just spent $25,000 on a fishing boat. At least I don't smell like a walleye."
    Hilarious! I love this.
    There are so many questionable money pits around. Painful shoes, guns, excess cars ( 5+ per person?) drugs, record albums, comic books, stereo equipment, high-end everything-stoves, watches, etc. I once saw someone on tv who had spent $1000's on fancy hair bows for her tiny daughter. At the rate she was going there would be nothing for school or insurance for the child. Another who had blown through her rich husband's fortune partly by furnishing their home with fresh floral bouquets in every room EVERY DAY! It takes all kinds. We all have a soft spot or interest. As long as it isn't illegal or fattening, I can't see the harm.

  35. #35
    Dependent Darjeeling's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Japan
    Posts
    2,727

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I care about what others think in terms of trying not to make them uncomfortable by having my scents impose on them too much, but other than that I'm not too worried. Maybe if I were younger I'd be more worried, but I think I'm (mostly) beyond that now.

    On the other hand, I don't really go out of my way to discuss and share this hobby, or some of my other interests, with people because I don't want to bore them.

  36. #36

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Bark View Post
    I remember several years ago I went over to a friend of mine's apartment and saw the number of shoes she had in her closet - not to worry, I said, I have a cologne collection about the same size.

    I had an employee of mine help me move once and he kept saying to himself, "holy cow! Why so many?" Well... here's an answer that some may be able to relate to: memories. I have a very good memory and there are two things that I "use" to recollect - music and scent. The amount of minutia I can recall from both is pretty scary, but in general it tends to be "mood". In fact, I recall posting here about 10 years ago where I bought a scent I wore in college, Lagerfeld Photo, and instantly recalled all these memories and details when I sprayed it.
    I experience that very same phenomena. It's like a "scent-o-graphic" memory. It all comes flooding back when I smell a particular scent with very vivid emotions from my memory. It almost transports me back vividly to another place and time. I can see the faces, rooms, the weather, mood and all in a very specific way. Really cool, and a good reason why I avoid wearing scents when I have an unpleasant job to do. If it goes ill, it will ruin the scent for me.

  37. #37

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Bark View Post
    I've been around before that, back on the old Yahoo boards! There's still some of us still lingering about, lol. (Though my post count here is way off; somewhere along the line I lost a few thousand...)
    I think you and I came on about the same time...I know it was well before my listed March of 2003.

  38. #38

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChuckW View Post
    People love to judge, don't they?
    Absolutely.

  39. #39

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by RichNTacoma View Post
    We fit in here, so we fit in.
    Agree!

  40. #40
    kumquat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Lincoln, Nebraska
    Posts
    9,176
    Blog Entries
    99

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I can't even explain BN to people. They just don't get it. I try not to get into it but sometimes it comes up. I often get complimented on my fragrance. That opens up a can of worms because the scents I wear are not available in the local venues.

    Edit- I would like to explain why my stuff is better than the dept store fare. Their eyes glaze over when they hear about shopping on the Internet or ordering from France. It's like trying to tell someone the difference between a real oil painting and a print.
    Last edited by kumquat; 7th January 2014 at 08:57 PM.

  41. #41

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChuckW View Post
    I think you and I came on about the same time...I know it was well before my listed March of 2003.
    Did you have the same name on Yahoo? I think my first post was back in 2002 sometime (thebarkster). I remember many of the handles, J.W. (j_dubyah) being a pretty knowledgeable guy that was always a pleasure to talk with. I just sold something a few months ago to a name I recognized as the mississippi_rifleman. Gosh, that was back when there were 300-600 members.
    The Bark Bites Back here --> https://thebarkbitesback.wordpress.com

  42. #42

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    The only people who are aware of this unusual hobby of mine are my parents and my wife and kids. Honestly, my parents think it's obsessive and wasteful, but when I remind my Mom of her QVC addiction and my Dad of his hunting gear expenses...yeah. But they never really say anything unless I bring it up. If we can afford it, we've all got something. I'm 46, so I think I can handle it. My wife and kids are totally supportive, and even encouraging (kids are 13 and 17). There is one guy at church who knows I have a fairly large stable of scents (like 30), but he has about 15 or so himself, so we share the addiction.

