2 part question
1) Do you come across good smelling strangers?
2) If so, do you compliment them?
I've come across some good smelling people, but I rarely give a compliment. I usually only compliment how my friends smell.
Last edited by Flatbush Ave; 16th March 2014 at 10:01 PM.
I only ever compliment women (the opposite sex) but do it often. People love to hear that they smell good in the same sense as people like to be told they look good. Women love these compliments, especially if its a long time after they applied, they tend to be very surprised that anyone can smell anything.
Rarely to a stranger and if so to the opposite sex.
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So you guys will compliment a woman on her fragrance, but never a man? Why not, don't men enjoy compliments too?
Never... but will make an exception if I ever smell Angel on a women.
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1) While not too frequently, yes
2) Much likelier for me to compliment someone I know, also because a fragrance related conversation (including more details about the name, the house etc. of a fragrance enjoyed, admired and/or complimented) comes more natural afterwards.
Never have. Probably never would.
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I havea few times, usually just keep it to myself.
If I can come up with a way to say it without coming across as weird, every time. I tend to give more compliments to other guys because most women think you're trying to hit on them if you compliment them. I think it's odd that there's a thread with over a million views about compliments and which scents get you the most, yet ppl are sheepish about giving them. Also complimenting a man on his fragrance won't turn you into a homosexual.
I've done it a few times. One was wearing Deisel Fuel for Life (which he confirmed after I guessed what it was, and then was shocked that I even knew the name or recognized the smell), and another wasn't wearing anything. Just deodorant and natural body aroma (not body ODOR). Other than that, not really. It took me quite a bit to make those comments, and I felt weird doing it. Most of the people I work with that I don't know all wear this roll-on white musk oil that smells terrible, and I've never had the courage to go the opposite direction and tell them they freaking reek.
I compliment both men and women, and both strangers and friends - I know I like to get compliments and I just figure everyone does at least now and then - have run across a couple of things I ended up buying because they smelled so good on someone else.
I almost never smell scent on anyone around me. It's a shame really. Would I say something? actually yes, I would particularly if it smelled 'niche-y' and I thought it could start an interesting conversation.
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I compliment anyone anytime I like their perfume. I chased down guy once, he was totally flattered. He said "thanks man, no one ever notices". It ended up being my first encounter with coromandel.
Everyone liked to be complimented
sadly, i rarely come across people who smell good enough to compliment--when i do, i will often compliment women--it is hard for a guy to compliment other guyd without it seeming wierd. sad but true!
I have come across a stranger who smelled good. And I complimented them if I could.
I was once came across a guy who wore Black Aoud and it suits him well. And another guy who wore Black to Black with just right amount, complimented.
There's so many guy who wears Creed, But I don't think they smells good on them so I pass,
I mostly compliment women because it's not so awkward... it's somehow like a man tell another man that he looks good. It feels gay for some reason. I'm not saying it's bad. But it's too awkward for me.
Can't do it. Even if I smell something on someone I could see myself wearing. I'm just too awkward.
Very rarely, and almost always when I want to know what the fragrance is, so I can wear it myself.
2-even more rare
But co workers and friends I make an effort to let them know I notice and appreciate it
I am always on the verge but people are so in a hurry these days; you have to mug them to say something unsolicited. The last time I wanted to comment I was in the lift, and the woman was also attractive. She smelt great, unusual, definitely niche. But my wife was there so I thought, nah! this will not come out right. Needless to say, I haven't seen her again, damn it! But I will comment on male or female if I think I can do it well.
The thing that I find interesting here is that on Basenotes you hear so many people asking "what gets the best compliments". People even mention this in their reviews for crying out loud.
But then some of those same people, don't want to compliment someone else?
When the hell did people get so scared of human interaction? Or like someone else said "awkward".
That's seriously depressing.
1. Very rarely.
2. Depends on the setting. Not at work, but would in a social setting.
Aphexacid, I agree, man. I don't often smell fragrances that make me want to give a compliment, but when I do smell something nice and someone is in my proximity, I'll pay a compliment whether it's a man or woman. Most men and women I've complimented about a fragrance are happy to be noticed and find it flattering. I don't think this needs to be over thought to the point of worrying about it seeming gay, like your hitting on a woman, awkward, etc. But I'm one of those people who makes small talk with strangers at the store, baristas, people at the gas station, etc.
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Very rarely. The problem with Copenhagen is, that when I ever smell a fragrance on other people, it is almost always one I hate so much that my blood boils (I am looking at you, One Million!!!), and they usually wear tons of it (I am looking at you again, One Million!!!!!!!!). Danes generally have very poor and uniform taste in fragrance (they are practically drones, especially the guys). Once in a while though, I smell something good and perfectly dosed. It is just difficult to find the person wearing it, as the choking clouds of One Million blind both nose and eyes.
Danes are quite reserved as well, and complete strangers would think you were some kind of psycho, if you complemented them or at least think you were some sleezeball hitting on them.
I can't remember the last time I smelt a good fragrance on a guy. I usually only smell something obnoxious (over applied 1 Million or Le Male, mainly).
I do complement women though. "I like your perfume, what is it?" followed quickly by "I will have to see if my wife likes it as much as I do".
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I only compliment friends and relatives, who mainly wear gifts or cast-offs from me.
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Sure. Usually women and usually spontaneously. It's not something I think about but if someone suddenly smells good I might make a comment. I don't think I'd have a problem complimenting a guy, but I just very rarely come across a guy that smells good, or I don't think about it.
