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    Default As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    I sampled a Tom Ford unisex scent and my wife and I both tried it.
    She said, "oh, you could buy one bottle and we will share it."
    I said " Uh.....no.

    I don't think that is how it should work. Am I wrong here?
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Lol

    What would you do if she also loves to wear your masculine scents?

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    You are missing out on some amazing scents, then.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    As a man, or any other person with an ounce of confidence, you would wear whatever you want.

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    Vent Vert by Balmain, as I write these words. It is a scent that Marlon Brando often wore. It’s a woman’s perfume, but Marlon often used women’s perfumes, and this was his favorite.............

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Quote Originally Posted by shadesofbleu View Post
    You are missing out on some amazing scents, then.
    +1

    It's really up to you to decide if it's right or wrong for you to wear something unisex, none of us can make that call for you. If you're asking whether it's right or wrong to share something with your wife, I'd say the same thing.

    Fine if you choose that, you'd be depriving yourself of some great stuff. I certainly don't pay attention to such labels (as I'm sure many here don't) but instead just sniff and make up my mind. There are some things marketed as feminine that lots of guys wear - Sahara Noir being a common example.

    If you're worried about wearing something because of the label, try to get over it.

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Quote Originally Posted by Cigar Guy View Post
    I sampled a Tom Ford unisex scent and my wife and I both tried it.
    She said, "oh, you could buy one bottle and we will share it."
    I said " Uh.....no.

    I don't think that is how it should work. Am I wrong here?
    You have to do what makes you feel comfortable. I see nothing wrong with that.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Everything is a unisex scent....

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    I hear ya! When I first started collecting scents, I couldn't have ever imagined wearing "feminine" or "unisex" fragrances either! Fast forward a few years and the likes of Annick Goutal and Serge Lutens wound up on my doorstep and all that changed

    I found that as my interest and involvement in this hobby progressed, so did my preferences. I enjoy my vintage hairy-chested masculine "power bombs," but have also have an affinity for fragrances with blurred gender lines.

    As an aside, sampling is key! I've found that "unisex" and "feminine" fragrances often wear much differently on my skin than they smell on a tester strip due to skin chemistry.

    With that said, try to remain open-minded, but at the end of the day, stick with what works for you
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Quote Originally Posted by Cigar Guy View Post
    I sampled a Tom Ford unisex scent and my wife and I both tried it.
    She said, "oh, you could buy one bottle and we will share it."
    I said " Uh.....no.

    I don't think that is how it should work. Am I wrong here?
    You're not wrong. You can go straight to feminine fragrances if you want.

    I kid.

    You should get yourself in some Antaeus.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bavard View Post
    You're not wrong. You can go straight to feminine fragrances if you want.

    I kid.

    You should get yourself in some Antaeus.
    I actually LOL'd at this!!!

    And yes, Antaeus is a great fragrance that is worth looking into!
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Wear what makes you happy.

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Women... they're tricky but irresistible creatures... wise up my friend... next she'll ask you to do the cooking and wear her bras...

    Follow Bavard's advice and douse yourself on some Antaeus... and be always naked at home, except for your "calzoncillos"...
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Only chickens get canonized by supposed gender distinctions for perfumes.

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Quote Originally Posted by Cigar Guy View Post
    I don't think that is how it should work. Am I wrong here?
    Are you wrong? Well . . . Yes, you are wrong.

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    In general, I do not believe fragrances are categorically either for men or for women. I have several unisex fragrances in my wardrobe, and I love them. My two favourites are Luten's Chergui and Cuir Mauresque. These smell wonderful on both men and women in my opinion. They are simply beautiful fragrances.

    Having said this, there are some fragrances marketed as unisex that I think lean toward the masculine end of the spectrum due to their notes, e.g. Lutens Muscs Kublai Khan. Then, there are some fragrances marketed to women that I also think lean toward the masculine end of the spectrum, e.g. CHANEL Sycomore. I could not wear either of these. They do not feel "right" on me. The upshot is I will wear whatever I feel comfortable wearing, but I would not allow marketers to tell me what are those fragrances. My nose decides for itself. For example, I have loved British Sterling and English Leather for decades and have no problem wearing either one, and this was long before I became seriously interested in perfume.