    What about the guys with the Lowe's and Home Depot addictions? Hunting gear? Golf? Chain smokers who reek of cigars and cigarettes? I never say boo to them about their habits.The list goes on and on. So no. I don't feel weird at all.

  43. #43

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Bark View Post
    Did you have the same name on Yahoo? I think my first post was back in 2002 sometime (thebarkster). I remember many of the handles, J.W. (j_dubyah) being a pretty knowledgeable guy that was always a pleasure to talk with. I just sold something a few months ago to a name I recognized as the mississippi_rifleman. Gosh, that was back when there were 300-600 members.
    JW was a good pal of mine (John Wormsley in Missouri). He had an unfortunate stretch in his life and had to drop out for a while. Super nice guy. We sold and swapped back and forth. I can't remember what my handle was back then...I just know I was active way before 2003. Remember "The Cologne Guy" website? I was on that, too. That was our predecessor on the net.

  44. #44

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by ChuckW View Post
    JW was a good pal of mine (John Wormsley in Missouri). He had an unfortunate stretch in his life and had to drop out for a while. Super nice guy. We sold and swapped back and forth. I can't remember what my handle was back then...I just know I was active way before 2003. Remember "The Cologne Guy" website? I was on that, too. That was our predecessor on the net.
    Wait... were you lipyton with some number after it? That just popped into my mind as their name was Chuck. Yep, sold/traded/bought from John here and on ebay and kept in touch for a while when he was going through his stretch. I certainly know how it feels as that's why I haven't been as active the last several years, but I happily consider it a small pleasure at this point.
    The Bark Bites Back here --> https://thebarkbitesback.wordpress.com

  45. #45
    evogel's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2003
    Location
    Milford,PA
    Posts
    1,501

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Bark View Post
    Wait... were you lipyton with some number after it? That just popped into my mind as their name was Chuck. Yep, sold/traded/bought from John here and on ebay and kept in touch for a while when he was going through his stretch. I certainly know how it feels as that's why I haven't been as active the last several years, but I happily consider it a small pleasure at this point.
    Bark and Chuck, I'm still here with you too and hit the old Yahoo board just before it changed over. JDub was my friend too. A terrific guy and I am sorry that I lost touch with him. Talk about Creed knowledge! Wait how about some 212 for Jeffrey??? And....Geir! from Ron... And Ali..???? !!!

    Anyway, I wear scent primarily for myself and the memories factor in for me too. I don't really share my hobby with anyone other than here and while I am known as "the scent guy" at work, I usually don't receive negative comments or even compliments and no one bothers to ask my advice about any of it. As far as justifying it to myself; well, if after 30 years of accumulating fragrance, just f......forget about it!

    This is a great thread with a lot of terrific insight.

    Eric

  46. #46

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by evogel View Post
    Bark and Chuck, I'm still here with you too and hit the old Yahoo board just before it changed over. JDub was my friend too. A terrific guy and I am sorry that I lost touch with him. Talk about Creed knowledge! Wait how about some 212 for Jeffrey??? And....Geir! from Ron... And Ali..???? !!!
    Hey Eric! Yeah, there were a lot of characters back then, or at least it seemed like it. A lot of good stories, too. I mean, it should be mandatory to bring up Jeffery's 212 obsession, his 212 lampshade he made and the letter of cease and desist he received from her lawyers, lol. Paul's stories of spraying his feet with cologne (was it SMW or Imperial?) and the kids in his class and their comments. It was good to see him post here several months ago when he was preparing for his big day walking the plank, er, walking down the aisle.

