I'm not only a novice with oudh, but female too & people where I live don't wear it either
However, Rose is often used in mixes and layers well - as a top note it takes the initial 'edge' off the oudh - do you have anything rosy? Or citrus ?
I recently found a lovely oudh mix which used lavender & vanilla.
I'm not the best person to help you as I don't know too many male frags. to start with, but I'm sure that others will be able to help you more.
After a while, you may find that you can wear it neat, although I will probably not reach that stage with the Indian stuff