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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    What else u would do with the money?
    I bought my car fro $ 13000 brand new,
    While my colleagues in same job position
    spend on average $ 34000 upwards,
    The difference being more than $20000.
    My collection is currently worth about $25 k
    Now, lets do the Math:
    I own one car, they own one.
    But, I own more than 200 bottles, they only own a few.
    I have acquired very rich knowledge in perfumes, while they have none.
    I got to know wonderful people ( perfumistas and artists are the most nice people in my opinion)
    The odds say that I have lost nothing.
    I used to be just like u, and what i did is
    to commit myself to monthly savings,
    Believe it or not, my savings now are in excess of $100k (m an employee by the way, by no means rich by the money standard)
    Only thing though i feel guilty about is when I think
    how much i am spending on myself compared to my wife and family.
    I have no intention of cutting this out!

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    My ulcers cut off my other more obsessive & prob more expensive hobby - collecting Scotch Whiskey.

    So with some restraint I apply nowadays, things are under control on the fragrance part...
    Currently wearing: Vétiver by Christian Dior

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    No I have never felt guilty. I think it is because I hold a strict budget every month for my expenses, and allot myself a certain amount for personal use, I can spend it however I like (my wife gets the same). That way when we spend money on unnecessary things it is controlled, budgeted for and guilt free. I know many people who spend way more money than me on cars, gadgets, alcohol etc so I have no problem spending my money on what I like, which is most often fragrances and photography gear.

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    It's healthy and important to feel guilty. Without guilt, a big chunk of what makes us human is lost.

    For me personally, I had the advantage of going through a poor phase with my family growing up. It helps put things in perspective. For $100, you can transform someone's life from a gloomy dark suffocating place into a wonderful shiny haven. This is not an exaggeration.

    This could be why I'm picky with my perfume purchases. I currently own 7 bottles and will probably add no more than 2. Sometimes it's good to include a few minimalist colognes (few notes) so you can mix/layer them. That way you'll be able to achieve more scents than the number of bottles in your posession.

    Don't feel bad about being guilty. It's noble and beautiful.

    JC

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    Don't think I do. Maybe guilty about not weeding out the perfumes that are not completely great but just good/fun at times, but I know I already/can always do that/sell them later, once I tire of them. I think I may feel guilty about not having any excesses, not buying even better, even more expensive niche. Then again, it's hard to say, I was brought up Catholic so there's always a general feeling of guilt :-p.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    at over 300 yes i do at times but then i just start buying samples and cheap gems..

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    I have occasionally felt guilty, but then I remind myself that I am spending within my budget, all my needs are being met, and it's fine to splurge on some wants. I have loved perfume all my life, I have a large collection amassed over many years, and I enjoy it every day.

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    I've never lost a minute's sleep over it. One man's "excesses" are another man's hobby. I love the variety that collecting permits.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    Yes, so I'm pretty much done with adding to the collection. I allow myself an occasional surgical strike for something great. I think that my exposure to a broad list of names has educated me and made me more sure of what I like. And I think that a certain amount of hoarding for the future is prudent. But one, I believe, does reach a point of diminishing returns and that one extra bottle isn't going to thrill me like the early ones did.

    It's also a question of allocating resources. I still need to buy ties and shoes. I have finite resources and I like new ties and shoes, too. I also need to keep within limits so that I'm not prevented from being generous with others.
    Currently wearing: Agar Attar by Agar Aura

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    Yes, but the guilt is short lived.

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    Never guilty about the harmless pleasure of scent, because I never spend money for perfume which was allocated for necessities.

    Fragrances come and fragrances go in this house...they do not just pile up endlessly. There are space limitations, and my tastes change.



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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    I believe that if it truly makes you happy, and you are not over doing it with $$$$, then enjoy this wonderful hobby. Fragrances can be so uplifting on a bad day. They are a glorious part of my life.

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    Yes, I feel guilty whenever I go excessively fragrance-less. If I wear only one fragrance during the day I feel like I'm letting life pass me by. Life is too precious and short to go around wearing only the wisps of one stingy fragrance application. Go ahead, have another shot. You don't want to be 99 years old in the rest home saying, "Gee, I sure wish I would have. . ." This is not a fragrant dress rehearsal, you know.

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    It's your money brosky, do what you want with it. I personally plan on having 30 bottles that i love and will actually wear.
    ANDERSON = GOAT

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    No, I don't ever feel guilty. Have other hobbies to spend money on - surfboards and bass guitars, which are even more "necessary" to my lifestyle. I only get frags when there is some occasion (birthday, holiday) and my wife enjoys buying for me. Or if I have some monetary windfall, bonus, etc. When money was tight over the last six months it was easier to just stay away from here and focus on other things. It's much fresher to come back to BN if you do that from time to time.