    Yeah, John was the forerunner of Creed experts - he'd be worshipped if he were posting today! I actually met Ali once out one night in Santa Monica a few years ago as we have a lot of similar interests outside of fragrance. I know he could rub some the wrong way, but he's actually a good guy (always found it to be part of his charm, to be honest. He certainly doesn't make the world vanilla).
    The Bark Bites Back here --> https://thebarkbitesback.wordpress.com

  47. #47

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Eric and Bark, we are the old guard. Yep, I am "lilpeyton". Peyton is my 13 year-old son. I miss all our old friends, but I have had lots of fun making new ones. God has been so good to me in that I have been able to sustain this hobby financially and keep my zeal emotionally for a long stretch now. Very good memories here on basenotes. I don't take any of this too seriously, and I just ride out the fads and add gems as they come along. Considering my collection is just 30 bottles after being into cologne for so long, you just know my wardrobe is a revolving door in both directions! Buy 'em, wear 'em, sell 'em, swap 'em! Very few sacred cows in my relatively small collection.

  48. #48

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Bark View Post
    Hey Eric! Yeah, there were a lot of characters back then, or at least it seemed like it. A lot of good stories, too. I mean, it should be mandatory to bring up Jeffery's 212 obsession, his 212 lampshade he made and the letter of cease and desist he received from her lawyers, lol. Paul's stories of spraying his feet with cologne (was it SMW or Imperial?) and the kids in his class and their comments. It was good to see him post here several months ago when he was preparing for his big day walking the plank, er, walking down the aisle.

    Yeah, John was the forerunner of Creed experts - he'd be worshipped if he were posting today! I actually met Ali once out one night in Santa Monica a few years ago as we have a lot of similar interests outside of fragrance. I know he could rub some the wrong way, but he's actually a good guy (always found it to be part of his charm, to be honest. He certainly doesn't make the world vanilla).
    Ali and I once got into a tiff, but he was quick to apologize. I was probably out of line, too. I can be pretty dogmatic at times, but I am mellowing with age. Jeffery Primeau I believe it was. He made 212 sound like the GOAT! I liked hearing from Paul, too. Wow. I miss these guys.

    Col, JockWIthScents, Joe Petrucci, ToughCool...I always enjoyed reading their posts, too. Life is fragile and complicated (and short). I guess some just have to move on.

  49. #49
    Dependent martinijo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    2,299

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by magnus611 View Post
    I'm well balanced in this venture, so I can't say complains follow me, as I can say without no air of arrogance that I have great opulent taste and garnish compliments as I'm always well dressed and keep a balance on everything...The problem arises when an imbalance occurs and this Sir you can applied it to many situations in life...

    Self praise is the best praise

  50. #50

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by kumquat View Post
    I can't even explain BN to people. They just don't get it. I try not to get into it but sometimes it comes up. I often get complimented on my fragrance. That opens up a can of worms because the scents I wear are not available in the local venues.

    Edit- I would like to explain why my stuff is better than the dept store fare. Their eyes glaze over when they hear about shopping on the Internet or ordering from France. It's like trying to tell someone the difference between a real oil painting and a print.
    Most people see themselves as the standard. What they do is the right thing to do. It's okay to give hundreds, thousands of dollars/euro's for football-tickets, clothes, expensive wine, sports gear, fancy cars, aso... but it's weird to buy colognes I guess?

    Once somebody asked me which cologne I was wearing and I said I didn't know because I didn't have the courage to explain it was niche. Sometimes I find it stupid that I react that way but I think it's also fine to keep it my thing. Only my wife, kids and my brother knows. The last one to a certain level I guess.

    Ah well. Let's see what I will be wearing tomorrow :-)

  51. #51

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Scentologist View Post
    I agree with everyone. I could care less what anyone thinks. In such a dirty cruel world, fragrance is one that that brightens my day.
    Nicely said! Great comment...!
    --- If your dog thinks you are the greatest person
    in the world, don't seek a second opinion ---

  52. #52

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I've made this analogy several times over the last twelve years and find it still holds true: if all you've ever had to eat pizza-wise is Domino's, then you don't know any better and you don't know any worse. But when you suddenly happen upon a mom and pop shop and find yourself tempting something different, you're essentially expanding your horizons with the ability to compare and contrast.