But I have to work on accepting compliments more graciously. When someone tells me I smell good, my initial reaction is always "oh, do I have too much on? It's not too strong, is it?" The next time someone says something I'm just going to say "thank you" and move on.
EDIT: Just re-read the thread title and realized I missed the word "stranger's" the first time around. So in that case, never.
Last edited by Buysblind; 17th March 2014 at 05:10 PM.
Never. Unless it's a close friend and I'd only be doing it to satisfy my own ego by correctly guessing the frag
Never, although I often think I should. Case in point, the woman sat next to me on the train this morning was wearing Millesime Imperial. I'm sure of it. It was radiating off her as well which made for a pleasant journey. I would like to have paid a much deserved compliment but didn't probably down to awkward British social conventions.
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I get them all the time when wearing Lelabo's Santal 33 or Tom Ford's Noir de Noir. The reactions usually are " what's the lovely / intense perfume you are wearing ?"
If I recognize a scent that I admire on another, I don't compliment but I use to compliment but not no more I just chuckle : if I intensely admire a scent that I don't recognize I do compliment for the sake knowledge ...who doesn't honestly like a compliment and if the opportunity and right situation arises ..then I will compliment as I'm not a selfish person ; btw an honest compliment could make some ones day brighter, I hope so
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Only one time I can recall, and it ended up having an interesting back story. But to make a long story short, I was in the Sky Club at JFK, and there was a young man sitting next to me who turned out to be a Saudi living in Paris. I don't recall what he was wearing now, but it was terrific.
Never. I don't smell much that is impressive, or on the street I can't tell where it is coming from, so I keep my compliments for those I'm on hugging terms with.
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If I like how they smell I will. With women I usually do because I want to know the name of what they are wearing and with men same thing, or yes sometimes to "hit" on them and break the ice. Or because they just smell good and it's nice to let them know, it probably makes their day a little better. Different reasons.
I don't mind getting compliments from either sex as long as it's respectful.
Oh and I do think its a lil weird for a guy to compliment another guy on how good he smells, especially if they do it just to compliment them and not to ask the name of fragrance they are wearing. Maybe it's silly but that's what I honestly think.
Last edited by Lexxxy; 17th March 2014 at 11:38 PM.
2) Usually I just ask what it is. If I liked the scent, I would probably compliment the fragrance itself, "That is a great scent." rather than "You smell great." For me, that avoids the whole awkwardness of the compliment in cases where either a person is embarrassed to be complimented or misconstrues the compliment as a come on.
Most recently a male airline steward walked down the aisle and I smelled a nice, dry cologne that was obviously quality. I found myself wondering how long ago he applied, what it was, and if he could smell it himself (wasn't too powerful, but definitely had sillage).
Before that, I noticed a man I work with was wearing a quite sweet aquatic, also enjoyable. I made a mental note but didn't say anything. I work in an environment where fragrances are a no-no, so this was why it was notable.
Before that, a man I work with who is also a friend and who is quite sophisticated in his personal style and grooming was wearing a woodsy cologne when he met me for dinner. He had obviously recently sprayed as it was quite strong. I didn't say anything at the time. I assumed it was some ultra expensive niche fragrance. Weeks later, fragrance came up in conversation I told him I noticed him wearing cologne and asked what it was. It was actually A&F Woods, the only thing he likes to wear.
So apparently, my detect to compliment ratio is 0/3 initially and 1/3 with a long delay...
I am way too shy for that s**t lol. The closest I'll ever come is telling someone that they smell nice, but I'll pretty much never say "hey, that (insert fragrance name) smells really good on you".
1)Yes! I won't chase them on the street, but if we're waiting on the footpath or in an elevator or a coffee queue together, I'll say "I like your perfume, what is it?" (if I'm saying that to a guy, I'll change "perfume" to "cologne" or "scent".)
2) Whenever I smell something I like? Which, to be honest, isn't that often. People don't wear scent to work these days, and guys rarely wear scent.
Although I did have one experience with the secretary of the company I work for this week. I commented on her perfume, she told me that it was Clinique Elixir Aromatique and then I looked it up and realised that it was a chypre. OF COURSE I liked it. My preference for chypres is strong!
don't get compliments from strangers, i would not compliment a stranger!
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Once in a while.
It's pretty rare, but if I smell something good on someone regardless of gender, I will compliment them if the occasion is right. TPO!
If its a guy it would have to be something I never smelled before,its way easier to compliment a woman,it just is.
Every now and then, but it's usually in a restaurant, an elevator or jiu-jitsu class (being that close to sweaty people makes me want encourage the use of fragrance).
I used to but my friends told me that they themselves don't mind it, but others might (their nice way of telling me most people think I'm weird)
My husband says he smelled something he liked on a stranger. I say- Why didn't you ask her what it was? I'd really like to know. (Me, that is).
Only to girls. Never to guys including my friends. If my friends smells bad I just tell them 'YOU STINK'.
I've complimented 3 guys since this post. I think the easiest way to compliment someone is to flat guess what they're wearing. Instead of just saying "You smell good," that would seem awkward.
I give compliments because as everyone knows on BN, I love getting them....I don't have any problem walking up to someone, male or female, and saying they smell great....Usually, I ask what they are wearing because I want to get that same fragrance so perhaps a little selfishness is involved too...lol...
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If it smells good I ask them what it is. If it's a woman wearing some exhilarating floral, or Mitsouko, vintage Cabochard, stuff like that, I tell them emphatically how great it is then allow my world to expand. Few things are better than smelling great perfume on a provocative woman with some serious attitude.
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A stranger? Wow...can't remember if I have. That's actually surprising to me. I may have asked a Nordie's employee once.