    Guilt about the collection I have that I will never finish? No, my 14 year old will enjoy it. He's already plowing through my last bottles of Edition Blanche and GPH I. I have not told him I backed up both bottles at Sephora last year. He is starting to sniff around the Amouage bottles though...

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    for swap/sale:



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    Traces of addictive personality + good taste makes it hard to make right decisions. I get tons of samples, live with them for a few days and see if I really need that juice in my life 99% of the time I get bored after few tries or instantly know it is not for me.
    Having tons of bottles around you is no fun. Having few you really love is a great wealth.

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    Thoughtful and very nicely put.


    oops. @outline.
    Last edited by Wheatstraw2; 23rd April 2013 at 02:47 AM. Reason: didn't reply w quote
    Currently wearing: Agar Attar by Agar Aura

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    Quote Originally Posted by hedonist222 View Post
    inspiring!

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    Default Re: Do you ever feel "guilty" for your excesses?

    YES but I find myself choosing better fragrances when I buy Niche which lessens the guilt. As long as you don't buy junk and you actually use the fragrances then it isn't a waste.

    The money I have wasted on junk products makes me feel really uncomfortable but I do give them away to people or second hand stores...a form of charity perhaps ?

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    I'd feel guilty if I had a ton of bottles lying around and I never used them. I also try to hold myself back from constantly purchasing by establishing discipline. I know that if I just buy buy buy, I'd a) get burnt out & lose passion for this hobby and b) would feel guilty because I'd have spent my hard earned money for bottles that I'd barely be using.

    As others have mentioned, purchasing samples is a great way around feeling guilty. I view it like a nicotine patch. I'd be spending just a fraction as I would had I gotten the full bottle, and I'd be able to try much more fragrances. That way, I can make a very informed decision once I'm ready to pull the trigger on buying the full bottle.

    Also, I usually try to wait a while after buying full bottles, so that I can enjoy my purchases before buying again.

    So to answer the OP's question, I used to feel guilty, but not anymore based on how I now approach this hobby.
    Last edited by CaliDude; 23rd April 2013 at 03:15 AM.

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    Yes! This feeling is only growing recently...I'm trying to limit my collection and I only have 11 bottles, from which 2 I'm trying to sell now and 2 I'll be giving away soon(As soon as I find somebody that wants them).
    Anyway, I'll buy 4 more bottles soon too. Shit! I need to stop this.

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    I think it was about 12-14 months ago that I started collecting. At the time I had 4 bottles. CK Shock, Joop Homme, CK One and Burberry Touch. I didn't know what niche perfumery was. I didn't know what Vetiver smelt like. I was on a bodybuilding website and fancied a new perfume so just asked in the general section and someone replied 'Creed'. I thought Creed was the name of the perfume and looked everywhere (ok, boots and the local pharmacy!) but couldn't find it. It was then that I did an online search and found basenotes.....the rest is history.

    12 months and probably a few thousand pounds later and my collection is 50 bottles. I did start to become a little worried a few months back that I wouldn't be able to stop but have found actually that things have naturally slowed down. At the beginning I was watching endless 'top 10' lists on youtube and hence the initial splurge. I would now consider that i have a very good base of perfume (designer and niche) and will now only add 1 to 2 bottles per season which is well within my budget. The problem is space so I will be getting rid of scents that are now redundant. (For example, whilst Love and Luck is a cheaper alternative, I own Creed MI and so no longer really need it). Same thing with Dior Homme Sport, I now have aqua fahrenheit which to me does the same job but is better. So one thing I've learned going forward is not to repeat too much of my collection and when i do buy something new to make sure it is different to what i already have.
    Currently wearing: Terre d'Hermès by Hermès

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    Quote Originally Posted by senore01 View Post
    I believe that if it truly makes you happy, and you are not over doing it with $$$$, then enjoy this wonderful hobby. Fragrances can be so uplifting on a bad day. They are a glorious part of my life.
    I tend to agree with this. As long as you are not getting into debt over it. If it is truly making you unhappy and riddled with guilt you need to make a 'positive' move.

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    Fragrances make me happy.

    I think most men have hobbies of some kind that aren't exactly a "good way to spend money" - cars, boats, etc. Frags are a lot cheaper!

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    I just sold off about 5 bottles to buy a new suit or two. So, they're really a commodity for me to swap, enjoy or sell. I'm not that attached to my collection, I'm at a low point right now of about 25 full size bottles (1 OZ up to 4 OZ). Like someone said above, scents come and go in my house, I use 'em and lose 'em. But I do get immense pleasure from my collection. It's a luxury I could live without, but I'm glad I don't have to.

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