    Do it enough times and you're not only learning more about pizzas and all the various ingredients that can go into making one - you're also discovering more about yourself: what you do, and don't, like.

    Pizza was the analogy I used twelve years ago because it's easy for people to relate to and it's no coincidence there's a parallel to be drawn between mass-produced fair, gourmet, and the advent of frozen - styles that kind of call forth drugstore, designer and niche. Lately, however, I've been using the analogy of craft beer which is probably even more apropos. I've probably had over 1,500 different beers and, just like fragrances, I have my tendencies (love Imperial Stouts) and would be hard-pressed to pick a favorite because it really depends on so many other factors at the moment.

    Regardless of whether it's pizza, beer or fragrance, the commonality with all of them is the notion of trying something new and different - as Chuck mentioned earlier, life is short, fragile and often unpredictable; part of living is experiencing and that's what all off these seem to have in common.
    The Bark Bites Back here --> https://thebarkbitesback.wordpress.com

  53. #53

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    We all love fragrance, but does anyone ever question their obsession?
    Everyone should have hobbies. Hobbies are important. But it's important to know if you've crossed the line between something you enjoy and something you let control you. This next comment of yours suggests that your hobby has become an unhealthy obsession:


    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    People talk behind our backs, call us weirdos, complain to our supervisors. Does it ever get to anyone?
    If you're experiencing those things, it's their way of telling you you're overdoing it. And if you assume we all experience those things, you're setting yourself up for more of the same. People don't call me a weirdo and I don't get complaints. To the best of my knowledge, the only talk behind my back has been positive - I've had comments that a few exes made get back to me and it's always been some variation of "It didn't work out, but the man had style" and that cracks me up since I'm not the most stylish of men, but a lot of men seem to make no effort at all, and their lack of effort makes my moderate effort look like a lot.

    The problem comes from two things. #1: some people don't know how to recognize olfactory fatigue when they experience it, so they wear more and more, which means they wear too much. #2: perfume should not be used like a bullhorn as a desperate plea for attention. If you're wearing a lot so people will notice you, their comments and complaints are a sign that they sure do notice and they wish you'd be more responsible.
    "Follow your nose. It always knows." -- Toucan Sam

  54. #54

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    Do any of you doubt why you're doing it though? I think basenotes is the only place I don't feel like an outcast because I'm so into fragrance
    We all enjoy things that are different. I have a friend who can work for evening after evening on needlepoint. I don't get it, but I don't have to. It's her hobby, not mine. I can spend hours wandering around town with a camera taking photos of everyday details that normally go unnoticed, like the texture of the side of a building or geometric shapes in architecture. I'm sure others would think that's weird, but I don't care. It's my hobby.

    One important thing I've learned is that it's foolish to talk about my passions with someone who isn't interested. My friend who does needlepoint, for example. We don't talk about photography because she's not into it, and we don't talk about sewing because I'm not interested in that either. We were at a bar once with a group of friends and I saw her flirting with a guy friend of mine. She started talking about sewing. I glanced over at him and thought "Yup. She's losing him." But she's also into rock climbing and cycling! THAT'S the stuff she should have been talking to him about!

    I learned a long time ago to test the water a bit before diving into conversations about my hobbies.

    That being said... I want to go back to this comment for a moment:

    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    Do any of you doubt why you're doing it though?
    No, because I don't wear fragrance for attention. I wear it because I enjoy smells, and I wear it as an element of style. It's the same as how I wear a pair of glasses. Some people prefer contacts, but I like the look of a stylish pair of glasses. Even with glasses, some people wear them for the wrong reasons. I worked with a woman who wears crazy loud glasses, and she often calls attention to them because she needs people to comment on them... but since it's obvious she loves wacky glasses, people don't tend to be honest with her since they don't want to hurt her feelings. Instead, they talk behind her back about how pretty she'd be if she didn't wear such tacky stuff. It's always easy to spot the difference between style and a desperate plea for attention.