    My best advice is to have an open mind and let your nose decide. If you like it, and if you believe it smells good on you, then wear it and be damned the "unisex" and "women's" labels. "Real men" wear what they enjoy. They also eat quiche.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Me and my partner share a few scents and I think it's great - since they wear differently on him than on me its 2 for the price of one.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    I just wouldn't want to smell the same as my wife. Unisex/feminine/masculine or whatever anyone cares to categorize fragrances in, plain and simple, just don't want to smell the same!

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Quote Originally Posted by Civil to strangers View Post
    Me and my partner share a few scents and I think it's great - since they wear differently on him than on me its 2 for the price of one.
    +1
    Most of my partner's perfumes I wear regularly. Most everything these days is marketed Unisex though.
    Most of my 80's scents that were marketed to men, she declines to wear. I've come to realize the vast majority of scents are pleasant on everyone and nose different when used by the opposite sex.
    That being said, if you are really worried about it, take the advice of Bavard and Rulopbo. Those guys will keep you on the straight and narrow.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Heck yeah! You need to get one of those super masculine scents in super masculine bottles, like Le Male!

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Don't knock it 'til you've tried it.

    Agreeing with many others here; you are seriously missing out. As a good starting point, just go into a store & try SJP's Stash, & tell me that a man can't wear it.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Quote Originally Posted by Cigar Guy View Post
    I sampled a Tom Ford unisex scent and my wife and I both tried it.
    She said, "oh, you could buy one bottle and we will share it."
    I said " Uh.....no.

    I don't think that is how it should work. Am I wrong here?
    I agree. You need to buy TWO Tom Ford unisex scents. The one that you like on you and that she likes, but she doesn't want to wear, you can call "masculine". The one that you both like, but she wants to wear and you don't, you call "feminine".

    Then come back here and tell us what you chose. We will inevitably tell you that you made great choices, because Tom Ford Private Collection scents are ALWAYS respected here. And we will either tell you that (1) you picked scents that are known to lean toward your genders, or (2) you picked scents that are opposite their generally perceived gender leanings, and people will marvel that a guy picked the lily fragrance and a woman picked a woody tobacco fragrance.

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    You don't have to. I don't think it will have a big impact on your life if you do or don't. Just wear what you enjoy and feel comfortable with.

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    Don't do it!

    Just DO NOT DO IT
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Was personally not in the same situation so far, possibly due to having the luck that most unisex fragrances so far tested, owned and worn are masculine and/or versatile enough (possibly both) to question their appropriateness either very little or not at all.
    Currently wearing: Zino Davidoff by Davidoff

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    I never look/care if something is "Marked" Man/Woman/Unisex. I go by whether I like it or not. I've smelled men's frags that I would never wear, and own a few "women's" frags b/c I like them. For me it's more of a note thing. I don't like floral notes on me much, except rose. I don't like fruit notes on me except citrus. Women's DO tend to lean more to those notes.
    As for sharing with my wife, she has tried to get me to wear "matching shirts" I absolutely refuse. I'd share a frag with her ONLY if she wasn't wearing it that day!
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    Quote Originally Posted by hednic View Post
    You have to do what makes you feel comfortable. I see nothing wrong with that.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    Quote Originally Posted by PalmBeach View Post
    Are you wrong? Well . . . Yes, you are wrong.
    How is he wrong? If he feels that it wouldn't work for him?

    Labelling any fragrance as 'unisex' is meaningless -- who makes that decision?

    My partner uses mine a lot - it doesn't worry me (there is a lot to choose from) -- it's not something that we have made a conscious decision about though

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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    As many have said - do what makes you feel comfortable. There are some amazing fragrances you'll miss though.

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    Something's not clear though - the problem is the scent itself or the fact that your wife said that you could share a bottle? 'Cause she could say that virtually for any scent.
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    Default Re: As a man, I just can't bring myself to wear a unisex scent....

    The sharing part is an aspect of this hobby that I enjoy quite a bit. Several of the things I bought for myself that are nominally masculine smell much better on her than me. Ambers, musks, and in particular L'Ombre Fauve have become shared fragrances.

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