After a year plus of admittedly obsessive collecting, I've suddenly slowed to a halt. I've probably got 120+ bottles and twice as many decants and samples, which means A) I've been buying multiple bottles and samples every week in this time period [95% via eBay] and B) I have much much more juice than I could use in two lifetimes. I've recognized the absurdity in this for a while, but it's only now that I reached the point when I really wanted to stop, and was able to do so without really stressing about it.
In the past month I've halted my collecting. I'm now planning to get rid of a fair portion of what I've accumulated, because I just don't need it. I can't exactly pin down what caused this shift, but for me it's a combination of:
1. Realizing how much money I've spent on this hobby, and resolving to save much more moving forward;
2. Not visiting Basenotes every day;
3. Getting re-inspired by my other longer-running passions (music and art) and shifting my focus back to these, and;
4. Recognizing that, with every bottle I got, I felt a stronger charge to get my hands on the next one--psychologically, I think collecting is often more about what you don't have than what you do have
Don't get me wrong, I'm still fascinated by scent, and I will enjoy many of my frags for years to come. I'm not getting rid of my favorite bottles, I'm just learning to appreciate them for what they are, and to enjoy them in the moments that I'm wearing them. And I have come to appreciate that in a short time I've amassed a formidable collection, but enough is enough.
I didn't think I had a problem, and as many have pointed out, there are plenty of worse ways to burn through money. Nonetheless, I feel so much relief in cutting back and letting go.
Yeah, if you take a step back for a second, it's easy to see how fixated we can become in the littlest things.
I think that colognes are in some ways like women. There are a lot of really good ones, but we as people are insatiable, and eventually it's time to settle down.
I admire the OP for his willpower. Unfortunately I haven't been able to take that important step yet. Some day.
Your point speaks to a real temptation, but given that there are tens of thousands of frags out there, many discontinued, and of course new ones launched every day, I accept that, no matter what I do, I'll miss out on the vast majority of them. Perhaps there are a few out there that I would love more than any I've yet experienced, and I'll never sample them. Whether I try one new scent a year or smell a new one every day, I'll never catch up.
The funny thing is, I'm still discovering "new" scents among the scads of perfumes I've already accumulated. Samples I tested once and forgot about, or things that came in a lot that I completely overlooked. It reminds me of when I'm at a bar, and the DJ spins some song that blows my mind, and when I find out what it is, I realize that I already have that record, and just never listened to it attentively, or all the way through.
This is so true, I can not count how many times BN trigger me to desire buying more scents.2. Not visiting Basenotes every day
Surprisingly, almost everytime I find any scent interesting and want to know more about it, there are threads about it magically appear on 1st page of the forum --last time it were Carnal Flowers & Portrait of a Lady.
By the way, I really need to stop buying after I return from my vacation in Paris --I need to buy something from Paris since I do not think I would be able to go there again anytime soon-- because my bank account for daily expenditure is running low already --I still have around 13,*** USD left in my Long-term deposits account so I still have some emergency money.
***My favourite from my collection***
-------- Amouage: Tribute Attar, Jubilation XXV, GoldMan
------ Serge Lutens: Chêne, Tubéreuse Criminell, Ambre Sultan
-------- Les Exclusifs de Chanel: Sycamore, Coromandel
------ Tom Ford Private Blend: Noir de Noir, Tobacco Vanille
------- Hermès: Terre D'Hermès Parfum, Ambre Narguilé
------ EDP Frederic Malle: Carnal Flower
-------- Neela Vermire Creations: Trayee
------ Parfum MDCI: Invasion Barbare
My "recovery", if it may be called like this, advances in small steps. Sure, I still enjoy my fragrance hobby, as much as I still enjoy testing and purchasing fragrances - but, while not being obsessively hooked on sales/special offers, I only buy the special offers on the scents I truly enjoy: it has at least two advantages. On one hand, I don't get stuck with fragrances I don't want or I don't fully enjoy, just because they were affordable, on the other hand, I get some, if not all or most of my favorites at a good price-quality ratio.
Good for you! At least you come to grips that you are a fragaholic. While the rest of us still have to have our fix. Just keeps calling our name...
Congratulations on starting a recovery BenDayDot
I've only got as far as the understanding that I like stuff, and that finding more of the right stuff (especially at the price I can afford) is really exciting.
Sadly, I collect two very expensive things- fragrances and minerals. I've even found myself selling some of the minerals in order to afford more fragrances (you can buy quite a lot with decent rough diamonds).
I need to work on living with less stuff and liking stuff less.
For me, it is the thrill of a "good deal" When I bought my Amouage Tribute Attar, It was $600 dollars most places, when I finally saw it on a webstore I trusted for $499, I HAD to buy it. I couldn't afford it...but the "good deal" was too good to pass up.
Were u pleased with it? Red or white box?
Sounds like you're a 'normal' scent-fiend to me, join the fragrance abusers, but maybe set a budget
Look at it this way....instead of buying, your new thrill and obsession can be selling the stuff you have acquired. With each bottle sold, you'll feel better and better.
Basenotes sales: CREEDs (Vintage Tabarome, Erolfa and Neroli Sauvage), By Kilian Straight to Heaven, Atelier Cologne Pomelo Paradis & Vetiver Fatal, Bond No. 9 Hamptons, Tiffany for Men mini, 17 Cuba Paris fragrances, L'Essence de Cerruti, Reyane Insurrection, numerous popular SAMPLES! http://www.basenotes.net/threads/419...Fatal-Tiffany!
Offsite sales: CREEDs (Vintage Tabarome, Erolfa, Neroli Sauvage), By Kilian Straight to Heaven & Prelude to Love, Tom Ford Noir de Noir, Atelier Cologne Pomelo Paradis & Vetiver Fatal, Bond No. 9 Hamptons, Tiffany for Men mini, 17 Cuba Paris fragrances, L'Essence de Cerruti, Reyane Insurrection, numerous popular SAMPLES! http://flacon.ambaric.net/viewtopic.php?t=260 and http://flacon.ambaric.net/viewtopic.php?t=626
Think u need to check out 'off topic' section maybe?