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    Default Re: Perfume compliments from strangers - not really a UK thing?

    Everyone likes compliments. As long as you're not creepy about it, theres no harm in it.

    Don't go up to a woman you don't know and say something like, "you smell delicious, can i have a taste?"

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    I am in Belfast and get compliments from women in shops(Marks and Spencer foodhall!!!!), the bank teller, the SAs in SpaceNK have told me I always smell great.

    Its always women though. I did have a strange guy at a bus stop ask about my shoes the other week. LOL
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    Quote Originally Posted by aphexacid View Post
    Don't go up to a woman you don't know and say something like, "you smell delicious, can i have a taste?"
    Naturally.

    It'd be better to go up to a woman, who you don't know, and say something like, "You smell delicious, can I lick you?"

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    I have gotten one compliment from a stranger...of all things I was wearing a sample of 1 Million. He was a man (so am I) but also a sales associate in the furniture store where I was browsing so he might have just been trying to engage me in hopes of a sale. I don't tend to 'bathe' in my fragrances, so the sillage isn't very strong...but I do wear some that really project. I live on the East Coast of USA and people sometimes strike up conversations with strangers, so I don't know why the compliments don't come more often. I have gotten compliments from clients, generally asking if I am wearing "Axe" which is a $3 body spray when I am wearing a $200 Niche!!
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    Try going for a walk in the English countryside. Everyone you pass will say Hi or give a friendly smile and nod. I've had long random conversations with strangers on more occasions than I can remember.

    Only one perfume compliment though, from a girl at work. Was wearing JPG Fleur de Male at the time!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thematt202 View Post
    Try going for a walk in the English countryside. Everyone you pass will say Hi or give a friendly smile and nod. I've had long random conversations with strangers on more occasions than I can remember.

    Only one perfume compliment though, from a girl at work. Was wearing JPG Fleur de Male at the time!!
    LOL I wear stuff for myself to enjoy, but I often wish for strangers to say "Oh, you smell scrumptious!" every once in a while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thematt202 View Post
    Try going for a walk in the English countryside. Everyone you pass will say Hi or give a friendly smile and nod. I've had long random conversations with strangers on more occasions than I can remember.

    Only one perfume compliment though, from a girl at work. Was wearing JPG Fleur de Male at the time!!
    LOL I wear stuff for myself to enjoy, but I often wish for strangers to say "Oh, you smell scrumptious!" every once in a while.
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    English people don't need constant reassuring like the rest of the World seems to crave.

    That's why we neither expect, nor offer compliments.

    It's not the done thing. We just get on with stuff.

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    Quote Originally Posted by joe mcclaine View Post
    English people don't need constant reassuring like the rest of the World seems to crave.

    That's why we neither expect, nor offer compliments.

    It's not the done thing. We just get on with stuff.
    And that's just completely untrue. The subject was compliments from strangers. I've seen English colleagues and friends give plenty of compliments about all sorts of things, and I've received my fair share about clothes, shoes, etc., and even perfume on occasion (just the other day a colleague, unsolicited, said I smelled good. I was wearing Ormonde Woman). But with strangers, I'd agree it's just not done.
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    In my experience, it's not a US thing, either. In roughly three years since I started the perfume obsession I've had precisely one compliment from a stranger, and even then it's not as if she approached me out of the blue - she was a waitress serving our table. I wasn't sure whether to be pleased, or to assume that it was a nice way of telling me that I was wearing too much. (Since I rarely wear more than two sprays of anything, that probably wasn't it.)

    Other compliments are from friends, and usually inspired by my chirping, "I'm wearing something new! Wanna sniff?" That doesn't count.

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    When I lived in London I was complimented on my perfume quite often perhaps every other time I went out. It depends on where you go as it was mostly if not always from women who were obviously into fumes themselves.
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    I'm in the US and I would think it odd (though not really rude, just odd) for someone I didn't know very well to compliment me on my perfume. Yes, I wear it because I want people to smell it (though I really I wear it for myself more than anything) but I would find it very strange if a stranger were to come up and comment on it. It's such a personal thing, it would be like a stranger coming up to me and saying "Wow, you have really beautiful eyes!!!" (actually, I think it would be weirder than that.)

