Shoot. I wrote a post last night but something happened to it!
Just wanted to say that I am that sensitive also. I have tons of allergies, to the point that I carry around an epi-pen. Allergies to mold, dust, pollens, insects, food, cats .... and I have seven cats. Once I went to an allergist and she took a look at my shirt, saw cat hairs and said, "you need to get rid of your cats." I walked out of the office without another word.
Now, after working with a good allergist, I take two antihistamines per day, do a nasal wash 2x per day, Flonase 1x per day and will be doing the allergy shots also to boost my immune response. The fact is there are a lot of chemicals, smells, junk, etc. in the air these days. Allergies build up over time and exposure. I can react immediately with a massive headache if I smell those awful, metallic, synthetic perfumes - or even tobacco smoke on a person's clothes! But I can't go around expecting the world and everyone in it to adjust to my issues! (And yes, ChickenFreak, all you have to do is smell things to have a reaction. Chemicals, pollen, etc. are inhaled and cause an inflammatory response in the person's system.)
She needs to get medical help for her problems and deal with them herself. I wouldn't indulge her either. (And don't have much sympathy for people who give up their pets because they have "allergies." If you got your pet, you're responsible for it for the rest of its life! Take allergy meds!) The only caveat to that is if the workplace had the rule that no perfumes were allowed. But clearly they don't. So it is her problem.
I think jawjaw is being incredibly nice to consider changing his habits to suit her problems.
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(I hate lavender too. And have always tried to like it because it is "supposed" to be so healing. Yuck! Not healing to me at all!)