    I'm not saying you're desperate for attention. You brought up the question of why we wear perfume, and that's a good question to ask. I think there's value in understanding the difference between wanting to smell good and wanting everyone to notice how good you smell. Do it for you. That's healthy. But doing it for everyone else to notice...? That's not so healthy, in my opinion.
    "Follow your nose. It always knows." -- Toucan Sam

  55. #55
    kumquat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Lincoln, Nebraska
    Posts
    9,176
    Blog Entries
    99

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    I guess I missed that bit about supervisor complaints. That does imply that you may be wearing stuff that's too strong at work. Sadly, some people may not share your enthusiasm. Try to tone it down. Only wear enough so you can smell it yourself with very little throw.


    Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

  56. #56
    Basenotes Junkie Trilby Lark's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Location
    Orange County, CA
    Posts
    921

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Original gentlemen of BN: I loved your comments about the old days of BN. I sometimes search for old threads to get a feel for what it was like back then. Thanks!

  57. #57
    Super Member thehighend's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Location
    Puerto Rico
    Posts
    387

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    We all love fragrance, but does anyone ever question their obsession? People talk behind our backs, call us weirdos, complain to our supervisors. Does it ever get to anyone? Pls share your thoughts and what you do to reassure yourselves if needed.
    I don't call it an obsession (at least not seriously). To me, its more of an interest/hobby. How do you know people talk behind your back? I've never had a bad experience with fragrance or its use. I am considerate of others and wouldn't wear 15 sprays of something others might consider offensive to work, the same way I wouldn't walk into the office naked and covered in chocolate pudding. As long as we use common sense I have a feeling no issues will arise.

  58. #58
    Dependent pluran's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Location
    Pacific Northwest
    Posts
    7,100

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Preston H View Post
    We all love fragrance, but does anyone ever question their obsession? People talk behind our backs, call us weirdos, complain to our supervisors. Does it ever get to anyone? Pls share your thoughts and what you do to reassure yourselves if needed.
    Must be hell letting your perception of yourself, in large part be because of what other people think about you. You need to worry less about what other people think, and spend more time looking into what you think about the perfumes. Hard to be the creator of your life as long as you're giving another person the credit or the blame for the good or the bad things that are happening to you.

  59. #59
    Dependent
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    New York city
    Posts
    1,544

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by thehighend View Post
    I don't call it an obsession (at least not seriously). To me, its more of an interest/hobby. How do you know people talk behind your back? I've never had a bad experience with fragrance or its use. I am considerate of others and wouldn't wear 15 sprays of something others might consider offensive to work, the same way I wouldn't walk into the office naked and covered in chocolate pudding. As long as we use common sense I have a feeling no issues will arise.
    The thread isn't about me per se. Although you should see the looks my friends give me when I attempt to explain to them what oud is lol. This thread is based on posts I've come across since joining. I haven't worked in almost three years and before retiring I was a contractor so when I did wear perfume it was trapped under my gear. So based on previous posts and threads I just wanted to ask the community did they ever feel they were wasting their efforts, especially the collectors and members with huge collections

  60. #60
    Dependent
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    New York city
    Posts
    1,544

    Default Re: Doubts anyone?

    Quote Originally Posted by pluran View Post
    Must be hell letting your perception of yourself, in large part be because of what other people think about you. You need to worry less about what other people think, and spend more time looking into what you think about the perfumes. Hard to be the creator of your life as long as you're giving another person the credit or the blame for the good or the bad things that are happening to you.
    It's more of my own feelings which give me some doubt. I think I may have a purchasing problem. Sometimes I look at all I've bought and ill think to myself "what am I doing?" Until the newest release..

Similar Threads

  1. Doubts about a prototype of perfume
    By MeneleusBR76 in forum Fragrance DIY
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 31st August 2012, 09:11 AM
  2. In doubts but...
    By Alicka61 in forum Female Fragrance Discussion
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 31st October 2009, 09:08 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  



Loving perfume on the Internet since 2000