    I've never commented on anyone's perfume that I did not know. If I see them putting it on I might say "that smells good what is it?" but other than that, I don't comment. It's not because I don't like it (actually, my supervisor at work is one of those "cologne guys" (though it's not offensive to me, it does lead him to being the butt of a few jokes). I'm dying to know what he wears because I think it smells good, but I don't dare ask, even though I know him pretty well.)

    It's just...hmm...one of those things that's not for commenting on?

    I'm always surprised at the stories of people getting tons of compliments from perfect strangers. I don't get it. I don't think I'd want a whole bunch of people coming up to me and commenting on how I smell.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChickenFreak View Post
    In my experience, it's not a US thing, either.
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    I'm in the US and I would think it odd (though not really rude, just odd) for someone I didn't know very well to compliment me on my perfume. Yes, I wear it because I want people to smell it (though I really I wear it for myself more than anything) but I would find it very strange if a stranger were to come up and comment on it. It's such a personal thing, it would be like a stranger coming up to me and saying "Wow, you have really beautiful eyes!!!" (actually, I think it would be weirder than that.)

    It's just...hmm...one of those things that's not for commenting on?

    I'm always surprised at the stories of people getting tons of compliments from perfect strangers. I don't get it. I don't think I'd want a whole bunch of people coming up to me and commenting on how I smell.
    Well, I live in the US and I do get somewhat frequent compliments from people around me, but I think it depends on a variety of things. Where you are certainly makes a difference, as well as what you're doing and how approachable you are in general. In the US, I've lived in Boston and Milwaukee in addition to New Orleans, and I'd get an occasional comment from someone next to me on the subway in Boston for example, and it also regularly happens on the streetcar in New Orleans (public transportation is where it seems to happen the most) but never once did I receive a compliment on my fragrance when I lived in Milwaukee, never ever ...not even when I rode the bus, lol. But when I do get a compliment (no matter what it's regarding), I've never been anything but completely flattered ...but this really isn't the same thing as a stranger "coming up to me" to comment on my perfume, and there's nothing creepy about it as they're already in my vicinity and engaged in the same activity as I am (waiting rooms, seated next to me at a concert, standing in line at the grocery store, on public transportation, etc.)

    Also, I comment on others' fragrances all the time, and to the best of my knowledge it's always been met with genuine pleasure ...seriously, who doesn't like a sincere and unsolicited compliment? It probably made their day! Then again, I've never been afraid to speak to people I don't know, and I don't think it's weird or offensive when someone I don't know speaks to me. Admittedly, New Orleans is a very friendly place and people down here like to talk to each other, and "strangers" are only people you don't happen to know yet. Not all strangers are perverts - I think I'd hate life if I were only allowed to speak to or be spoken to by people to whom I've already been introduced. Besides, I think this sort of comment is the perfect way to strike up a conversation in situations where people are forced to be together in close quarters, and it can make things more comfortable, or even pleasant. And I don't consider one's perfume an overly-personal or intimate topic at all ...I can smell it, after all. Which leads me to ask Kaelee, if perfume is just "one of those things that's not for commenting on" then why do so many people demand at least some projection and sillage from their fragrances? I would say if you don't welcome comments, then don't wear enough so that others can smell it, period. And conversely, for anyone who wants more comments, first make sure that others can smell it ...but this doesn't mean you have to go overboard. There's a big difference between having a presence and demanding everyone's attention.
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    Also, I comment on others' fragrances all the time, and to the best of my knowledge it's always been met with genuine pleasure
    Yes.

    It's weird. When I was younger I never complimented anyone. Too self-absorbed to even notice if a stranger had something on. I never got complimented either save in a few situations like at a bar if I was talking to someone it might come up.

    Nowdays I always notice and comment, and I get compliments more too.

    No idea if there's any logic or sense behind it. I will say though the places where these comments usually happen? Trains are one, and if you go to a resteraunt and are waiting for a table often when you're milling about that's when people will notice, sometimes at stores and in particular by sales people but this is a little suspect to me, at social gatherings or venues, and places like that.

    I don't think I've ever had someone stop me on the street. I've commented to others on the street but I never stop them (some would find that odd) however it's easy if you're walking next to someone; when you come to a crossing I will remark there. Sometimes they say something back, but I don't consider them unsolicited compliments.

    I've never had a woman jump into my lap or start trying to pull my clothes off over perfume though. I don't think anyone else ever has either but it sounds like the sort of thing a lot of people would like to have happen. I mean I've had experience with some very forward women and I know sometimes things like that do happen which is to say people will have relative strangers flirting very physically and so on. I've never seen it occur because of perfume though. Not even Aventus :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by Evangeline View Post
    Which leads me to ask Kaelee, if perfume is just "one of those things that's not for commenting on" then why do so many people demand at least some projection and sillage from their fragrances? I would say if you don't welcome comments, then don't wear enough so that others can smell it, period. And conversely, for anyone who wants more comments, first make sure that others can smell it ...but this doesn't mean you have to go overboard. There's a big difference between having a presence and demanding everyone's attention.
    I wear it for myself personally and there are situations where I want people to smell it (going out for instance) and some instances where I couldn't care less...but really, I want some projection/sillage so that I personally can smell it. Me and my boyfriend are about the only people I wear perfume FOR.

    Other people may wear it for entirely different reasons (and I assume they do) but I can't speak for them because I'm not them!

    I don't find comments unwelcome, just unusual. I don't go out expecting to be complimented on my perfume. I would be taken aback (but not offended) if someone were to comment. I don't feel comfortable commenting on it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Evangeline View Post
    Also, I comment on others' fragrances all the time, and to the best of my knowledge it's always been met with genuine pleasure ...
    Yes, I do too (I'm American, by the way). On a few occasions the people I've complimented (English) turned a bit red, but didn't seem unhappy that I asked about their fragrances. Of course, there are different ways of approaching these things, and I guess it's possible that you could come off as creepy when you intend to be friendly, but luckily I don't think that's happened to me!

    And like most threads, this one demonstrates the danger of extrapolating from one's own experience and assuming everyone feels the same about things.
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    I've lived in the US, France, the Middle East and here in England, and I have never, ever been complimented on anything at all by a stranger! Neither would I compliment a stranger on anything at all, including perfume. I'm English (from the south), and it would just feel plain rude to comment in this way, even to pay a compliment.
    And the people are very friendly where I live now (East Anglia), generally smiling at strangers in the countryside and saying hello, but no personal remarks, ever!
    I was told as a child that you never make a personal remark to someone you don't know, and so, I imagine, were most of my fellow Brits. It would be felt as intrusive, by me or by the hypothetical stranger I might compliment - that was just how I was brought up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redrose View Post
    I've lived in the US, France, the Middle East and here in England, and I have never, ever been complimented on anything at all by a stranger! Neither would I compliment a stranger on anything at all, including perfume. I'm English (from the south), and it would just feel plain rude to comment in this way, even to pay a compliment.
    And the people are very friendly where I live now (East Anglia), generally smiling at strangers in the countryside and saying hello, but no personal remarks, ever!
    I was told as a child that you never make a personal remark to someone you don't know, and so, I imagine, were most of my fellow Brits. It would be felt as intrusive, by me or by the hypothetical stranger I might compliment - that was just how I was brought up.
    Interesting ...I thought this was more common a century ago, but it really shouldn't surprise me - I know lots of people who just love having a reason to be offended, even if something was said with genuine kindness. But it still reminds me of A Room With a View, written in 1908, when Lucy is pointing out to Charlotte that Mr. Emerson meant to be kind ...but all that seems to matter is how indelicately he made his sincere and generous offer. People really haven't changed much, but I'm always glad for the various "Mr. Emersons" I run into throughout my day, and there are lots of them around here ...I suppose I'm a bit of a "Mr. Emerson" myself!
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    To be honest I got 4 or 5 compliments but only on one fragrance - the one I really like, bit it's not considered to be a great one with perfume nuts...

    Armani Mania (women) - people complimented, people asked what it is, and people asked how much it costs to buy for their wives!

    Since I started wearing Hermes, Chanel and Guerlain - no compliments at all

    So, maybe fragrances you wear are somewhat too refined for the common public you come across?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Possum-Pie View Post
    I have gotten compliments from clients, generally asking if I am wearing "Axe" which is a $3 body spray when I am wearing a $200 Niche!!
    That would really piss me off if that happened to me

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    I don't think it's just in the UK. I've lived in Japan, UK, Middle East, East Africa and Spain but I've never received compliments on perfumes by a total stranger anywhere. From friends & acquaintances, yes. In some occasions, I got compliments from people working at the shops I happened to be in but at least they recognised me from my previous visits. I remember, on several occasions, strangers at cafes & shops commented on my handbag and asked me where I got it from though... I guess perfumes are more personal.

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